spanking

[intrepidus6]

What do you all think of spanking kids?

[brookerosebud]

my grandmother taught me with a switch. oh, it was bad. sometimes REALY bad, but in retrospect, i deserved what i got, and learned from it too; not to mention the prevention of SERIOUS mistakes i was going to make...

but i don't think a switch is the best method of spanking, lol

brooke

[birdgirl73]

I don't necessarily think it is child abuse, although I suspect it's easy for it to cross the line into abuse. I don't believe hitting/spanking of any kind is a good technique to use on children. We didn't use it on ours, and he's turned out fine.

There wasn't really an option for this belief.

[smokinbomb]

spanking is ok in some situations just remember the punnishment should fit the behavior you cant just hall off and wack them when ever they make a little to much noise or run thrue the house it should be reserved for serious punnishment

my 2 cents-Bomb

good question interpidus6

[JunkYard]

I've never had to spank my child, but I think it can be effective, but only if done in rare circumstances. The sock factor is what seals the deal, lol! If they're accustomed to it, it doesn't mean squatt in my opinion.. ..


Junk~

[geonagual]

I have spanked my daughters twice in thier lifetimes. They are 11 and 14. It was about 5 years ago. Both of them. Both times was over the same thing. I made it a huge production both times. I had warned them that it could happen many times. All other means had failed. I made the process take about 20 minutes. I was not mad at all. The spanking was the same thing everytime. 2 swift smacks to their rear. Not super hard but enough to make them feel it. You would never guess what it was over, some people may think it is stupid. But I felt was an emergency. It is because they were not brushing their teeth. I see so many people that do not take care of their teeth. Rotten teeth are terrible. You only get one set. All that stuff. Plus, both are the most beutiful (sp?) girls in the world. Now, 5 years later. I never have to check if they have brushed. They have the whitest, prettiest teeth. I am sure I will never spank them again.

I think people that slap or whip their kids out of anger are committing child abuse.
I was whipped with a belt, switch and a whole bunch of other stuff growing up. I know how that feels and the anamocity (sp) that it breeds.

[Skink]

Well I thinks it's a lot better than being coldcocked like I was...

[Matt the Funk]

I used to get spanked and shit, occasionally beat and hit. Nothing that bad though. That shit never really worked with me though, i'd just come back for more and rebel. I don't know why, but that is just how I am, and always have been. But i'm sure in some cases with some children it is effective.

[five0addict]

anyone hear about that law in sac. making spanking a child under 3 a crime punishable by a YEAR in jail?!

spanking is a pycolgical punishment more than anything. definetly works.
the snap of a belt scared me straight!

[hewhispers]

Here are my 2 cents.

I think some parents go to that "tool" a bit too quickly and chances are they were hit when they were children. (we teach what we were taught)

I think its good for shock value when used sparingly but when it becomes overused it becomes useless and detrimental.

I am embarrassed when parents do it in public.
I wonder if it is because it happened to me as a child (but I dont really recall that)

[kiwi]

;) There is a huge diff between spanking your child and beating them, yes I beleive that sometimes a spanking is what is needed but there are other options that shud be tried frist. Some parents go way over board and end up beating the shit outta their kids which is something I cannot and will not tolerate..... :confused:

[Gatekeeper777]

the line between spanking and abuse is in the hash marks.

[Pipe Dreams]

I think if used for the right things, spanking could be effective. My parents brought me up being spanked. If I fucked up, I got my ass beat, plain and simple. But I remember on numberous occasions I could read my dads name bruised on my skin from mid back down to me knees.

[Skink]

I absofukenlutely hate when I see parents screamimg and dragging little kids by the arm... it takes all I have to not floor them!!!

[Frivolous248]

I saw "spanking" in the sexuality forum and thought it was something totally different...

I think theres more effective ways of punishing children. But if spanking works, then go for it. However, some kids won't let physical punishment stop them from getting into trouble...

[slipknotpsycho]

generally, i think everythying should be done verbally... like instead of swatting your child for doing something you don't want them to do, you give a firm NO... works for me anyways....

however, in extreme circumstances, sometimes it's needed.... but only in extreme circumstances... i'd say when every other 'punishment' has failed or they refuse it (say you sit them on the couch and they have to stay there but they get off anyways) sometimes i guess you need to show your child there are worse punishments then the first ones you hand down.

