A Question to All Girls

[ShWeave]

Would you rather be asked by a guy if he can kiss you, or just have the guy try to kiss you out of the blue?

ex1- talking about something kinda deep, etc. then ask

[ShWeave]

Would you rather be asked by a guy if he can kiss you, or just have the guy try to kiss you out of the blue?

ex1- talking about something kinda deep, etc. then be asked, "Can I kiss you?"

or

ex2- talking about something kinda deep, etc. then be asked, "Guy trys to kiss you."


Because this weekend a girl and I hung out at a party and I really wanted to kiss her at the moment. I just didn't know if it was appropiate or not?

This girl and I hang out like all the time though, almost every day. Lately though I feel like I really like her and she kinda likes me. Like at the party she asked me to kiss her on the cheak, after I won a game of beer pong for us. I thought that could be a just like a "YES we Won!"

I just want to know if it would be ok for us to kiss/makeout b/c I dont want to ruin what we have right now.

[ShWeave]

sorry double-post

[PaulCT7]

Now I am a dude. But this is how I see it, if you ask, they are gonna be like, damn, is this dude a vagina? There isnt room for two.

In my opinion, it is a risk that you have to be willing to take, and if you are close friends, and talk as you say you do, she will accept it.

Be confident, from what I hear, chicks dig that. And go with your gut feeling.

Paul

PS. I had three tongues in my mouth last weekend, so I have to be doign something right. Hahaha

[TheLion]

You don't necessarily have to ask her, but you need to make sure she wants you to kiss her. You do that by reading her body language and seeing how she reacts to your advances. For example, you're sitting down with a girl in your arms and you want to kiss her. You make a slight advance, like rubbing her inner thigh, if she seems to enjoy it, go ahead and make another advance. The next logical advance would be to gently carress her neck and earlobes with your fingers. If she exposes more neck and obviously enjoys it, look at her in the eyes, move her hair from her face slowly and move in slowly for the kiss.

[birdgirl73]

Somehow I'm not completely convinced on PaulCT7's strategy, and if he had three tongues in his mouth this past weekend, I'm guessing he's probably not exactly discriminating about romance and relationships. (Sorry, Paul, but it's true. ) Speaking as a "chick," yeah, we dig confidence but we also dig gentlemen. I think the idea of asking is nice. It's not like you're begging or anything, and ladies like it when they feel like they have a say in how things are going. When the time's right, you can just say something flattering like "I have the strongest urge to kiss you right now. Would you mind?" Then you can go for it and take Lion's approach to moving further. Don't you think that'd be a lot better than feeling the urge and leaning in there and finding out you were reading her signals wrong and she didn't want that at all?

Good luck!

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Spontanaeity is good, but so is being a gentleman.

I'm a gentleman, but I think I'd know the appropriate time for a kiss :).

Maybe.

[yoda]

its better when its kinda random. girl #1 from my situation, one time i asked her if it was alright to kiss her, which it was. i was joking about that the other night with her, and she said never ask, just go for it. so thats my answer to you.

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

It could go either way... :)

[Polymirize]

...You make a slight advance, like rubbing her inner thigh, if she seems to enjoy it, go ahead and make another advance. The next logical advance would be to gently carress her neck and earlobes with your fingers. If she exposes more neck and obviously enjoys it, look at her in the eyes, move her hair from her face slowly and move in slowly for the kiss.

Well yeah, I wouldn't discount any of that off hand. But it seems like he's talking about a 'first kiss' situation.

And I have never pulled off the inner thigh caress before the first kiss. I've never even tried. If you're unsure as to whether or not she's willing to kiss you, I'm guessing caressing the inner thigh will polarize the situation. Quickly.

I dunno though, maybe it would work out.

ladies?

[Its a Plant]

well before the first time I kissed my ex g/f a longgg while ago, we were at a party and she was all over me, including caressing my thigh. Then some time later I finally recognized what was going on, lol, and went for it. Best thing I ever did. She was a bit of a fa-reeekk if you know what I mean.

It just varies girl to girl, and if you know her as well as it sounds you do, then you'll know when the time is right. The way she looks at you has a lot to do with it, so always be on your toes and listen to your gut instinct!

[TheLion]

I am talking about a first kiss situation.
And ya, you have to know how to read girls if you're gonna attempt it in that way.

[gramzzilla420]

lion agree u have to read the body language... p.e.n.g.u.i.n. has the right idea on this one... lol... the rub on inner thigh... thats a good one... ha ha

[insanity]

Body language is super important. A febig step to see if they are intrested is if they mimick your body language in casual conversation. Then when the time is right slowly make your move and build up to a kiss that preferably leads to sex.

[Reefer Rogue]

Just be like: Tryin to make out? Done.

