What should i do (Big problem)

[Terps]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.

[turtle420]

Wow dude....

My best advice?

Call your girlfriend... tell her you love her, and you need help.

Then, go to a church... they'll help you there.

Want to change... don't think about changing.

There's a moment when you have to become a man... your time is up dude... I mean, Sir.

Best,

-turtle420 :cool:
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[stangle12]

wooooweee boy you fucked up.

[Nochowderforyou]

Man, you got some problems. You make it sound like stealing the drugs isn't your fault, it's the drugs fault. :rolleyes:

You also ran away when you couldn't fess up to your fuck up, literally.

Advice, get help for your addiction and be happy that your girlfriend hasn't thrown a molotov cocktail through your window.

[C4nn4Bliss]

Wow man you are in a pickle, but you got yourself in it and you gotta get yourself out. Honesty is always the best policy so you should face the music and call your girl tell her what happened. As for your addiction no program or clinic is going to help unless YOU want to quit in the first place, thats the problem most people have and most people dont understand. You have to want the best for yourself and your girlfriend or your relationship wont go anywhere and most likely will crumble from underneath you. You made a mistake and you gotta pay for it, plain and simple man. If you wanna make things right go back to the house (when your sober) and explain you are sorry and you made a mistake and you arent perfect but you want to try and make things as right as possible. Nobody can promise you that things will work out but keep a good honest additude and hope for the best man.

IMO i think drugs like mushrooms or acid hold a healing power for people with addictions that they cant break, might be something you should look into?

Fix your problem, Learn from it, and move on dont dwell on it

[somebody someone]

well firstly take all the pills, secondly... u ruined alot of shit for your girlfriend...

i think instead of making her feel sorry for the addict u are u really ort to be trying to make things up to her, and doing what it takes to keep her. Even if it means giving up drugs,,

there i said it

[Genuine17]

be like umm i stole them for a friend

[C4nn4Bliss]

Im not one for substituing one drug for another especially if you have an addictive personality like you but i used to do hard drugs and pull jacks and all that jazz but i eventually i learned that out of all the drugs i did cannabis was the least harmful so i ditched all the others for the love of cannabis, im not sure if you yourself are capable of this but i would suggest it as a start!!!

[C4nn4Bliss]

be like umm i stole them for a friend

shut the fuck up that would just make him look like a liar

[somebody someone]

shut the fuck up that would just make him look like a liar

hey i found it funny

[C4nn4Bliss]

i dunno how thats funny but thats besides the fact taht this guy came to us for help and obviously he is really lookin for good advice and that guy spittin some stupid crap doesnt help

[Terps]

Alright thank you for the advice for real. i like that quote about becomming a man and i plan to use it when i go and appologize to them in a few min. this is going to be hard as fuck but i owe it to them and i owe it to my girl. Fuck drugs i cant handle them...come monday im going to go get help...Thank you to all who helped will see how this goes

[C4nn4Bliss]

good luck bro

drugs stab you in the back!

[del...]

you could start by being a man about it and giving them back their pills immediately! it's the right thing to do, first of all and you'll feel better about yourself. otherwise you'll go through the rest of your miserable life knowing god was correct and wallow in self-hatred until you die. you have expressed no thoughts at all about the relationship between the soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend and the people you ripped off yet you're crying over a broken love??? all you seem to care about is yourself and until you change that you are doomed to a lonely life. i doubt very much if you'll find much sympathy here or anywhere.

[SyR1S]

Best advice: please use paragraphs, i cant read that big clump of letters.

[VoidLivesOn]

Dude you didn't do shit wrong.Try thinking outside the box.Those people were just greedy assholes who didn't wanna share there pills.

[LIP]

Good luck man. Your doing the right thing, and even though i dont know you, i belive that you can do it. Stay safe bro.

[soldier1944]

damn bro, u should of just stole like 4 from each bottle...lmfao

[the joint meister]

^^ ur right on the money thur soldier

peace out

[d00d989]

god theres alot of people posting retarded answers to a guy asking for help.

call your girlfriend, and tell her about your drug problem.

go get help NOW.
not next monday, not next week, NOW
if you wait you might change your mind about wanting to get help, so go as soon as possibly can.