[Psycho4Bud]

I'd rather spank my kids asses when their young than to have a 350 pound dude spanking them behind bars when their grown.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[brookerosebud]

I'd rather spank my kids asses when their young than to have a 350 pound dude spanking them behind bars when their grown.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

wow, that realy hit home base for me... good analogy, i don't have any children, but i agree with your sentiments...instant rep :thumbsup:

[brookerosebud]

*exasperated sigh* sorry p4b, i gotta spread some rep first...

[intrepidus6]

The reason I ask is because when I was younger I was spanked maybe 5 times total. I think it would have been better if my parents had spanked me a little more than that.

[Psycho4Bud]

*exasperated sigh* sorry p4b, i gotta spread some rep first...

LOL.....no problem. With my boy.....the spankings pretty much ended at the age of 5. Seems like there is a bit more to reason with after that age. Before that.....LOL.....it's like the only way they know that the burner hurts is AFTER they touch it. Don't matter how much you said, they HAD to test it on their own. A bit of pain to the ass works just as well in situations pre-5.

Then all is well till the teen years. I told mine that when he felt he was big enough to make his own rules and if he was under legal age we'd step it out in the backyard and see who "the man of the house" was. LOL.....he only tested me out once at the age of 17. I didn't hurt him or leave any bruises but he was well aware that I spared him. Before stating how harsh I was I'd like to point out that his privs were a hell of alot more liberal than 99% of his friends. Rewards for good deeds go hand in hand also.

Parenting is a hard job with hard decisions. It would be real easy to look away or play the Dr. Spock and give out candy and kisses. When they reach adult status they have take orders either from college teachers on their own or employers. The successfull ones aren't spoiled brats that always got their way. When an authority figure states what to do, it's done without the attitude.........THIS is linked back to what they were taught as a youth.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[napolitana869]

I wouldnt call it abuse but it's also not the best tool to teach with. If the kid did something really bad sometimes that seems like its the only option. You shouldnt be angry when you do it though.

[Mosiah]

I was spanked, it left me with emotional scars, it is abuse.

[Skink]

Verbal abuse hurts worse in the end...

[JunkYard]

I'll tell ya what worked on me (At least when my grandpa was concerned) This is the first time my grandpa ever got ill enough at us (The kids) to spank, but it certainly worked. This only happened 2-3 times at the most. My grandpa wasn't no joke, lol!

We were playing in my grandpa's 'tobacco' patch, lol! I guess the oldest of us was like 10. He (My grandpa) had told us many times to stay out of his garden, so the verbals had no effect apparently. Anyway we endend up destroying like three plants, and when my grandpa found out, he was furious.

At first he sat us down calmly and told us what he was going to do to us for disobeying him. "All three of you are going to get the belt, but not now" He said "I want you to think about what you did first" This was probably a good thing, my grandpa was/is a VERY big man, and none of us wanted him angry when the punishment came.

Two days go by, and nothing happened. We were all like "He's not going to do anything to us" Well, we were wrong.. ..two days after the incident he calls us on the front porch, and asks if we were ready. Fear consumed me at this point, I can't speak for my brothers, though. Sure enough, off came the belt and one by one he gave us three licks each. Let me tell ya something, that sh!T works!

To think about it for a couple days straight, just wondering when it's gonna happen is pure torture. It was completely mental of course, that belt had nothing on the two, sometimes three, sometimes one day of thinking and fear that followed our disobedience.

Does spanking work? Yes, but not nearly as good as it being combined with this kind of waiting/thinking period. btw, when he spanked us, we sure the fuck felt it! It hurt, but like I said it wasn't nearly as bad as those days of fearful anticipation .. ..


Junk~

[intrepidus6]

OK, I admit it... I have a spanking fetish...

[Its a Plant]

I think some parents go to that "tool" a bit too quickly and chances are they were hit when they were children. (we teach what we were taught)

I think its good for shock value when used sparingly but when it becomes overused it becomes useless and detrimental.

Spot on here.

As a child who was both beaten and spanked, I can say, without a doubt, some part of it is still with me, and is most likely the reason I'm the soft-spoken guy now.

My dad was definitely one of those parents who used that "tool" too much, and I got whipped fairly often. But then again, he had it even worse as a child with his dad...

There were a few times he beat me so bad my ass was so bruised and red, I had to stay home from daycare so no one would turn my parents in for abuse.

