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stinkyattic

12-06-2006, 03:46 PM

Sad news... in case anyone wants to hear my misery...
Last night my dear boyfriend, who I love very much, and I finally called it quits after living together for more than 2 years.

It was a sweet love story too... we met at Okemo ski resort in Vermont while he was working there as a snow-maker and I was skipping work to ski the first day of the season.

He had the absolute worst pickup line that I had ever EVER heard... "How do you like the snow? I made it. Wanna share a lift?" And it worked.

He is the person responsible for changing my attittude towards the Herb from "I don't mind it but don't use it" to appreciating the value it has for helping me with my anxiety.

And when I started my garden, it was he who was always there doing the electrical wiring and making sure it was to state code.

But he has always been terrible with money and would rather lie about hard issues, or get in his truck and drive away and go drink beers, than just talk about them... It's breaking my heart to see him go but I need to take care of my own future.

I think everyone eventually comes to a time in his or her life where you're in a relationship and you start asking yourself, "sure my partner is a sweet person but can I see myself married to them? Or having a family together?" And I'm kind of starting to feel my age and ask those questions... and as much as I tell myself that he could change, and grow, and be the man I want.. I don't want to have to force it. And it has already been so long that -well- it's been long enough to expect SOME light at the end of the tunnel.

So that's it. I can't afford to be with someone whose honesty and loyalty even are doubtful, especially with the garden and having so much to lose- my entire life savings is tied up in my home, and the State could seize it if anything ever happened.

I guess it's kind of a sad fairy tale for anyone who is considering growing any more than about a small closet of plants, too. I'm afraid I am going to be alone for a LOOOONG time before I find someone I can really trust.

So Jeff, this one's for you. I'll miss ya, big guy.

sdhall36

12-06-2006, 04:00 PM

I can't even begin to say how sorry I feel, I am so sorry babes - be strong, and go with your heart (and I know you are doing).
So many people on here love you and your rounded attitude, firey yet tollerant nature.
It does happen and it's sure as hell happened to me - Jan is wonderful but it's taken me 40 years to find her.
You are caring, sensitive, deep, intelligent, and most of all VERY thoughtful underneath that "Tom-Boy" exterior.

My heart goes out to you, and I shall think of you and your kindness always.

forever your friend and companion in whatever path you should choose from now on.

Love and light - Hall and Jan x x x x

stinkyattic

12-06-2006, 04:06 PM

Thanks sweetie. You just finally pushed me over the edge and I'm getting teary. I can't believe how caring the growers on this site are. It's good you have you around.

Shovelhandle

12-06-2006, 04:35 PM

Sorry to hear that, Stinky. Our oldest daughter had that happen when she was your age. The guy was ok, but they didn't have that chemistry for a family future and they split.
She just got married a couple of weeks ago to a young man (10 years younger) that she's been with for the last six years or so. Your partner will come along, I'm sure.

Meanwhile my best regards, hoping you get feeling good-great soon.

Shov

Mnoutdoorz

12-06-2006, 04:40 PM

sdhall is right we all love you and what you bring to the community. Be strong hun I know it's hard but you have to look out for number one and I think you're handling the situation both fairly to you and him. Your soulmate is out there and it's just a test of patience till you find him. And us growers know all about patience. Take care dear we're all hear for ya! ::hugs::

Dutch Pimp

12-06-2006, 04:57 PM

..I always found..January..is a good month..to start a new life...

I do it almost every year.....

sdhall36

12-06-2006, 06:15 PM

Yes DP - totally right

H

doco

12-06-2006, 06:52 PM

Oh man, that's so sad and I feel for you Stinky. Those are tough choices to have to make but you are obviously a smart & strong woman so I am sure you are making the correct one. My thoughts and my prayers will be with you as you walk through this. (yes, I do pray & meditate). I'm sure you already know that the hurt will pass...it feels like crap today but it won't always be that way. You will have much happiness ahead of you & the person meant for you may be just around the bend.

Don't hold back the tears...it's good for the soul to embrace the pain and recognize our frail humanity.

Arklenao2

12-06-2006, 06:56 PM

now i feel sad

stinkyattic

12-06-2006, 06:59 PM

I think after work I am going to head over and plant myself in front of my neighbor's woodstove and drink hot cocoa and feel sorry for myself.
Until 7:30 when the lights come on and it's time to get the flower room aired out.
Man I don't know what I'd do without friends. Especially friends who keep lots of chocolate at their houses.
I just got a phone call from Jeff's dad inviting us to dinner Friday. That was depressing to have to tell him that there really isn't an 'us' any more.