[SyR1S]

damn bro, u should of just stole like 4 from each bottle...lmfao

thats what id do

[yoda]

well they always say admitting is the first step. and teh way you handled the situation after all teh shit went down, shows that it is a problem for you.

[tootsie roll]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.

You are a huge jerk. This part was pretty sickening. not the fact that I stole pills from someone with cancer or anything like that but ..... You stole a sick womans medication???????????
Yes, you need to get some help asap.

[Kryzco]

I agree with yoda

you can't get help unless you want it, and if you want it solely to save your relationship, its not gonna work

because if that girl breaks up with u, ur gonna go back to those pills for comfort, back at square one

I think you should call her, be honest, and don't look for sympathy because she's gonna be pissed as hell and probably tell you to fuck off, you gotta be a man about this and take responsibilty for what you did and try to make your amends, even if your girl doesn't take you back, you still need help, and you should try to get it

you running away made the situation much worse, but I'm not raggin on you for it, I've been there


Wow dude....

My best advice?

Call your girlfriend... tell her you love her, and you need help.

There's a moment when you have to become a man... your time is up dude... I mean, Sir.

Best,

-turtle420

i think this is one of the smartest things I heard

because of my religion I won't suggest going to a church, because IMO i believe it is wrong to try to make God solve your problem when you are the one who brought it upon yourself

BTW when you talk to her try to let her know that you are sincere about your apology, and that the drugs made you become that, that it isn't you, because from my experience, drugs do make you do shit you would have never thought you would

Stay strong man, hope all goes well for u

[GluteusMaximus]

The reason we don't play with matchbox cars and tonka trucks when we're over 10 years old is because we simply outgrew these activities. The kids we play with also outgrew these activites so there's no reason for us to continue playing with those child toys. As we get older and our values change, our "toys" are replaced with things much more appealing to our adult lives. As children we can't see the value in investing in a savings account for a car we can buy when we're old enough to drive. This is much like relationships. Convincing you to save and invest in your relationship is like trying to convey to a child the importance of saving one day for a car when they're much too young to see the value in transportation. You are still "playing" with a toy that you enjoy (pills) and have discovered that if you don't already own them, you can swipe them from somebody else.

The problem....You have created a situation with your girlfriend that needs addressed immediately. Her finding out that you are doing drugs is nothing compared to the damage you did when you embarrased her in front of those who trusted her, and then you abandoned her to deal with them alone. If this is the girl you could spend your whole life with, then you should begin to invest in that relationship a little more. One day you will outgrow the drugs. The question is, will you outgrow them before or after you break up with her? If you outgrow them before you destroy your trust and confidence with your girlfriend, then one day you'll get to look back and thank your lucky stars you gave up your tonka toy for something valuable that you'll never outgrow....a loving relationship! The alternative is you will one day outgrow those drugs and not have that relationship to take it's place.

It's all a matter of perspective. Getting over an addiction is like accelerating your growing up. Just like the others said, you'll quit when you want to. By this I mean you will outgrow the drugs, not just "want" to outgrow them.

Here is what I would do. First off call the folks she was babysitting for and apologise to them and make sure they are aware that your girlfriend knew nothing of your actions and clear her name completely. Protect her like you should and would for the rest of your life. This will be difficult and you probably won't get much sympathy from them. Second, call her and apologise for embarrasing her and putting her in that situation. This is not about you, it's about what you did to her, so don't offer any excuses for your actions. Your drug problem is not the real issue, it's the damage you do because of the drug problem that is the issue. Third, grow up! Stealing is what children do. Running away from confrontation is also what kids do. Believe it or not, when you get older, nothing will scare you except being alone. Don't find yourself looking back at the relationship you could have had if you only had the foresight to see the true value in it. Additionally, women value men they can brag about and show off to their families and friends. They want someone who is a pillar of strength that they can lean on or come to when frightened. These are women "toys". We're lucky they think of us as their prized possessions and compare us to other husbands/boyfriends. If she's embarrased of you or sees nothing but weakness in you, she will trade you in for something she can be proud of.