If and when I have kids, spanking would be the last, and I mean *last* resort for me. Even seeing a belt or ruler makes me shudder to this day. Plus, I don't want to be the reason my child has emotional problems because I have a problem with beating my kids.

Words hold more power anyways. ~

[GaGrown]

Well...... Let me start by saying! It's Bullshit! My Daddy,Mama,Aunt's and Uncle's all whooped my ass! I spanked my children in moderation! Mostly with my hand.A belt at times! I'll do it again,too! They got that ass whipped cause they deserved it! Everytime I got 1 is was all my fault,even if my sisters did it! I was the oldest so...... Go figure! I should have known better! I did!!!!! My Daddy was the worst I've ever had! Mostly for when I told a lie or was not home when he said! If they outlaw spanking the next generation will not be worth a shit for nothing! Not to mention the parents will be overcrowding the jails!!!! Now the overcrowding is due to the posession laws! Mostly for a small amount of WEED! I say write your congressman and put this to a vote state by stae! That dude on tv today noway has children! He's a FUCKIN' prick! There's my 2 cent's! I'm a better person for all the spankings I've gotten! I even told my Daddy Thank you for every 1 he gave me along the way! I am the person I am today for that reason!

Ga Grown!

[thcbongman]

I gotten my shares of spanking, kicks, and belts. I was raised seeing I'd say PG-13 violence. I seen my father hit my mom, and my mom cut my dad. This cycle didn't stop until one day, I decided to hit my father in retaliation for beating me with a belt. I don't consider spanking abuse, but I don't consider it healthy.

I don't think spanking does any good, it's more of a tool used to vent their frustrations than it was teaching a lesson. I inherited the habit for the worst.......rather than solving problems with words, and brains, I resorted to my fists to vent.

I wish I didn't click on this thread, it only reminds me of painful memories....

[birdgirl73]

Well...... Let me start by saying! It's Bullshit! My Daddy,Mama,Aunt's and Uncle's all whooped my ass! I spanked my children in moderation! Mostly with my hand.A belt at times! I'll do it again,too! They got that ass whipped cause they deserved it! Everytime I got 1 is was all my fault,even if my sisters did it! I was the oldest so...... Go figure! I should have known better! I did!!!!! My Daddy was the worst I've ever had! Mostly for when I told a lie or was not home when he said! If they outlaw spanking the next generation will not be worth a shit for nothing! Not to mention the parents will be overcrowding the jails!!!! Now the overcrowding is due to the posession laws! Mostly for a small amount of WEED! I say write your congressman and put this to a vote state by stae! That dude on tv today noway has children! He's a FUCKIN' prick! There's my 2 cent's! I'm a better person for all the spankings I've gotten! I even told my Daddy Thank you for every 1 he gave me along the way! I am the person I am today for that reason!

Ga Grown!
You clearly have very strong feelings on this subject. Your liberal use of exclamation points certainly left no doubt about that.

I rather doubt the nation is in danger of having spanking outlawed, and I can tell you straight out that there's never going to be a referendum vote on the subject from state to state. Do a little more reading on this subject when you're not feeling so "exclamatory" and you'll find that nearly everyone with training in pediatrics and child psychology agrees that there are better ways to discipline children than hitting them, despite any great benefits you might have derived personally from the practice. Most reasonable people recognize that spanking doesn't necessarily constitue abuse, but child protective authorities generally agree that hitting/beating with objects like belts and paddles and hairbrushes often crosses the line.

[Chronic Chrissy]

I was spanked and I was beaten black and blue as a child. When I was beating on my little sisters I deservedthe swaton the ass, or clip up the back of my head, I always erned my spanks. The beatings are another story but very different. I hate to state the obviouse but humansare animals, and physical force is a way mammals disdipline and teach their off spring. More often then not the spanking is more emotional then harmful if used properly, just likeaq p[u8ppy nipped by it's mom, it's just enough so you rememberthe lesson, but not physically harmful or scaring.

[intrepidus6]

I'm getting a monster erection reading all these spanking stories!!!

[Its a Plant]

I'm getting a monster erection reading all these spanking stories!!!
Dude, what the hell is wrong with you?

[Chronic Chrissy]

I'm getting a monster erection reading all these spanking stories!!!

