I think I just fell in love.. but I think it's wrong.

[Pride]

I met this girl (turns out she's my neighbor) who I think is pretty cool. We like the same stuff and she's the only girl in the area i know that happens to enjoy smoking up. There is good chemistry between us. This is rare.. I don't find many girls who I can really talk to..

I really thought nothing of her.. really.. I didn't think she was all that pretty or whatever. But I thought it'd be really cool to be her friend.
Weed was brought up in a convo recently and it turns out she likes to smoke... a lot ( :D )
So last night at midnight she came over and we smoked and we chilled.
I dunno.. something just snapped... I'm suddenly falling for her.
Does weed have anything to do with this?
I just thought of her as a friend, but after we chilled for awhile, I slowly starting to really like her a lot..

I just want to be friends. But what can I say? I'm human. I can't help but have these strong feelings now. Am I liking her too fast? I feel ashamed that I actually like her. I think if she found out she would feel awkard. It's still really early to like her
As long as she can come over to chill and make me happy - that is the best feeling in the world- i am more scared than ever to ruin what I think will build into a great friendship one day.

I really don't want to fuck this up by reaching in to kiss her or anything to make her feel uncomfortable.. I'd rather just be her good friend.. Maybe I will get used to her and stop liking her so much.

[Pipe Dreams]

Maybe youll get tired of her and stop liking her so much too.

Just because youre starting to like her now, doesnt mean that she has to know dude. Give a while, and if you still like her after like 2 or 3 months, hit her up and see if she has a guy already.

[greendove]

Weed isn't going to make you fall in love with anyone. It just doesn't work that way. But, if you're just starting to find out that she tokes, then you should probably get to know her better before making any major moves. Keep hanging out with her, and see if she stays as cool as she initially seems.

If you feel like you need to wait on the situation, then waiting is the best thing for you to do. Follow your gut instinct. The best romances I've ever been in (including the one with my husband) started out as being really good friends before taking the next step. It really is amazing when that happens, too. There's no weird awkward dating phase, it's just comfortable, and more natural feeling, while still having the excitement.

If you think you could really fall in love with this girl, then waiting a little while won't hurt anything. Love isn't based around whether or not someone is a hottie - if the love is real, that person will become a hottie to you. It sounds like she's already starting to become that. :D

Keep us informed as to how this goes. I'm rooting for ya'!

[napolitana869]

it sounds like your attraction to her is based more on her personality than on lust so that'd be a good sign if you do pursue a relationship with her. just give it time and if its meant to be it will happen

[2600HERTZ]

While I agree with greendove up there about friendship leading into better relationships, it can be really hard to make that happen if the feelings aren't extremely strong on both sides.

However, you have to do what you have to do. If that means one night you feel its time to make that move, DON'T WAIT, fucking make it man. No matter how it turns out, you will not regret the effort(it's pretty empowering.)

[mfitzp]

weed makes you horny as hell!

[spliffstar22]

just observe and and do your thing, spit some game and she'll be down......

[Pride]

She likes someone else right now who moved to another state..
For now I'll be her friend until things between them cool off.
She seems to REALLY like him though..

[Tom Swierzbinski]

Pride, Ive had this happen before but under different circumstances. It was at school a few years ago, I was great mates with this girl who, at first, I thought was butt-ugly. But I fell for her personality, and in a matter of days she was the most beautiful person Id ever met. She made me laugh, she made me smile, she even made me cry because I knew I couldnt have her.
Then, one day, I invited her to my place. We sat on my bed watching Cool Runnings, and before I knew it I just couldnt control myself and I reached out, grabbed her towards me and kissed her. I told her I was sorry and I was in tears, then she grabbed my head and kissed me back with an unbelievable passion. For 9 months we would meet up and just fool around (no sex), but in the end we broke up. It was only because I was messed up in the head that we havent stayed mates, and the same thing is happening again with another girl right now. Amazing relationship for 9 months, then it all goes tits up.
I dont know why I told you that story.
My advice? Stay mates with her for the moment, and just wait and see what the future brings. Either way, whether you date her or not, youre going to have many amazing memories with this girl. But dont start dating her just yet - shes obviously very taken with someone else, and you sound like you really care about her, so please dont let her fall in love with two people at the same time. Show her the real you, a gentleman and a friend, and maybe one day you wont be the one making the first move...

[birdgirl73]

I think that's good advice--just to stay friends for now and wait and see what happens. If the strong feelings continue, why not see where potential romance takes you after you really know her? Weed wouldn't have made you develop those feelings, but sometimes, particularly if you're shy and don't have a lot of ease or experience with ladies, just finding someone with whom you have things in common and can converse easily makes a person begin to develop those feelings. They're not unnatural. They're certainly nothing to feel ashamed about. And right now, those feelings are mostly just based on what you think you know and feel about her after some initial exposure, not on real acquaintance. Give that acqaintance time to develop and see where things go. Sounds like the worst that could happen is you'd make a new friend. Good luck!