Just remember when you're not sure of what you should do, imagine yourself 20 years older, married to the woman you love, enjoying the building of your lives together and think of what it takes to get to that point. The drugs seem like child toys by comparison.

GM

[turtle420]

because of my religion I won't suggest going to a church, because IMO i believe it is wrong to try to make God solve your problem when you are the one who brought it upon yourself

Howdy Kryzco, (<<- like Torog! :) )
Well, I don't believe in church either... but I don't think this is the time to ask him to revel against society...

I'm with you with solving your OWN problems.... but, this kids needs prayer. He needs prayer, worshipping, cleaning the windows, he needs to read the bible... he needs a church.

Preferably a Mormon church.

[chisme]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.





ok at first i was just gonnasn post a stupid message saying you a wanker for taking the pills and rooting throu other people houses but then i saw the bit at the bottom so im preparing myxelf to take this from your point-of-view.








advice (what i think u should do to help yourself)


go tot he peoples house tomorro (the peoples u stole from) swallow your pride and i know the fear is in the back of your mind but dont think of it just yet. now knock on the door and when they answer just say:

''look sir i know you dont wanna see me again but i just came alll the way back here walking to say well...i sorry i have a problem and i didnt control it im very sorry....'' now you could go even further and tell them about your problem if their willing to listen (probabky not tou)

if they guy gets violent with you thats fair enough u tried to say sorry after a calm down period to show you relly are sorry. so remember the fear and use it on him. not full on dont hurt him just put him on the floor and walk away and say im sorry sir but i tried. goodbye

tell your gf you have someproblem and u didnt wanna say nothing because you thought she might reject you..if she cares the slightest the fact you have prob she doesnt care about it ITS YOUR SHE LOVES...if not then trustr me your better off without epecially if their not there during times of need.

in the end u returned the pills........but still man i gtta say it and i knwo its not wha u wanna hear but i dont think the husband did wrong hitting you ..cmon you rooted through another persons house.....i would have done worse to you mate no offence but i would'ave.

geuss u can just say your sorry but admit it man u fooked up bad.

all u can do is try and out those mistakes right.
dont beat -yourself up to much we all make mistakes. i stole from someone when i was young and i nearly died as a result (i have a scar) but i didnt originaly steal from them it was a sorta mistamena(sp?) u knopw a guy said he say me do it when in fact i was somewhere else with another friend but they beleive him so to them i did steal.......that affected me and no-one dares call me a theif now because if some menthions theif these days your marked as a theif even if you've never stole in your life.. so if someone even mentions as a joke oo chris would nick it......i lose my nut...daying that shit can just get the wrong people in trouble because other peiople get the wrong end of the stick.


chisme's final though:


go say sorry its all you can do....and hope they accept i cant say you havent done something that bad..but the fact is what u did was one of the worst u abused trust and loves itself........i hope they can manage to forgive u. but its gonna be a loooong road.

[chisme]

Howdy Kryzco, (<<- like Torog! :) )
Well, I don't believe in church either... but I don't think this is the time to ask him to revel against society...




thank you

[chisme]

well firstly take all the pills, secondly... u ruined alot of shit for your girlfriend...

i think instead of making her feel sorry for the addict u are u really ort to be trying to make things up to her, and doing what it takes to keep her. Even if it means giving up drugs,,

there i said it


lol this guy has a point.







does finding car insurance drive ya craaaaazee!!! (scottish accent)


confused .com!! lmao (anouncer voice)

[Kryzco]

I'm not asking him to revel, its up to him what he chooses to do

its just my opinion

It works for some people

I dunno I just really have this thing against AA kind of programs how they tell you put all your faith in god because, again just my opinion, he wasn't the one who put the pills in your mouth, you did it, so what makes it ok to make god the one to carry the burden of your recovery

I'm not saying that him going to church is not the right route to go, maybe it is? I wouldn't know but I meant more like I as in myself, giving advice to a person, wouldn't tell them to go to church, but I wasn't trying to throw the idea out the window

hope that made sense

[dirty raider]

I think you've got more problems than just simply your girlfriend if you can't stop yourself lifting other peoples stuff. I think the best bet is firstly to appologise to your girlfriend explaining the situation but to be honest I wouldn't expect much.

