Im 18... and could be a father...

[Swizzy89304]

Ive done some stupid shit in my time, but nothing comes close to what happened at the weekend. Ive tried speed once, and although I thought that was pretty dumb, it doesnt come anywhere near this.

Unprotected sex.

So I invite my girl to sleep round at the weekend, and she says yeah. We buy a bottle of wine, some vodka and rent a movie, and before you know it were both pretty drunk. Clothes start gradually coming off, and I gain the confidence to 'venture south'. I think I spent a good 30-45 mins going down on her, and when shes finished (yes thats right - when SHES finished) she climbs on top of me and starts kissing me. Thats when I think 'Ill make sure we dont have sex, because I dont have any protection'. But in a little while shes rubbing herself against my nether regions, and Im the horniest that Ive ever been. So I 'grab myself' and start to rub it against her... then I slide in.
Wow. Im a virgin (was), and although it hurts a little at first, after a few strokes its a pretty good feeling - and a nice fit aswell ;)

Luckily I didnt come inside her - I asked her to 'finish me off' as I was scared of coming inside her without protection, but lately shes been saying that shes feeling sick and it "feels weird down there". I dont think that I broke her in, as shes had sex before (although she said it was with someone who was huge, so she made him stop because it was hurting so much), but I know that it can break just by riding a bike/horse etc.
Im really worried that I might have got her pregnant, but to be honest Im more worried what her parents and my parents will have to say about it! I really dont want a kid at 18/19, but if I do, then I know that Ill be a good dad and she'll be a good mum.
Abortion is a BIG no-no!
I think we might go to the hospital later in the week to have her checked out, do you think it would be a good idea if I was tested for STD's as Ive never been in a sexual relationship before (been in physical ones though).

Im so confused.

Edit: This happened Saturday night/Sunday morning, and she came off her period on Thursday if that helps anyone.

[hutch b tokin]

Ive done it alooot more than I should have...Just be careful next time...If she IS pregnant, then we will just assume God hates you and go from there.
:thumbsup:

[LIP]

Well that could be a problem, but im sure if she is you'll both make great parents. Going to the hospital is the best way to find out.

You wont have any STD's from other relationships, so unless shes got any. your ok!

Goodluck, i hope you hear the news you both want to

[friendowl]

damn boy
you got youself a taste of poon
if you didnt nut in her then she probobly aint
pregnant.that was a smart move to have her finish you off
if she aint pregnant than your lucky.having a baby is like
sentencing yourself to a wonderful prison.
good luck and buy some rubbers

[Swizzy89304]

Cheers for the help Hutch, LIP and Friendowl. It was so damn tempting to come inside her, but there were 2 things telling me not to:

1. She said shes had the morning after pill before, and it fucked her body up.
2. I dont wanna sleep in the wet patch.

[LIP]

lol, well its a good job you didnt blow your load in her.

[friendowl]

me im an idiot
i woulda nutted in her and ran off
she thinks my name is oliver

[muncheemama]

this weekend? She cant feel pregers yet, shes just trying to get attention, maybe...dont freak yourself out dude. If shes late then freak out, and if she is, fuck the parents, youre an ADULT and you have to raise it they dont. She isn't. But I hope you learned your lesson. And as for the pull out method, I don't think I would be here or even many of us stoners (or my oldest son, woops) if it worked. get her on some birth control, because condoms suck, people don't use them, especially since you tried it once without, now youre addicted.

[Mr.420]

Ok, her is a little bit of a physiology lesson:

Most women have a 28 day cycle. The start of that cycle begins with the mestrual perion which lasts 1-5 days. Day 6-12 the endometrium begins to repair itself. Day 13-14 is the ovulatory period. Then, days 15-28, the uterus prepares itself for fertilization, if this does not occur, on the 28th day the process starts over.

This means that your women has only a 48 hour period in a whole month in which she can get pregant. You said her period ended on Thursday and this occurance happened on Saturday; I would say she is NOT pregnant. Don't sweat it.

I would let my big head start doing the thinking!

[muncheemama]

Ok, her is a little bit of a physiology lesson:

Most women have a 28 day cycle. The start of that cycle begins with the mestrual perion which lasts 1-5 days. Day 6-12 the endometrium begins to repair itself. Day 13-14 is the ovulatory period. Then, days 15-28, the uterus prepares itself for fertilization, if this does not occur, on the 28th day the process starts over.

