Break Up help please.

[SGguitar]

So yeah, I'm in a long distance relationship that I am no longer happy with. I find myself stressed out and I think its time to break up. She is very emotionally unstable and she has told me that she stopped cutting herself because I came into her life. This just puts more pressure on me. I wont get to see her again for a long time and I have to do it soon or I'll end up doing bad in school because I am so stressed out. Thus, it has to be over the phone. Can anyone help me with what to say, because the last thing i want is her to bleed to death. I need to make it easy on both of us, and I need to make it fast. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks...:(

[Frivolous248]

Damn...don't get involved with cutters dude.

Theres really only 2 ways to break up. Be an asshole, or be as nice as you can. Obviously you've chosen to go with the latter.

Maybe you could make up an excuse...a reason why you had to break up with her.

Other than that, theres not much else you can do.

[Cheery Cherry]

Jesus...you're in a tough situation. Is she getting any professional help? Because as much as she'd like to think that you're responsible for her happiness, she needs to be able to cope with pain that comes with life without hurting herself. She really needs serious help.

I'm sorry I can't offer any advise on how to break up with her since I have never met anyone who cut themselves but whatever you do, I would do it gently as possible and maybe you could offer to still be her friend.

[SGguitar]

Yeah she sees a therapist. Still I feel it needs to be done promptly or I will have some problems. My mom wants me to do well in school and I do too , but I have been way to distracted with her.

[SGguitar]

DAMN I just called her and now shes three-waying me with a friend. I cant do it with her friend on the phone. x.x.

[Cheery Cherry]

Oh man...you should just e-mail her or something. Maybe you can tell her that your mom doesn't approve of you seeing her or dating anyone at the moment because of your grades???

[SGguitar]

Yeah I think Im going to use my grades as an excuse. I feel but it needs to be done.

[Cheery Cherry]

Good luck to you, and don't feel bad. Sometimes, you have to do what you have to do :).

[YahtzeeG]

yeah... my friend was in the same situation... you just have to tell her your only one person and that cutting herself is rediculous... you she call her mom up and tell her she needs help orsomething.

[rebgirl420]

Yeah this is why I hate girls. With their emo bullshit and the woe is me teenage angst cutting for attention. Ugh. People these days don't know what real pain is. Be a man and just do it. If she kills herself over something so stupid then it's one less person in traffic. Not to be a bitch or anything :dance:

[SGguitar]

Its done. I feel better. :)

[smoke it]

Yeah this is why I hate girls. With their emo bullshit and the woe is me teenage angst cutting for attention. Ugh. People these days don't know what real pain is. Be a man and just do it. If she kills herself over something so stupid then it's one less person in traffic. Not to be a bitch or anything :dance:

do this and exactly this^^^^
walk away from the crazy bitch and dont look back

[rebgirl420]

drop that fucker like a rock! hahahahhaa

[Frivolous248]

Yeah this is why I hate girls. With their emo bullshit and the woe is me teenage angst cutting for attention. Ugh. People these days don't know what real pain is.

So true. I can't stand these kind of people. This is why I try my best to not bitch about anything, and I don't. If I were to bitch about anything I'd feel like some emo who doesn't have real problems.

[rebgirl420]

agreed completely

[Nav Man]

Yeah this is why I hate girls. With their emo bullshit and the woe is me teenage angst cutting for attention. Ugh. People these days don't know what real pain is. Be a man and just do it. If she kills herself over something so stupid then it's one less person in traffic. Not to be a bitch or anything :dance:
even tho i dont know u i have instant respect...
because u tell it the way it is...
i hate depressed people ........i hate suiciders...
i hate anything emo or goth...
i have come of this opinion because i knew somewho took there life...
and i hate them with all my heart...

but back on subject...
dump her like a pile of bricks mate...
have a few cones and forget her ass

[rebgirl420]

haha I call em' like I see em'

[Nav Man]

straight up and down eh? xD

[Mean Green Charlene]

Theres a diff. between teens acting depressd and real depression. I cant see how you can hate real depressed people. I mean..its not their fault.

[Nav Man]

in my opinion and in my mind....
which i know is an assholes way of thinking...
but just toughin up or kill yourself....
your no good to anybody depressed...
know what i mean?

[crudemood]

Theres a diff. between teens acting depressd and real depression. I cant see how you can hate real depressed people. I mean..its not their fault.

Yup. Don't hate on people because they can't help it. Some people just can't help the way they are.
But a big difference there is acting vs. chemical unbalance.
If she's doing it for attention thats bad. I wonder how old she is to be doing this.
Maybe they had a tough life (its all subjective really). Or depression runs in thier family. If its none of the above, then I don't know what to say to someone like that.
You are in a tough situation though, I think the best thing is to help her as much as you can, then break up with her but still be her friend, that way you don't feel bad and she won't feel like ur ditching her because you can't handle her.

[rebgirl420]

See i'm not knocking someone who has a chemical imbalance, hell i'm bipolar and i'm court ordered to take ALLLLLLL sorts of pills every day, serequil (1,000 MG) Yes it's alot but it doesn't make me sleepy anymore, lithium (2 doses of 250 mg a day), trazadone (100 mg). So I know chemical imbalances but nowadays there are just so many teenagers and younger people who bitch and bitch about how bad their life sucks. Most wouldn't know real pain if it bit em' in the ass. I mean come on, your gonna kill yourself or mutalate yourself because of a bad relationship? Come on! You selfish fucker, do it and save everyone the problems and make sure you don't make a mess. But ANYWHO....

[Nav Man]

i honestly truely hate people who are depressed with a passion...
i mean it definitly depends if they inherit despression or if their family dies..
or they get raped...
but if there car breaks down or they have no money or if u need atention..
i have one thing to say to those people...
grow the hell up get some balls smoke a jay...
nuff said

[crudemood]

Self mutilation could be many of possible reasons. I agree with you that sm is stupid if you're doing it over bad breakup. Lets say problems run deeper than that. Lets put things into perspective and say that not only a bad breakup but everything in their life has fucked up.
But what do you say to someone who does it for attention? I'd say they're seriously messed up in the head.

i got this from a site.
Self-injury is a coping mechanism, a way to stay alive. People who inflict physical harm on themselves are often doing it in an attempt to maintain psychological integrity it's a way to keep from killing themselves. It reduces physiological and psychological tension rapidly.