[Pride]

Yeah.. I'm just gonna continue being friends and let it build into something strong..
They agreed that they cannot see each other anymore cause he moved to another state but she has to forget him which will take a long ass time..
I'm gonna try my best not to ask her out or anything. She seems really down from the situation though... I can tell it's gonna be fuckin hard.
But seeing her makes me happy as hell, I can stick with just that..
im just damn fuckin glad i made a neighbor-friend.

[birdgirl73]

Good plan, Pride. Friends are mighty important, and the best romances in the world are built on a foundation of friendship. Kids today do far too much fast hooking up before they actually know someone, and that's generally a setup for the fast, emotionally confusing flameout-downfall of a relationship. If it's meant to be, it'll work out the way it's supposed to. In the words of one of Frank Sinatra's sexiest songs, just "take it nice and easy."

[greendove]

Precisely, birdgirl. Plus, when she is ready to get into a relationship, chances are good that she'll look at the guy that was there for her when things were hard. That's one of the qualities that make up a good relationship, after all.

[2600HERTZ]

Actually, she will look to you, for advice on some other guy if you wimp out on her. Shell date some asshole so this way she gets the badass guy in her life, and then you will stand by and try to get her to dump him all the while treating her like a queen, so then she gets the sweet and caring gestures from you. This way she knows she has the best of both worlds. Sorry, but I had a bitter experience awhile back.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I did a shitload of oxy's once with one of my best guy friends, and I thought I had a crush on him for like two weeks after that night. Then I realized it was probably just the drugs.

[Pride]

What da fuck is oxy's?

anyway.. just now i got kicked out of her place cause her 'love' called and it made her sad and she wanted to be alone so she told me to go home..
goes to show how much she likes this guy.. ya know?

[Pride]

they never went out (but she wanted to) but he moved to another state to start school and they agreed to stop seeing each other but of course.. she still has very strong feelings towards him..

[greendove]

Some things just take some time to get over, especially people that someone might consider, "The one that got away". Patience....

[crf250smoker]

[quote=2600HERTZ]Actually, she will look to you, for advice on some other guy if you wimp out on her. Shell date some asshole so this way she gets the badass guy in her life, and then you will stand by and try to get her to dump him all the while treating her like a queen, so then she gets the sweet and caring gestures from you. This way she knows she has the best of both worlds. Sorry, but I had a bitter experience awhile back.[/]

dude sounds exactally liek my experience

[Pride]

That only happened to me once and in early high school.
I ain't lettin dat shit happen again.
Terrible feeling.

[az666]

Don't ruin a good thing...
But you may miss a good opportunity, you may find out in years to come that she really liked you aswell...

[O. G. ganja smoker]

u think ur in love... i dont think u should rush in too fast on this one feel things out abit before u do ive been in love before and trust me u dont think ur in love u know it, u just like her is all wait like a tiger in the grass when u see an oppertunity pounce, but only when the moments perfect. u seem like ur not so much into her but in too the fact that she smokes cuz thats when u started to feel things for her but remember she can get high and still be a bitch

[Pride]

Indeed, 'in love' is a wrong way to put it. But it made the title more dramatic.

She told me she doesn't want me to like her more than a friend anyway, so... i'll just be her friend. Don't gotta be her bf. Being her friend is enough.

[Pride]

Holy fuck she's dating someone else now.

[partyguy420]

make the move now... unless you want to be stuck in the friends zone... and they dont usaly dont lat you fuck them in the friends zone.

[hugs not drugz]

im having the same problem too, and the thing is i feal if i were to wait and become good friends with her before telling her how i feal, i may not be able to get out of that "friends zone".

[exoticnoise]

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[Pride]

I dont like her at all anymore. but holy fuck this is a HUGE twist...

I went to her bday party which took place at her apartment. parents gone for the day. everyone was getting drunk. very good vodka.

I went and opened the door to her bathroom to find a friend of mine and this other female friend of mine ive known for a bit making out. so i join and so me and that dude is fingering, eating, making out with her. felt too gay to fuck her though heh.
after the threesome, he gets up and goes WELL THAT WAS FUN! Then we are about to leave the bathroom but i turn to her and said "i think you're a good person.. i think you're a good person :) " she looked at me like she was touched. We sit with the group outside the bathroom and suddenly the girl we just foreplay-gang-banged whom was sitting next to me suddenly starts to kiss me. soft repeative pecks on the lips. I return them and we start to kiss harder. then we are to the point of slobbering each other and we make out for an hour. turns out she had a crush on me for awhile but sparks really flew for her at that moment. i just never made the move with her. The girl i used to like kicked us out saying we were bothering people (i looked arouind and no one cared and everyone was having a great time) so i took my new girl to my place and we got naked and had foreplay for 4 hours. i asked if she wants to be my gf and she happily nodded.
the end.

how ironic that things ended up the way they are now.
i used to like that girl who was the reason i started this thread but she dated someone else like i said before. her bday party took place on my bday actually.
You know you turned 20 when you wake up and theres a hot nude girl spooning you.
The party felt like a dream... actually thats seriously true because everyone seperately said the same thing. I should get the name of that vodka..!!
What a party.. what a twist in the story line of my life.. what a birthday!

A happy ending for me. didnt see it coming at all.
love sure makes the world go round.