I think I just fell in love.. but I think it's wrong.

[Pride]

I met this girl (turns out she's my neighbor) who I think is pretty cool. We like the same stuff and she's the only girl in the area i know that happens to enjoy smoking up. There is good chemistry between us. This is rare.. I don't find many girls who I can really talk to..

I really thought nothing of her.. really.. I didn't think she was all that pretty or whatever. But I thought it'd be really cool to be her friend.
Weed was brought up in a convo recently and it turns out she likes to smoke... a lot ( )
So last night at midnight she came over and we smoked and we chilled.
I dunno.. something just snapped... I'm suddenly falling for her.
Does weed have anything to do with this?
I just thought of her as a friend, but after we chilled for awhile, I slowly starting to really like her a lot..

I just want to be friends. But what can I say? I'm human. I can't help but have these strong feelings now. Am I liking her too fast? I feel ashamed that I actually like her. I think if she found out she would feel awkard. It's still really early to like her
As long as she can come over to chill and make me happy - that is the best feeling in the world- i am more scared than ever to ruin what I think will build into a great friendship one day.

I really don't want to fuck this up by reaching in to kiss her or anything to make her feel uncomfortable.. I'd rather just be her good friend.. Maybe I will get used to her and stop liking her so much.

Pride Reviewed by Pride on 01-13-2007. I think I just fell in love.. but I think it's wrong. I met this girl (turns out she's my neighbor) who I think is pretty cool. We like the same stuff and she's the only girl in the area i know that happens to enjoy smoking up. There is good chemistry between us. This is rare.. I don't find many girls who I can really talk to.. I really thought nothing of her.. really.. I didn't think she was all that pretty or whatever. But I thought it'd be really cool to be her friend. Weed was brought up in a convo recently and it turns out she likes to Rating: 5

[Pipe Dreams]

Maybe youll get tired of her and stop liking her so much too.

Just because youre starting to like her now, doesnt mean that she has to know dude. Give a while, and if you still like her after like 2 or 3 months, hit her up and see if she has a guy already.

[greendove]

Weed isn't going to make you fall in love with anyone. It just doesn't work that way. But, if you're just starting to find out that she tokes, then you should probably get to know her better before making any major moves. Keep hanging out with her, and see if she stays as cool as she initially seems.

If you feel like you need to wait on the situation, then waiting is the best thing for you to do. Follow your gut instinct. The best romances I've ever been in (including the one with my husband) started out as being really good friends before taking the next step. It really is amazing when that happens, too. There's no weird awkward dating phase, it's just comfortable, and more natural feeling, while still having the excitement.

If you think you could really fall in love with this girl, then waiting a little while won't hurt anything. Love isn't based around whether or not someone is a hottie - if the love is real, that person will become a hottie to you. It sounds like she's already starting to become that.

Keep us informed as to how this goes. I'm rooting for ya'!

[napolitana869]

it sounds like your attraction to her is based more on her personality than on lust so that'd be a good sign if you do pursue a relationship with her. just give it time and if its meant to be it will happen

[2600HERTZ]

While I agree with greendove up there about friendship leading into better relationships, it can be really hard to make that happen if the feelings aren't extremely strong on both sides.

However, you have to do what you have to do. If that means one night you feel its time to make that move, DON'T WAIT, fucking make it man. No matter how it turns out, you will not regret the effort(it's pretty empowering.)

[mfitzp]

weed makes you horny as hell!

[spliffstar22]

just observe and and do your thing, spit some game and she'll be down......

[Pride]

She likes someone else right now who moved to another state..
For now I'll be her friend until things between them cool off.
She seems to REALLY like him though..

[Tom Swierzbinski]

Pride, Ive had this happen before but under different circumstances. It was at school a few years ago, I was great mates with this girl who, at first, I thought was butt-ugly. But I fell for her personality, and in a matter of days she was the most beautiful person Id ever met. She made me laugh, she made me smile, she even made me cry because I knew I couldnt have her.
Then, one day, I invited her to my place. We sat on my bed watching Cool Runnings, and before I knew it I just couldnt control myself and I reached out, grabbed her towards me and kissed her. I told her I was sorry and I was in tears, then she grabbed my head and kissed me back with an unbelievable passion. For 9 months we would meet up and just fool around (no sex), but in the end we broke up. It was only because I was messed up in the head that we havent stayed mates, and the same thing is happening again with another girl right now. Amazing relationship for 9 months, then it all goes tits up.
I dont know why I told you that story.
My advice? Stay mates with her for the moment, and just wait and see what the future brings. Either way, whether you date her or not, youre going to have many amazing memories with this girl. But dont start dating her just yet - shes obviously very taken with someone else, and you sound like you really care about her, so please dont let her fall in love with two people at the same time. Show her the real you, a gentleman and a friend, and maybe one day you wont be the one making the first move...

[birdgirl73]

I think that's good advice--just to stay friends for now and wait and see what happens. If the strong feelings continue, why not see where potential romance takes you after you really know her? Weed wouldn't have made you develop those feelings, but sometimes, particularly if you're shy and don't have a lot of ease or experience with ladies, just finding someone with whom you have things in common and can converse easily makes a person begin to develop those feelings. They're not unnatural. They're certainly nothing to feel ashamed about. And right now, those feelings are mostly just based on what you think you know and feel about her after some initial exposure, not on real acquaintance. Give that acqaintance time to develop and see where things go. Sounds like the worst that could happen is you'd make a new friend. Good luck!