This means that your women has only a 48 hour period in a whole month in which she can get pregant. You said her period ended on Thursday and this occurance happened on Saturday; I would say she is NOT pregnant. Don't sweat it.

I would let my big head start doing the thinking!
coach peterson?? Holy Shit, I knew you got high...you were the best health teacher we had...:thumbsup:

[Fan o KmK]

umm....morning after pill?
abortion?
dont fuck up next time? lol.

[tblueyes]

Sorry I cant help you out there but all I can say is, Looks like you got the short end of the stick... you lose your virginity and get a knocked up at the same time.

[Lepp]

Dude, if you're really worried, just get a home pregnancy test.

[OtterPop]

Dont sweat it swizz,


If she does have one cookin in the oven you just come to OP's fuggen backalley clinic, no paper trail and its at half the price.

[thcbongman]

Unless you know this person real well, you better get tested. It hurts a little, but well worth knowing you don't have any STDs.

[infinitelyimprobable]

Honestly, the chances of her being pregnant from that are infinitely small, I wouldn't worry about it. Unless she has a REALLY irregular period, she's 99% not ovulating anyway... plus if you pulled out, there is a VERY small quantity of sperm in precum - its theoretically possible, but would be absolutely shocking statistically. Her feeling weird is probably psychological, she may also have gotten bruised or chafed or something if there wasn't enough lube or you didn't know what you were doing (no offence, no one knows what they're doing the first time, practice makes perfect!). Buy some rubbers, keep some with you all the time, just to be safe. If you're going to be sleeping with her regularly, double your protection - have her go on the pill too. Whatever you do, DON'T USE TWO CONDOMS AT ONCE - the two rubbing against each other are MUCH more likely to break than if you just use one.

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

If she's had to get the morning after pill before, then obviously she should be aware enough to not possibly fuck up again?

I agree with what mostly everyone else said... odds are, she's not pg. And even if she was, she wouldn't have symptoms this soon. Use protection next time- and not just for the pregnancy factor, but to prevent against STD's!

[zip]

me im an idiot
i woulda nutted in her and ran off
she thinks my name is oliver

im so higih and this is so FUNHY hhaHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHAHhaHAhA friendowl u should be on stand-up, the random shit u say just gets to me everytime LOLO

[cannabis campbell]

Mornng after pills works 72 hours after, get her to take it just incase, how long ago was it

[LIP]

lol friendowl... "Oliver" :):)

[dog420]

1st off...congrats for poppin ya cherry! ;)

most kids are made through "crap/shitty/quicky" sex! If you plan it then unlikley she wont come pregnant, its usally wen its quick and crap lol

I have 3 kids, im only 26.....most times i have made her preg. is wen we have a quickie or something like that....just watch her periods, if they late like a week or so then do a test!

Best of luck mate!

Peace

[paparose]

bro relax , she is not pregnant...you know how hard to get someone pregnant? you have no idea, if the timing aint right even you come in her 1000 times she wont get pregnant.
I have been having sex without rubber with my gf without getting her pregnant.
here is the trick, first week after her period and last week prior her period you can come inside, cause the egg is not ready to be fertilized at that moment. I am 33 and counting the days work like a charm for me.

[MorbidImpishFae]

Very unlikely that she's pregnant.

Just in case... (http://mollysavestheday.blogspot.com/2006/02/for-women-of-south-dakota-abortion.html)

Okay, that was tacky, I apologize in advance lol.

[Swizzy89304]

Phew, did a pregnancy test and everything came out negative.
Thank god. Although that kinda sucked - after spending £20 on a pregnancy test, I no longer had any cash left for condoms.

Run from Fear
Fun from Rear

[benagain]

I beleive it's too soon to have any signs or a result show up on a preggo test. I forget the math, I'll have to ask my wife when she gets in. I think it all depends on her cycles and shit.

[orangeman]

...and although I thought that was pretty dumb, it doesnt come anywhere near this.

Unprotected sex.


And this is why I carry 2 condoms with me in my wallet no matter where I go and I never do the shit without one :).

