I JUST WANT TO SPEND SOME TIME ALONE WITH HER!!!

[Tom Swierzbinski]

Well, some of you may know that I broke up with my girl a few months ago. I met her again on Saturday when I had a gathering round here, and shes moving away in a few weeks so we decided to talk. Turns out I still have feelings for her, which are pretty strong but not at the love stage again yet. We kissed a few times on Saturday, then met up on Tuesday night 'for a drink'. We ended up getting pissed down the park instead, and NOTHING HAPPENED BETWEEN US apart from a few really, really passionate kisses.
Wednesday (yesterday) we meet again round my place, go up to my room and start cuddling etc. Soon after my mate Ben comes round (to put a profile up on a site) gets pissed and wont leave us alone. I got really pissed off with that, seeing as he didnt even arrange to come round via me - twas my sister.
Today, I meet Emily after college at the shop she works in, and as she comes out and we get ready to leave (my gran was there working and I had a chat with her), guess who turns up? Thats right. That was at 2pm, its now 3.25pm and Ive had enough. All I want to do is spend some fucking time alone with her. Before someone says it, I AM NOT USING HER JUST FOR SEX. I honestly do really, really like her, and I know that it could become love easily. We were looking in thrift stores, and I just got so pissed off that Ive just walked off.
I cant spend any time alone with her until monday (shes going away for the weekend) and its really killing me. Im just so fucking fed up, Ben knows that me and Emily still like eachother and havent seen eachother for 3 months, and to me it seems really selfish. He has other friends, why cant he leave us the fuck alone for a while?

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So pissed off right now.

[UnViaje]

prolly likes to watch

[BobBong]

Maybe he's trying to make you see the light? you say this is your old girlfriend.. and that she is even moving away soon.. So why are you resurfacing old, painful feelings? Only to hurt yourself AGAIN over this girl... You say you're not using for sex.. and that's good.. but have you stopped to think that maybe it's the other way around and that she is simply getting her fill before she moves away.

Sound to me like this guy sees more of the light than you do..

But don't take my word for it..

Bob.

[Kid Dynamite]

/\/\/\ i think bob heres got a good point.


but if you dont agree with him, then i suggest that you just take this Ben guy aside and say to him exactly what you said to us, that youd really appreciate it if he would back off a bit and let you two get some time alone. Either that, or arrnage to go somewhere with her where you know he wont be, and dont let him find out where you'r going.

[Skrappie]

wait. Youre seeing youre ex, who is moving soon and its not for sex? Someone has smoked too much, or maybe not enough.

Why tear a cut open just so it can heal again?

[Tom Swierzbinski]

I really shouldve listened to you guys... something happened, not gonna say what yet (if at all, its painful just to think about it) but in future Im taking your advice.

[birdgirl73]

Sorry to hear the bad news, Swizzy, whatever it is. Hope the pain goes away soon, hon.

[slipknotpsycho]

my money's on he caught her with ben.... either just hanging out, or intimately... not trying to stir up feelings or nothing, just as i read your post i couldn't help but wonder if he was inbetween you guys because they have feelings for each other, or he just has feelings for her...

i'm not gonna lie to you, the pain won't go away forever, there'll always be those memories and the times when you just can't help but think to yourself all your what ifs and i wishes.... but that's still no reason to torture yourself wtih something that will never be.

[soldier1944]

hmm...that kind of happened to me before... Ive just got out of a 1 year relationship and this kid we'll call F was friends with my g/f b4 i went out with her. so when we started going out he'd always be around, ive always knew he liked her.. Well now that we broke up.. he and her are going out.. Some friend right?

edit: i also found pics of her on his phone before of her sleeping.. when confronted he claims her cousin took the pictures with his phone.. Kid's a creep and has always been obsessed with her

[slipknotpsycho]

hmm...that kind of happened to me before... Ive just got out of a 1 year relationship and this kid we'll call F was friends with my g/f b4 i went out with her. so when we started going out he'd always be around, ive always knew he liked her.. Well now that we broke up.. he and her are going out.. Some friend right?

edit: i also found pics of her on his phone before of her sleeping.. when confronted he claims her cousin took the pictures with his phone.. Kid's a creep and has always been obsessed with her

FPOA

i'll let yal figure out what that means...