TheGreenFog

12-06-2006, 09:14 PM

Aww, man, Stinky. That sucks. I wish I could come up with some real kind words for you, but everyone else already beat me to it. You seem to be taking it well, probably just due to the fact that you are a level-headed person. Everyone has emotions, though, so there is no avoiding that, even for me...:(

But as my gf always reminds me, 'we go through life in stages, and for every stage in your life, there is a person you are supposed to be with. That person gives you just what you need for that time period, whether it be negative (learning experiences) or positive (life enrichment). You just have to embrace the time you had with that person, and then move onto the next stage. You are always a better person afterwards.'

I hope you know what I'm trying to say, as I don't always type exactly what I'm trying to say! ha.

Well, I'm sure you'll be fine, and I hope he will too. I'll smoke one for the both of yas, especially you Stinky. :D

:rastasmoke:

TGF

stinkyattic

12-06-2006, 09:41 PM

But as my gf always reminds me, 'we go through life in stages, and for every stage in your life, there is a person you are supposed to be with. That person gives you just what you need for that time period, whether it be negative (learning experiences) or positive (life enrichment). You just have to embrace the time you had with that person, and then move onto the next stage. You are always a better person afterwards.'

TGF

I think that's the best advice I've ever heard. Ever. If I ever have a daughter that's what I'm going to tell her when she's bawling over some guy... I wish someone had told me that when I was just a silly kid.

keeko

12-06-2006, 09:44 PM

(friendly hug)

ericwt

12-06-2006, 09:54 PM

Well breaking up sucks. There is nothing I can say to you to make you feel any better.

However, after having recovered from my divorce I can say to you it is better to have done this now than wait 10 years like I did.

So feel the pain and go on. You are stronger than you think you are. Take some time to get to know yourself again.

I was crushed after my divorce. But I can see a new person within me rising and getting stronger each day.

The same thing will happen to you.

sdhall36

12-06-2006, 10:36 PM

Vibes tonight - just for you x

Storm Crow

12-07-2006, 05:34 AM

You are better off figuring this out now, rather than after getting hitched and having to do a divorce (possibly with kids). You hit it right on the head- "I can't afford to be with someone whose honesty and loyalty even are doubtful". There is only trouble in a relationship if honesty and loyalty are a problem. There is no relationship, if there is no trust! On top of this, he drinks (at a bar?) when he is upset-that is a red flag right there for later alcoholism! He refuses to communicate on issues that are important to you. (What does this say about his opinion of you, as a thinking, feeling, human being?) At best, you were in a 60/40 relationship. I think you are lucky getting out when you did. In a few days, when the shock has worn off, get out of the house- go to a party and mingle. (There are lots of parties this time of year- I don't want to hear any excuses out of you, young lady! You get out there and party! :jointsmile: ) I will have been married for 40 years in a few weeks. You just gotta find the right one! ;) Staying at home and being bummed is not going to help you find him. - Granny Storm Crow :stoned:

kindprincess

12-07-2006, 06:11 AM

I can't believe how caring the growers on this site are. It's good you have you around.

when i buy a cabin in the yukon, you and bear can come live with me:p we'll build a 50,000sf greenhouse...:D

sorry babe, i know how it feels:o but like my brother always says...

"if at first you don't succeed, get a bigger hammer"

sorry if this comes off wrong, i'm just trying to make you smile:) how you're doing all right, and my thoughts are with you...

love, kp:p

Perp

12-07-2006, 06:29 AM

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I went through the same thing last year (about money) with someone I'd been with for over 10 years. It was hard. I know how you feel now but remember that it will get better with time.

latewood

12-07-2006, 09:11 AM

Hey Hey Hey...Well, it has all been said basically...hugs all around...peace

Abattoir Dream

12-07-2006, 09:54 AM

yeh, you know u got friends here, ;) at least thats some comfort... and friends that keep lots of chocolate too! its not all bad eh? well, sad to hear that stinky, and even though i hardly know you, i can tell your a very nice person, youll get a nice man sure enuff! after all, every man wants a bit of stinky attic in their lives! lol :)

stinkyattic

12-07-2006, 02:40 PM

Thanks guys...
Well I'm not weepy anymore after coming home from work last night and discovering that while I was off at my 9 to 5, Jeff was busy in my garden. And I don't mean watering either. He stole the BIGGEST BADDEST plant I have ever grown, a sick Haze cross so covered with crystals it looked like pale green velvet... and I had seeded it with my Afghani male... fucker.
So being rather pissed off I got on the horn with my contacts and just put out the heads up that anything green he's trying to sell was stolen... WHAT A SCUMBAG!!!! I can't believe I was actually SAD to see him go!