[muncheemama]

dont ask....be a man, claim it...confidence is a huge turn on

[msactech1]

When I decide to kiss a girl, I just do it. Of course I been married to her for eight years.
Heck with a kiss. I do coon-ass foreplay. I role over. I don't think about stuff like that anymore so here's my :twocents:

[msactech1]

..even though I'm not a girl. Equal opportunity, right?

[PiscesIscariot]

kiss me out of the blue :)

[psychopixi]

Depends.

If you read her body language correctly, then an out of the blue kiss can be quite a turn on. Before I got with one of my ex's we were flirting, and he just leaned in and kissed me right after saying something dirty. I wasn't complaining in the least and we ended up going out.

But if you read her body language incorrectly you're setting yourself up for a very embarassing situation. There's no harm in asking whether it would be cool to kiss her, provided you do it in the right way. Stuttering and stammering is probably not the way to go, unless she like the cute&shy type. Another ex of mine, again before we were going out, was telling me how much he liked me, and that he'd really like to spend more time with me and finished off this really long speech with "but can't I just kiss you now?" and that worked as well.

Good luck either way!

[JunkYard]

I've never asked; I just move in when I 'feel it', ya know?

I don't think there is one right answer here. Every girl is different; if you ask first, she may think you come off ass weak, but if you move in before it's time, you risk rejection.

I've never been afraid of rejection, so I just go for it. I'd advise you to do the same, but like I said, every girl is different, and she might actually find it flattering if you ask first, lol!

I don't know...just do what feels right, man! ;)

[friendowl]

its true
the worst that can happen is she'll slap your mouth
when you feel that magnetic love force
just kiss her and see what happens

[Cheery Cherry]

I think you should just go for it without asking. Some of it is in the body language but her eyes will tell you a lot too. If she avoids looking into your eyes, and I mean looking into them longingly, then you know she's not ready to take it to the next level.

For me personally, I'd want a guy to just shut up and kiss me. If I didn't like the guy, I would tell him that it wasn't cool but I wouldn't slap him...especially if we were friends. I would be very flattered. And don't go for the touching her thigh thing...I think that's a bit more than a kiss. A kiss is a kiss...yes, it can be very intimate but it can also be a kiss you give to your pet. Touching the thigh thing is very personal and intimate. It's a step up from a kiss, in my opinion.

[graymatter]

First off, Cheery, that's quite an avatar you got there... mezmerizing.

I recall some discussion about "readiness" and there was a huge difference between genders... polar opposites: impulse on the one end; reason on the other. I'll let you figure out who goes where :thumbsup: Personally, I think that chemistry is the beauty of our natures...

[baisez le monde.]

mehhh..
well i find it more akward for a guy to ask
id rather him just lean in

[PureEvil760]

Theres deffinatly an art to the first kiss, I prefer ever so slightly licking the upper lip before going in for the kill. If your nerves are shot dont even try it will just lead to bad kisses. It sounds to me like she wants you bad so just go for it, dont worry about how your going to do it once you start it should turn into somthing beautiful.

[roxy]

out of the blue... i like surprises... its a bit cheesy if they ask for permission... unless its someone you really would not want to kiss, then thats different... then i would hope they would ask first!

[spiked666killer]

You will just know when the time is right. You should hook up with her first upon kissing her then you know it is probly alright if you two are going out for a while.Tell her how you feel don't be scared the most she can do is say she feels the same or she doesn't. There alot more people out there for you to meet dont let things ever reck your life over one person its not worth it.it took me 7 months to get over some one I really loved. I was a mess at the time.

[Pride]

I may not be a woman.
But my father always told me something that I thought was very true and useful, so keep this in mind.

Everyone likes to be liked.

If you're too shy, have you ever thought that maybe they like the fact that they are liked?

[thewild0ne]

i think it's probably a personal preference. but mine (and i'm willing to bet most other girls') would be just doing it, not asking. confidence is crazy sexy.
--&no, there definitely is NOT room for two vaginas. lol

[SativaSoldier]

I'm not a chick, but I think I can offer a little advice. The most important thing is body language; if you're talking to a girl and she's standing at a comfortable distance from you, not touching or anything, then she's probably not interested in a kiss. However, in this circumstance you can try moving a little closer, maybe touching her hand, and see how she reacts. If you're talking about something more personal than plain friendly chatting and she starts getting closer, chances are you can go for the hand or hug, then for a kiss.

[HIGHRYDER]

PS. I had three tongues in my mouth last weekend, so I have to be doign something right. Hahaha

Or something very very wrong.

[Beccaelaine]

Kissin out of the blue is always cool if you know yourself youd kiss the person makin the move ..cause its totally unexpected