[Gothen]

FPOA

i'll let yal figure out what that means...

Please tell me what it means, Psycho! I don't get it! :confused:

I've only had one friend go after an ex of mine. Me and him had been friends since 4th grade, and this was just last year during my senior year. Actually, now that I think about it, it went deeper than that. But, it was my fault, really. I told him I didn't mind if he went for her, but I did.

Anyway, me and her started talking again, and I found out he had been talking to her too. This girl was just a bitch, though. Come to find out she was just working both of us against each other, and that she had someone ELSE on the side.

Me and him are completely cool now, though. We both realized how completely fucking stupid it was of us to do that. In the end, as they say, we're better for it, though.

Women. HA :mad:

[S.P.Q.R.]

Man i'm sorry to hear about that shit. Women can be the most hurtful, evil, sadistic bitches who only want to tear out every human part of you and shit on it (alot of them anyway). I've been hurt way too many times. My advice is, watch your ass. If you get into a relationship, be cautious, because something bad WILL happen and it WILL make you feel like shit. Just make sure you can take it first.

[slipknotpsycho]

Please tell me what it means, Psycho! I don't get it! :confused:

I've only had one friend go after an ex of mine. Me and him had been friends since 4th grade, and this was just last year during my senior year. Actually, now that I think about it, it went deeper than that. But, it was my fault, really. I told him I didn't mind if he went for her, but I did.

Anyway, me and her started talking again, and I found out he had been talking to her too. This girl was just a bitch, though. Come to find out she was just working both of us against each other, and that she had someone ELSE on the side.

Me and him are completely cool now, though. We both realized how completely fucking stupid it was of us to do that. In the end, as they say, we're better for it, though.

Women. HA :mad:

ok ok... Future Predator of America

[Tom Swierzbinski]

Man i'm sorry to hear about that shit. Women can be the most hurtful, evil, sadistic bitches who only want to tear out every human part of you and shit on it (alot of them anyway). I've been hurt way too many times. My advice is, watch your ass. If you get into a relationship, be cautious, because something bad WILL happen and it WILL make you feel like shit. Just make sure you can take it first.

Men can also be those hurtful, sadistic bastards too. And as for a relationship, well Im really not looking for one until Ive done all the courses I want to at college, which will be at least 3 years from now.
Thanks for the kind words everyone... and no, I didnt catch her doing anything with Ben lol. Hes already taken.

[crudemood]

wow love sucks. everyday i just see more and more proof of it. or maybe im just super pessimistic.

sorry to hear that happened to you Tom. time will heal . give it some time.
ive been there.. my condolences.

[Gothen]

wow love sucks. everyday i just see more and more proof of it. or maybe im just super pessimistic.


No. You're right.







Love sucks.

[Kryzco]

That sucks Tom, you better off without her, if it didn't work the first time, it most likely won't work the second time around

hope all looks up for you

[Zohar]

Aye, I had a similar situation but I was older...only by about 4 years, but trust me that makes a big difference. Best thing you can do is try to put her out of memory, and if your friend Ben did kinda screw with her behind your back...well he wasn't really in the wrong but it still is a shitty thing to do to a friend. Even if she's an ex, your friends should not be the ones to rebound on your ex...

Bros before Ho's is a motto people around where I'm from seem to live by (the good ones).

Life will go on, and I think I read you are planning on starting college soon. Your life will change in ways you cannot even comprehend yet if you plan on going, chances are you will look back on your life at your senior year of college (when that day arrives) and marvel at what happened, it'll be all good.

[robert42]

or... he might fancy u? ever thought of that?

[Tom Swierzbinski]

or... he might fancy u? ever thought of that?

I always know who to turn to for optimism :p Im pretty sure he doesnt fancy me, he never flirts with me etc. Thank God.
Zohar, thats a good motto Ill have to remember that one, and Ive already started college :)

[shoi]

no woman no cry


in my case tho its no woman cry... altho u could argue that if there were no women then i wouldnt have to be sad for not having one since there are none hence no woman no cry anyway, but thats not hte world we live in