Okay. My plans this weekend are:
Tonight- bruschetta and cheap wine with my neighbor
Friday- Beer and college hockey (go UMass!!!! Woot!!! BC Sux!) with my girlfriends. Seriously it's such a fun girl's night out to go to a sports event with no men!
Saturday- I'm prepaying 2 months on a storage unit, renting a UHaul, and putting all Jeff's shit in it.
Sunday- Rearranging my furniture back to the way I like it, with the television NOT the focal point of the living room.
Monday- Going to work and forgetting all about him

:D

HiProGlow

12-07-2006, 02:46 PM

It's always hard to say goodbye and it's even harder to let go. I'm not going to say that I'm sorry for what you are going through because what you are going through is going to lead you to who you are going to be. It's a natural fact that in order to find our prince/princess we have to kiss some toads (and sometimes we love those toads!) but what's most important is what we glean from each relationship, whether at the commencement, in the middle or at its' end. I know that trust isn't easily earned and that to find someone who you can truly trust is a rarity, but you have to trust the fact that as long as you are following your heart you will be led in the right direction. Contradict your heart and you will be torn in two. The road that leads to bliss/peace/nirvana or whatever you choose to call it is different for each person, but the end result, bliss/peace/nirvana, is the same for all of us. Keep focused on whatever it is that truly makes you happy whatever form that happiness takes, (this is what I call 'gathering sparks') and I guarantee that those sparks will lead you to wherever you're meant to be and to whomever you're meant to be with. I hope this helps.

Shit, just read about what he did to you. Don't let him steal your sparks too! Call on the Karma police to arrest the jerk! Peace!

stinkyattic

12-07-2006, 02:52 PM

It's a natural fact that in order to find our prince/princess we have to kiss some toads (and sometimes we love those toads!) !

LOL I've always loved that concept.
If I have to kiss any damned toads they'd better be Bufo marinus... all you Aussies know what I'm talking about!!!

Who wants to send me a giant toad for Christmas? I think I NEEED a toad in the house!

Perp

12-07-2006, 03:13 PM

That's the trouble with growing and relationships. If they go bad then you never know what's going to happen. Lucky it wasn't worse like the cops knocking on your door. Anyway it's rotten but at least it's only one plant and you can recover.

stinkyattic

12-07-2006, 03:15 PM

Lucky it wasn't worse like the cops knocking on your door.
.
Knock on wood... they haven't stopped by... YET.

HiProGlow

12-07-2006, 03:18 PM

LOL, I just got rid of a giant toad but I highly doubt you'd want her in your house. She isn't psychadelic but she's certainly psychotic. After 7 years together she left me feeling like I'd been on one hell-of-a-bad trip. The only difference being that I came off of this trip with the best daughter a father could ever want....so in a sense my toad led me to the greatest joy I've ever known....fatherhood. Peace.

Splifted

12-07-2006, 04:11 PM

Man stinky, I hate to hear that. I'm afraid I can't give you any better advice than has already been posted, but you seem like a great person so I'm sure it will all work out better for you in the end. You've definitely been one of the nicest people I've met on these boards, always having something positive and constructive to say, which is why everyone likes you :) Just try not and let it get you too down, sounds like with the lying/stealing he didn't deserve a woman like you anyway, so its his loss not yours.

Keep your chin up

kindprincess

12-07-2006, 11:14 PM

LOL I've always loved that concept.
If I have to kiss any damned toads they'd better be Bufo marinus... all you Aussies know what I'm talking about!!!

Who wants to send me a giant toad for Christmas? I think I NEEED a toad in the house!

funny you should mention it, i have a friend who owns an exotic reptile store... and he does carry marine toads:D

love, kp:p

ps, jeff will get his... of this i'm sure, just wait...

clovisman

12-08-2006, 02:45 PM

Stinky, sorry to hear of your breakup- i was married for 20 years - the last twelve were not my happiest in life- a breakup is hard regardless of what your relashionship is- I do know that my life is much better now- at the time of the divorce you could not have told me that, there was heartbreak and as you there was drama- sounds as if Jeff showed you his true colors by stealing from you - I have known a lot of couples that have seperated and all in time found someone that was a better partner in life -ALL -so keep your spirits up and Believe things will get better-from experience try and stay in spirit and avoid all drama if possible
Best to You
clovisman

latewood

12-08-2006, 03:23 PM

Here Here...What an ass...Hey funny you mention Boston...I lost the love of my life in the 80's after she went to school in Boston. I was playing in the 60's-70's Top 40 band...the "Grass Roots" at the Mill Hill club on Capecod...In Dennis, I think. and I met her. She was sunshine. her name was Bridgett...I have never beeen able to find her. Oh well.

nothing to do with your story, but you reminded me of her with your correspondence. Maybe I took your mind off You know Who.