Then I think its time to take a step back and have a look at where you stand. I'd say seek some help of someone and if possible stay clean for as long as possible including things like weed, alcohol etc.

Good luck matey, hope it all works itselft out.

[Big Bad Brit]

well firstly take all the pills, secondly... u ruined alot of shit for your girlfriend...

i think instead of making her feel sorry for the addict u are u really ort to be trying to make things up to her, and doing what it takes to keep her. Even if it means giving up drugs,,

there i said it

I agree with you he has a lot of making up to do.

[HiddenBeauty]

You should of got help earlier.I mean you must of known it was a problem yet you waited until something real bad like this happened.I hope you are not just feeling sorry for yourself and get the help you need.

[psychocat]

It's a choice man, admittedly it isn't easy but you are the only one who can make it happen.Get the help you need and well done for seeing your problem now rather than later .I hope its serious and not just crocodile tears.

[Kryzco]

You should of got help earlier.I mean you must of known it was a problem yet you waited until something real bad like this happened.I hope you are not just feeling sorry for yourself and get the help you need.

Well its known that most drug addicts who don't get help, or the ones that do and relapse never quite get it until they've hit their bottom, and for most that means death...

quite sad actually

keep us posted man, hope you get the help you need

[HiddenBeauty]

Most people just get help to please other people and that doesn't work.It has to be because you really want to.

[geonagual]

Good Story. Get help immediatly. It will help you get to a happy medium

[JustSayNo]

a bunch of flowers always worked for me,

have them delivered to her house with a personal note!

[HiddenBeauty]

I hate flowers and chocolates.

[JustSayNo]

I hate flowers and chocolates.

there not for you anyhow's so what's the big deal

[psychocat]

there not for you anyhow's so what's the big deal

I think what the poster is trying to say is that it won't work with all girls ,besides flowers are pretty lame for the size of fuck up we are talking about here.

[daima]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.

Shame and the worries of being humiliated, along with being exposed, stops many people from seeking help/advice. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and say to those you hurt and love, "i fucked up". You will be able to turn things a round once you confront your fears. Trust me.
If you were my kid that first thing you would get from me is a hug and support. Once you have calmed down and realise that those who love you wont desert you, you will get better. It might not happen the first time, or the second time, but with a good honest effort on your part, and the willingness to trust those closest to you, it will happen. Dont expect a miracle over-night. I imagine that it took you a while to become an addict, and i am even more sure that it will take a while to get a handle on your addiction. I would also leave the church out of it. They seem way tooooooooooo judgemental for my taste. Seek people who have gone through what you are going through, and ask for advice/help/guidance.
It looks as though you have some support here in the forum and i commend you for allowing us to give you input. This might not seem like a huge step on your part, but it is. Now, how do we keep you moving towards that which you seek? Communication? Openess? Trust? :thumbsup: You arent the only addict that is in need of help, although i'm sure for you it feels like it. Keep talking. Find those who you feel you can trust and let them know whats going on. You are worth every breath you take. ;)

dai*ma
The war on drugs have left addicts feeling like they cant come clean. What a shame.

[Reefer Rogue]

Would this of happened if you only smoked Weed? Nah, I didn't think so.

[UNDYINGIMAGE]

Fight the addiction,hard as it is.Let the girl go.

[friendowl]

live and learn
they'll get over it
you shouldnt have let that man hit you
you admitted to fucking up.
you should have beat his ass.