That's just a little too freaky

[birdgirl73]

OK, maybe I'm wrong, but my gut tells me he put out some bait (arousal in response to spanking stories) and y'all took it, but perhaps I'm wrong. We get the occasional intentional provocateur here, and I rather get the feeling Intrepidus6 is one of those. I tend to believe that because this discussion centered about parenting and disciplining of children rather than about anything of an actual titillating sexual nature. I'm pretty sure he was just seeing who'd give him a response.

[orange floyd]

Well I thinks it's a lot better than being coldcocked like I was...

what the hell is coldcocked?

[JunkYard]

^^A violent blow to the head!^^

[orange floyd]

^^A violent blow to the head!^^

which head?

[slipknotpsycho]

I'm getting a monster erection reading all these spanking stories!!!

.. i know you're probably not serious.. but c'mon dude, even when joking, responses like that are kinda fucked up... i mean these stories for the most part are talking about young ass kids...

[intrepidus6]

OK, maybe I'm wrong, but my gut tells me he put out some bait (arousal in response to spanking stories) and y'all took it, but perhaps I'm wrong. We get the occasional intentional provocateur here, and I rather get the feeling Intrepidus6 is one of those. I tend to believe that because this discussion centered about parenting and disciplining of children rather than about anything of an actual titillating sexual nature. I'm pretty sure he was just seeing who'd give him a response.

I don't understand...?

[slipknotpsycho]

she meant her gut/insticnt is saying you don't really get aroused by it and you just were seeking attention...

[birdgirl73]

He understands perfectly well what I meant, Slip. He's a game-player. Check out his little manipulative game on the Circumcision thread he started. You'll start to see the pattern emerge if you just scan through his responses.

[intrepidus6]

Whatever. Think what you will I could care less.

[slipknotpsycho]

so you're saying you actually are turned on by the thought of children being spanked??? :confused: at this point i'd rather go with being an attention whore...

[Skink]

well just think of the size difference...

when I swore my Mom put soap in my mouth,,,I still swore but I learned when not to... When I stole my mom pulled me by the ear and made me give the stuff back and say I was sorry to the store owner,,,I still stole but learned how not to get caught... in the long run I did learn from my Mom and today I know right from wrong... My father would just knock me out,,,he was the reason I swore and stole,,,especially from him...

[GaGrown]

You clearly have very strong feelings on this subject. Your liberal use of exclamation points certainly left no doubt about that.

I rather doubt the nation is in danger of having spanking outlawed, and I can tell you straight out that there's never going to be a referendum vote on the subject from state to state. Do a little more reading on this subject when you're not feeling so "exclamatory" and you'll find that nearly everyone with training in pediatrics and child psychology agrees that there are better ways to discipline children than hitting them, despite any great benefits you might have derived personally from the practice. Most reasonable people recognize that spanking doesn't necessarily constitue abuse, but child protective authorities generally agree that hitting/beating with objects like belts and paddles and hairbrushes often crosses the line.

I do believe that it should not be used as an all around punishment for anything that a child or teenager may do wrong. I'm just saying that BACK IN THE DAY,it was,and still should be to present time! There are more and more disrespectful children growing up these days to that run their parents lives instead of the parents running the childs life.This is due to the fear of a child calling 911 on the parent just because they got that ass torn up! A swat or 2 with a belt is no worse than with the open hand on the bottom.I said nothing about using switches,paddles or hair brushes.There is a certain age to me when and if a child should be spanked or not.I've used other techniques,such as taking toys and cherrished items,and making them earn them back! Making sure they understood why they were taken! Time-out works well,too! They just need a stern hand every once in awhile.

Ga Grown!

[friendowl]

i smacked my 10 year old once because he gave me attitude
a lil pimp slap to the cheek let my boy know his boundary

there are better ways to get your point across
hitting the kids just makes em more meaner

[stinkyattic]

there are better ways to get your point across
hitting the kids just makes em more meaner

Yeah I agree.

I think that if as a parent you find yourself feeling like you have to spank your kids on a regular basis, you have already failed somewhere along the line... if they only listen to you out of fear, you really fucked up raising them.

[intrepidus6]

so you're saying you actually are turned on by the thought of children being spanked??? :confused: at this point i'd rather go with being an attention whore...

I can't help it....

One time I was at a mall and I saw this man spanking his daughter in the mall parking lot... it made me so horny... I know it's sick but don't worry I'm not sexually attracted to a little kid or anything! Just spanking...

[friendowl]

hahahahaha
what a fool
intrepidus you crazy homie