P.s. the 1st chore on your list should be New Locks, and going to animal shelter to find big lovable "killer puppy, with loud bark. later.peace

stinkyattic

12-08-2006, 03:52 PM

P.s. the 1st chore on your list should be New Locks, and going to animal shelter to find big lovable "killer puppy, with loud bark. later.peace
That's a bummer about not being able to find someone you thought was the bees knees. Too bad. The Cape is nice but SUCH a zoo in summer!!!
And as for the chores, new locks are already on the weekend list and my tenant has a 200 pound English MAstiff named Mr. Butters who ALREADY doesn't like Jeff... maybe I will borrow him for a while! I'm hoping to get a puppy this winter to keep my little girl The Tess company. Tess (she came from a shelter! Woot! I love Petfinder.com!!!!!!!) isn't much of a guard dog- she looks fierce from her Boxer side but is a total mush. I'm thinking about getting an Olde Boston Bulldogge pretty soon but the only breeders I know of are in Ontario and Texas! Dogs are the best. They always love ya.

liberiamom

12-08-2006, 04:24 PM

Hi Stinky- I only just joined this board but you have been so nice and helpful to me that I feel like I have known you a long time- your sweet spirit shines through the lines of your posts! I am 10 years into my third marriage- the first two husbands chose cocaine and crack over me, and that's not too flattering, but after the second one lied and stole from me, I moved up here to Boston with my cat and my dog (I lived in the Berkeley YWCA for a month until I found a place!) and went to graduate school. I met my current husband about a year after I got here and he made all the other rotten men disappear from the hurt places in my heart! Please don't give up hope- all of this is happening in order to take you to a stronger place where you can insist on a love that is worthy of you. Treat yourself as you would a dear friend who is suffering, and give yourself lots of treats- hot baths, massages, pretty toys and tons of chocolate! Do not settle for less than the best when you start dating again- and please get some good locks on your doors to keep you safe. If you need someone to help you in any way- let me know and I will be in your corner (I have a bag of Dove dark chocolates right here!). I believe we cross paths with people in order to share our experiences in order to help each other, and you have already made me feel as if I am not alone by responding to my posts, so please know that my shoulder is here if you need to cry or yell or whatever. Hang in there lovely lady!

Storm Crow

12-09-2006, 02:19 AM

Beautiful post, Liberiamom. YOUR sweet spirit is shining through, too! :)

kindprincess

12-09-2006, 02:27 AM

my german shepherd is going to have pups in a few months; want one? she's big, she's loveable, she's smart, and she hates strangers... the stud is the same, just times 10...:)

love ya stinky, stay safe;your christmas present will be off this upcoming week:p

kp

Weedhound

12-09-2006, 03:07 AM

Stinky after your post about the boyfriend returning and stealing from you I had to smile. Isn't it amazing how we push anything negative out of our minds when we miss someone or something? I'd like to personally thank him for reminding you in a big way who he really is.

I have always found (for myself) that if I set aside a period of time--however much time--to grieve--not try to "forget" or ignore it makes things easier later on. When things hurt realize that they hurt because of all your energy and love. That is worth a huge amount which is why it hurts so much. Respect that; don't dismiss it. Take care.

liberiamom

12-09-2006, 03:16 AM

Beautiful post, Liberiamom. YOUR sweet spirit is shining through, too! :)

So nice of you to say that Storm Crow! I've admired you for the wisdom you share in your posts - some very cool women visit this board!

slowlickitysplit

12-09-2006, 05:23 AM

I'm not great with words stinky but I feel for you. Broken heart mixed with sever anger? Not fun. Makes you want to kiss him as he lies dieing from the holle you just blasted in him. Good luck. I'll be thinking about you.

Weedhound

12-09-2006, 01:31 PM

Gee slow, don't know if I agree with you about you not being good with words...seemed you said things pretty clear there to me :)

Jedi Hash

12-09-2006, 10:12 PM

Stinkyattic,

I just want to offer my hopes for you to find a great man when you are ready for a new relationship. I have been lurking around these boards for a while now, and you are one of the main inspirations I have found here. It has been said before on this thread, but it bears repeating: your wonderful personality shines through in your posts! Best of luck!