[Jacop]

Screw it abortion is fine with me -- my respect for human life was lost after i went TO that PETA website..(people for the ethical treatment of animals) and then i came to the stunning realization we might as well just consider out selves all hambrger meat --- but hamburger meant that you can respect (bangs head to sublime cd 40 0z to freedom)

[UIowaHawk17]

Well, if you were a pro-choice person and you didn't have a problem with the ECP, you could have went that route. You have to take it within 24-48 hours though I believe, and then another pill a little bit after that. The earlier taken the more effective. Its not an abortion pill either, it simply prevents the egg from becoming implanted in the Uterus like a normal bc pill. But its a little late for that.

Tell her to go to a doctor and get checked out so you can have more time to figure things out if she actually does turn up pregnant.

[UIowaHawk17]

Cheers for the help Hutch, LIP and Friendowl. It was so damn tempting to come inside her, but there were 2 things telling me not to:

1. She said shes had the morning after pill before, and it fucked her body up.
2. I dont wanna sleep in the wet patch.


Didn't notice this last part. Disregard last post.

[slipknotpsycho]

Ok, her is a little bit of a physiology lesson:

Most women have a 28 day cycle. The start of that cycle begins with the mestrual perion which lasts 1-5 days. Day 6-12 the endometrium begins to repair itself. Day 13-14 is the ovulatory period. Then, days 15-28, the uterus prepares itself for fertilization, if this does not occur, on the 28th day the process starts over.

This means that your women has only a 48 hour period in a whole month in which she can get pregant. You said her period ended on Thursday and this occurance happened on Saturday; I would say she is NOT pregnant. Don't sweat it.

I would let my big head start doing the thinking!
i'm actually shocked no one said anything about this yet... do not take this to heart, a woman can get pregnant in more than 48 hours in a month.... alot more....

[muncheemama]

i'm actually shocked no one said anything about this yet... do not take this to heart, a woman can get pregnant in more than 48 hours in a month.... alot more....
I think no one said anything because....um, well it's true....

Just smoked and had a thought, what if shes already knocked up with some other dudes baby, but she is saying it's you because she wants your money...Look into that

[slipknotpsycho]

http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/preconception/exbp26.htm

Q. I'm trying to become pregnant again so I'm trying to predict when I'm fertile. I'm under the impression if you have a 28 day cycle it's 14 days after the first day of your last period. If you have a 30 day cycle it's 15 days. And that you are fertile for 48 hours, meaning you can only get pregnant two days out of the month. Also, how long does a man's sperm stay "alive". Is it 72 hours?
A. If you have a 28 day cycle, you will generally ovulate on day 14. If you have a 35 day cycle, you will ovulate on day 21. In other words, the first part of the cycle (prior to ovulation) is where the variation is. You will, as a rule, begin your period 14 days after you ovulate, if the egg is not fertilized.

Sperm live 72 hours (the best swimmers usually give up at about 48 hours, however) and the egg about 48.

So, based on a 28 day cycle, if you have intercourse on day 12, and ovulate on day 14, you can get pregnant. If you ovulate on day 14, have intercourse on day 16, you can get pregnant. If you are lucky, and the sperm are REALLY good swimmers, you could get pregnant as early as day 11, all the way through day 16-17.

So that gives you about 5-6 days/month you might find yourself fertile!


the egg lives for 48 hours, that doesn't mean as long as you don't have sex durring this certain 48 hour period, that you/she can't get pregnant... i guess we're both right, it depends on how you take it. i took the statement as the old "if i have sex durring such and such day i can't get pregnant even if i don't use birthcontrol". i felt i needed to correct that, before someone makes a mistake and winds up pregnant based on that information.

[muncheemama]

http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/preconception/exbp26.htm


the egg lives for 48 hours, that doesn't mean as long as you don't have sex durring this certain 48 hour period, that you/she can't get pregnant... i guess we're both right, it depends on how you take it. i took the statement as the old "if i have sex durring such and such day i can't get pregnant even if i don't use birthcontrol". i felt i needed to correct that, before someone makes a mistake and winds up pregnant based on that information.
agreed, it would be irresponsible for the adults of the forum to encourage any sort of birth control based on days and timing. especially for a teenager, most 18 year olds are not aware of their bodies cycle and how to know if youre ovulating...get some birthcontrol..