BlueBear

12-09-2006, 11:41 PM

Oh Stinky what can I say?? I just found this thread, just have been so busy. You have had some great words given to you throughout this thread and I hope that you take them to heart because they are all so true and filled with loving kindness.
Life is indeed a journey and sometimes the road is ruff, believe me I know. It is funny, in the midst of all of the losses, those scarres have toughened up and added some character to this rugged bear hide and I am no worst for the where. I know that the days may go a little slower now, but just keep doing what your doing, keeping a positive attitude and occupy your self with those things that you enjoy along with continuing to share your life with those around you.
I am glad to have you as a friend and even when you don't here from me for a while, just know that you are still a partner and I don't let time and distance change those factors.
About finding a new man, yah they are out there, but no need to hurry, good men are like good wine, sometimes it takes a long time to find that truly seasoned one that just touches your taste buds like know other and is a true gift to all of your senses. I wish that men would find fulfillment in really wanting to be a man, not a little boy that is still playing games and looking for a mommy to take care of him and let them throw their tantrums when they don't get their way.
I like being a husband and a father, but I had to lose a 8 year relationship and 3 children to figure all of that out. Now I strive to be a better husband and father and love and nurture my family. I always try to go the extra mile to be a good man for my family and friends, that is something that no one can take away from me and the same with being a beautiful woman, mother, wife or friend. Big buds, big bucks, nice cars and big houses are nice, but they just don't compare to having a good steadfast heart that wants to love and help IMO.
Well, let me get down off of the soap box and find a tree to scratch my back on. LOL
Love you, per, per..
PS, KP can't wait for you to get that cabin up here, I will be the bear rug in front of the fire place that keeps you gals cozy and safe.
Adieu
PPS, want a good protector of a dog, look up the Rhodesian Ridgeback.

MisterE

12-10-2006, 05:11 AM

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CCIE

12-11-2006, 08:34 AM

In such situations I've found that the best thing to do is hit the iron. Pile on the plates: low reps, cheat a little, squats, shrugs - big weight! Grab that bar and feel the knurling bite as you blast through the pain while roaring like a BULL GORILLA!!

After you're done, find a nearby mirror, put on your most feral expression, crunch into a flex of every fiber in your body and shout "BEEEEFCAAAAAKKE!!!!!"

I guarantee results. :)

CaliJay

12-11-2006, 09:25 AM

Woo HOO!!! Stinky is single... The world needs more cool chicks around. I look forward to breeding with you;)

Keep it green and learn the lessons we are meant to learn or you will be back here growing more weed next life.

I love you -Jay

stinkyattic

12-11-2006, 03:51 PM

Well all... g'mornin!
Back to the computer with the hangover from the schnockering I tied on with my friends last night... we spilled red wine on the floor, decimated my supply of finger food, and even managed to collapse a stool, so I consider the evening a success.
You guys are the fucking cat's ass. Love ya. I can't tell you enough!

So I'll tell you the rest of the story as it unfolded over the weekend...

So Saturday he comes back to pick up his shit and starts breaking stuff in my house. He knocked over my Christmas tree- how low can you go?- and smashed 3 cases of ceramic tiles that we had bought to renovate the bathroom. Luckily my tenant came home in the middle of this- now, a word about my tenant, he's a boxer, and built like one- thick and burly and not exceptionally tall, oh, and he doens't like Jeff. So anyway in the time it took me to blink, he's got Jeff by the throat and is busy tossing him out on the lawn.

Oh and of COURSE Jeff threatened to call the cops on me. Don't you LOVE that? Here I was growing the Shrek in large part for HIM to smoke and he's going to be like that? I think not. Anyway I think he knows that there would be at the very least 3 angry people just waiting to show him what we think of that idea.

Sunday my house got robbed. Hmmmm coincidence? I think not. A good solid $4-5,000 worth of shit just GONE. Thank goodness the garden remained unharmed.

Sunday night I did several things:
Got a prepaid phone
Picked up a real estate book- it may be time to move the team to a new stadium, ya know?
Cleaned up broken tiles, fun fun
Recruited all my buddies to come up for dinner and just kind of BE there
Had my friend get me a heated storage unit in case of emergency
Stuffed myself on goat cheese and triscuits
Thought how happy I am to be rid of that freaking deadweight I've been dragging!!!!

Yippee.

I think this little guy may be all the man I really want around the house for a while!!!!!

Thanks so much for all your kind words and support.

hipEstoner

12-11-2006, 05:59 PM

Weedhound

12-11-2006, 06:05 PM

That looks like plenty dog to me. Bear--that doesn't look like a ridgeback on your avatar--unless they now come in chocolate.

stinkyattic

12-11-2006, 07:23 PM

I'm thinking of buying a blue bully-style pitbull from a kennel called 'ultimate blues'... they have gorgeous dogs. And they are short and stocky, which is especially good beause my bulldog is kind of wierd about dogs that are taller than she is, except for greyhounds for some reason. Go figure that one out!
Actually that's Bear's pit. But Rhodesian ridgebacks are that amber/orange color...

BlueBear

12-11-2006, 07:33 PM

That is a good dog kennel, I have a girl from them that I put with some family on a breeding contract. One thing though, she loves everybod, but hates anything that walks on four legs.
The one in my pic was bread from a kennel called Petersons pip bull kennels, and they get along with other animals IMO, but are good protectors when it comes to other people.
Adieu, and hugs

stinkyattic

12-11-2006, 08:00 PM

Getting along with my little darlin' is the most important thing!
Tess is princess of my castle and I'm going to be trying to find a puppy that is actually fairly subissive towards other dogs and will respect that she is the alpha... I know with pits that's going to be a project for sure. Another place I'm looking is Smilin' Pitbull Rescue which is based pretty near my area, and they very often get in puppies. The Tess came from a shelter too.

liberiamom

12-11-2006, 09:39 PM

Hi stinky- I have had to extricate myself before, so if you need help packing up and moving stuff, let me know. I'm glad your tenent was there to protect you when mr immature showed up.

slowlickitysplit

12-12-2006, 04:31 AM

Stinky,
I got a 1 yr old pitbull from a rescue kennel and she is great! Great with kids and very smart. At 5 yrs old she allowed another rescue dog to join our family (after a week of two of snarls and a few nips). She is a brindle color and we all love her.
Also...
If you keep eating goat cheese then the dog will be the only man around! LOL Glad to see you're bouncing back.

stinkyattic

12-12-2006, 02:33 PM

liberiamom- Thanks for the offer! Luckily I own the home and that's the reason I was able to boot the dude relatively easily... his name is NOT on the mortgage!!! Actually one of the big reasons I wanted to buy a house while I was single was because of a previous bad breakup where my BF was the homeowner and I had no rights... and he thought that one of the rights I didn't have was to tell him he needed to get help for his drinking problem.

SlowLS- Don't worry about the goat cheese! I'm a tad lactose intolerant and the goats milk is better than most dairy. As for the dogs, I'm definitely not looking forward to the introductions between the Tess and her new little brother- she is VERY territorial, even to the point of scraping her pee marks and lifting a leg! But she'll just have to deal.

VOYAGER

12-13-2006, 02:14 AM

Damn stinky, what a hell of a week you've had. Sorry to hear about all of it. Though in my eyes it was for the better, if that was the kind of guy you were with your better off without. Sounds like you do have good friends around you it would suck to have to move and leave them for the fear of further trouble with that jackass, i like the killer dog idea, maybe train him with a picture of your ex. Anyhow take care, take care of your plants animals and friends and they'll always take care of you.

partyguy420

12-13-2006, 10:28 AM

..I always found..January..is a good month..to start a new life...

I do it almost every year.....

January is a good month to start a new life... for me... the year, that i actually sort of start a new life will be in the 22nd of January in the year of our lord, 2008 A.D.(my 18th birthday)

but on another note... im sorry to hear about your friend(i cant think of another word to call him) my girl and i have been off and one for a year, and a few weeks now... and shes always getting worried that im going to leave her, but she never tells me this... she never talks to me about her problems... until one of her our friends comes up to me, and tells me something about it... and then i sit down and try to talk to her... and even then, she dosent always say a hole lot about whats on her mind... or whats bothering her... and to me, that makes me feel as though, she dosent trust me.... i mean for god sakes... i was sitting behind her today, while she was checking her emails... and this guy that she has only met once in her life, sent her a message saying "well then why are you still with him?" so naturaly i wanted to see what she had sent him... and basicaly, all the message to him... was all about this message i had recived from a friend earlier in the day saying, "you still want to FUCK?" (theres a joke saying FUCK.... Friend You Can Keep) and she didnt even come to me to talk to me about it... ok... well... im sorry for what happnd with you and your love life....(and sadly enuff... and even with as much love there is between me and my girl... i think that if she dosent start talking more often... we are going to end up dumping each other...)

stinkyattic

12-13-2006, 02:33 PM

even with as much love there is between me and my girl... i think that if she dosent start talking more often... we are going to end up dumping each other...)
Bummer but true. Communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship.

Well I stopped by and paid Jeff a quick visit at work today and told him that I killed my garden because he had threatened to turn me in, and that his best friend had promised to come pick up his furniture within the next couple weeks, but that I'm really sorry but you can't come on the property any more. The best friend actually called and suggested this and he's going to try to get Jeff into AA or another treatment program like ASAP.

Obviously I'm still keepin on keepin on, but this is the big danger of growing and dating!

That's actually the entire point of this whole thread. Kind of to illustrate how twitchy it can be to extricate yourself from a relationshi[ when there's this big hush hush secret.

So anyway that's it. Everyone be safe! :D

partyguy420

12-13-2006, 05:02 PM

that sucks that you had to ditch your entire garden.... if my girl ever dumped me.... and told me she was gonna report my grow.... i would have to SMACKaHOE i mean i may not smoke weed.... but to grow just one plant, even if my plant turned out to be a male, has always been a dream of mine... and my baby is grown alot in the days that ive had her(my sister gave me her for chirstmas) and when she gave me it, it was about 3/4 of an inch tall... and she was using merical grow fertiliser... and a black light to grow it... since ive gotten it... i have it under my bed room lamp... and ive just been giving her water when the top 1/4 of an inch of the top soil gets dry... and my baby has already grown to be almost as tall as a regular ciggeret... and 2 leafs have already started to pop there way out...

but if it was possible for me to... and my plant turned out to be a female... i would send you a few grams of my first grow.... to help you forget your problems.... and so that youll be like "im so horny" after me and you smoke a few bowls... and you just jump on me....HAHA.... JK... but im sure i just made you laff out loud...

stinkyattic

12-13-2006, 05:12 PM

Yeah you did! Ah me so horny! Hee hee I remember that song from like middle school!

I didn't kill the plants. I just told him I did so he would go humph and not do anything rash.

latewood

12-13-2006, 10:19 PM

I can't believe I started this Dog thing days ago...lol...I have one of my favorite cats stuck in neighbor's tree...inside his kennel full og =f hunting dogs, surrounded by an electric fence...So I am oging to have fun once he get's home after dark. Cat is 60-70 feeet up in tree...sheeesh~..later

Weedhound

12-14-2006, 10:44 AM

good luck with that latewood. The smart ones will figure out it after awhile--some of dumb ones never do. Or they fall. 60 feet can go through nine lives in a hurry.......hope yours is one of the smart ones :)

sdhall36

12-14-2006, 02:57 PM

stinkyattic

12-14-2006, 03:43 PM

...inside his kennel full of hunting dogs, surrounded by an electric fence...

What sort of hunting dogs are we talking here?
Cute sweet little rabbit hunting beagles that will try to jump up and lick you to death... or a Karelian bear-dog?
Yikes... Have fun with that!

Weedhound

12-14-2006, 03:52 PM

a pack of dogs....ANY dogs....can be dangerous. You get them in a group and their brains all fall out of their ears when they get into a ripping frenzy...what little brains they had to begin with.

stinkyattic

12-14-2006, 04:18 PM

Yeah that's true but my friend breeds and trains beagles and they just don't give a shit... the CAT on the other hand would get devoured.

latewood

12-14-2006, 06:02 PM

My neighbor came home, opened gate moved dogs...about 3:33 this a.m. she came down and back to the house...peace and thanks. lw

Weedhound

12-14-2006, 06:19 PM

one of the smart ones.....rock on lw.....

Weedhound

12-14-2006, 06:22 PM

stinkyattic

12-14-2006, 06:34 PM

Believe me that's not something you see every day. Or necessarily want to perhaps.....'
ROFL Actually I'd love to see that... it sounds like a riot!

He trains them to hunt rabbit. Great dogs. Not exactly housepets, but when they are very young he carries them around inside his coat to bond with their human. It may be practical, but it is also really sweet... awww...

Splifted

12-15-2006, 07:33 PM

Stinky, what does your friend train them to do? PS that is a real question not a joke....hunt, agility? A friend of mine trains weiner dogs in agility. Believe me that's not something you see every day. Or necessarily want to perhaps.....

Haha, i can't picture a wiener dog running with any sort of agility. Their stomach is like a 5th leg.

sdhall36

12-17-2006, 10:04 AM

I fear you Latewood, and your spirit is .... hmm good - now for this cute girl with Hazel eyes and a temprement which could break becherels theory.

Be good and I hope that no one ever knocks YOUR christmas tree down.

Love Hall x

Hi Latewood - sorry just got your message, guess I never check my CP - kk stinky has hazel eyes and is cute, and you are a great guy.

is what that message is supposed to mean (in a stoner kind of way), it's certainly not meant to cause offence.
Hope all is well and you are ready for the festive season.

Love Hall

latewood

12-17-2006, 10:17 PM

actually they are"weiner dogs" lol hunter's. they were used to burrough after subterranean rodents....hmmm

latewood

12-17-2006, 10:19 PM

burrow?

stinkyattic

12-18-2006, 03:22 PM

I thought weiner dogs were just supposed to chase varmint [weasels] into their holes.... I didn't think they were really diggers. What strange animals...

latewood

12-18-2006, 05:29 PM

I had a standard daschund(2wice the size of miniatures...), when I was in junior high school and beyond...they are actually, a lot like little dobermans...germans bred them for the hunting of and to rid their grounds of varmints.

SDHall. I was not offended, I just wondered if I was getting hit on...lol peace. All you cute gals are welcome to send me piks though. peace

[email protected]

stinkyattic

12-18-2006, 05:42 PM

Hey LAtewood.... is it possible to change the title of this thread to exclude the "I want to cry" part? I'm actually smiling! And now it's all about doggies! Yay! (ps I'll send you a pic if you change it! :D hee hee)

latewood

12-18-2006, 05:52 PM

Well at least people will still come to the thread to find out what all the stink is about...Just consider that we all turned a negative crying thing, into a positive smiling animal's conversation...ruff ruff

stinkyattic

12-18-2006, 06:00 PM

Haha I got my silly dog a spiked collar this weekend and she looks hysterical in it...gotta get pics... she's such a tard. Although she DID manage to stab my tenant with it trying to get him to pet her. hee hee I guess now my house is safe from thieves.
Actually back to the crying thing I got this long-assed text message last night like 'oh I still love you and hope things can change... blah blah'
Guess it's just dawning on SOMEONE that a) it's winter in New England and most apartments don't include utilities b) his truck is on its last legs, like, the rear differential is about to fall right out of it, and I am the proud owner of 2, count 'em, 2, registered vehicles c) ramen noodles can be dangerous if taken internally in large quantities d) I've got the best gigglytwigs in town. And now he doesn't.
Oh well. Ain't that a bitch.

latewood

12-18-2006, 06:03 PM

Well, If you succumb to temptation...Make sure he is regularly attending those AA meetings. I got 2 years 2 months and 10 days sober...

Send me some piks...

latewood

12-18-2006, 06:05 PM

I have a lot of writing to do at a couple of my sites...I might be scarce around here for awhile.

Join me at hygronomics.com if you miss me here. call me G#1

Weedhound

12-18-2006, 06:07 PM

latewood is right about those little short-legged, long-backed dogs bring hunters....here's a good one.....why do bassets have so many wrinkles and super long ears?

latewood

12-18-2006, 06:12 PM

so they can wrap their pray...allowing pray/enemies to stick their fangs in flesh, protecting them from getting bit in the muscles...

stinkyattic

12-18-2006, 06:14 PM

Bassets have long ears because oddly enough it helps them smell better. When they are on a scent, their ears actually hang in the nose area and prevent breezes from interfering in their ability to sniff out a quarry.

Latewood, I promise I'm not giving in!!!! And now that he's out of the house, and not puttering around every evening with a drink in his big paw, I used my Festivus party as a last-blast before I lay off the sauce for quite a while. I have to lose a whole bunch of weight and gads does the juice pack it on fast!

I'll send a pic and you will be the only one on this whole site who knows what I look like! :D

latewood

12-18-2006, 06:36 PM

I am glad to hear it...I drank so much back then, that I can't believe I lived through it...If it weren't for MMJ and learning/mentoring here and other sites I would've been lost. To be honest...you won't even miss liquor after a few days. peace

stinkyattic

12-18-2006, 06:51 PM

I already don't! Honestly it was just becoming a habit out of boredom and the need to go 'out' to socialize as the relationship was starting to go downhill.... couldn't bear to sit home with the man and just go 'uhhhhh...yeah....' all evening. The bars were an easier solution. We could go out and we didn't really need to talk. ya know?

blackhash

12-18-2006, 06:57 PM

SA...

If he wanted to go drinkin and driving more than he wanted to be by your side you are better off to find out now.

When the person comes along that you are meant to be with *forever* there will be no drug, no model of truck...and noone or nothing else in this world that can keep you apart.

I agree w/ StormCrow...get out and be seen. I would also urge you to re-examine your past. I found my lifelong love in someone I knew WAYYYY back in Jr high school.

Lastly...here's some old fart advice for ya:

Don't look for love. You won't find it.

It will find you when ya least expect it

;-)