[Terps]

So, yesterday night I went back to the families house, the wife answered the door and I asked if I could come in and talk, right away she slammed the door on my face. So I started to walk back to my car all bummed out cause I thought this would be a good first step to getting my life turned around. Seconds later the husband came running out of the house and asked me if I would come in and talk to him, he apologized for his wifeâ??s actions and we proceeded inside.

once inside I made it clear to him that I was sorry and then out of no where I wasnâ??t even thinking about it at all its like words were just spewing out of my mouth I said "Thank you" they both turned and looked at me with sort of a pissed off look on there face and replied "Thank you for what?" I said "Thank you for showing me how big of a problem I have and showing me how rapped up in this game I am" immediately the wife started crying and gave me a hug, I also saw the husband choking on his tears I asked if we could sit down and talk some more, so we did.

when we sat down I told them over and over again that my girlfriend had absolutely nothing to do with this and that it was 100% my fault. I told them that as of Monday I am checking myself into an out patient drug therapy program at the local hospital (She gave me sum handouts on it and a few peoples phone numbers cause she works there herself) and I told them what I plan to do with my life in the feature. They both started to tear up again.

As I walked out the door both of them said at the same time, "If you have any problems or just want to talk about whets going on in your life stop back here any time, youâ??re always welcome in our doors. We also want to see you in a few months so we can see how rehab is going for you"

So I drove home feeling bigger and stronger already...Tell I got to my door to read this note...

OVER

You crushed me
You broke up in two
Pieces will separate
The pain is deep
I cry over you, you pathetic man
You deserve a ratâ??s life
You crushed our life, my life, her life
You crushed my everything
What the fuck is wrong with you
What were you thinking?
I was betrayed, hurt, used
You used me. You dirty piece of shit
You USED me, over and over again
Time and time again, you took advantage of me
The situations
You crushed me emotionally
It will take a long, bitter long time before I trust again
No more love, no more sex, no more me
A clean break, of open wound
You fucker, look at what you lost
Never again will you have me, never
NEVER
I wonâ??t look back, I wonâ??t
So you listen closely
You crushed me, but Iâ??ll crush you fuckin hard back

This brought tears to my eyes not because itâ??s "Over" but because I see just how much I hurt her and how much she cared for me.

So I wrote her a poem back...

I made a mistake, that's about all I know.
But my sorrow right now I wish to show.
I do not know exactly how bad it is.
But you and me, I'm starting to miss.
In plains words I do not know how to say.
I only wish I could take back that day.
My sincerity right now I hope you realize.
Because I'm trying my best to apologize.

And placed it in a box with all her stuff she had left at my house, I read all the cards she made me over and over again as I placed them in a box. Looked over all the pics she had left at my house of me and her and placed them in the box. I also wrote a note that said "Heres all your stuff, it means alot to me, but did you really mean what you wrote...if so give me a call" (On every single card from the first one she ever wrote me she always put in big bold letters "I love you" )

So I took this big box of all her stuff to her house and I didnâ??t know what I was going to do with it, I still donâ??t have the balls to hand it to her and say im sorry to her face, so I placed it a little bit under her car so she would find it in the morning.

So now itâ??s Monday and I go to the hospital to see what they can do and pretty much got told if I donâ??t have health insurance, Good luck getting help from professionals. So im going to give this a hard effort to clean my act up myself.

Day 1 Sober

Now thank you for the help so far but now comes the hardest part of all...How do I show my love that I am going to change and that I am going to become a better man and that I need her by my side to get threw all of this???

[Kryzco]

first of all congrats on taking a huge step forward, and making amends with those people, its good that you have their support

as for your girl, it may take time, and you are going to have a lot of proving to do, you have to understand, she thought she knew you, and loved you, but then it turns out that you've been living a lie, and the trust is gone at the moment, she's hurt, confused, and very pissed, so take baby steps

its may take a long time, she's going to have to be convinced that your are sober and are gonna stay sober

but be realistic man, you made a huge mistake, and you may have lost her for good, sorry to break your spirit on that one, but its the truth, but don't let it stop you from getting well, freeing yourself from addiction is the best gift you can give yourself

[Kryzco]

and also I wanted to say that you have my full support and you ever feel down and out and need someone to talk to i will be here, and I'm sure the rest of us will be here as well

stay strong and good luck!

[insanity]

Man, you made a good choice on going back to the peoples house and apologizing. It's not easy to admit you have a problem, and it takes balls to admit it to someone you've hurt like that.

[daima]

first of all congrats on taking a huge step forward, and making amends with those people, its good that you have their support

as for your girl, it may take time, and you are going to have a lot of proving to do, you have to understand, she thought she knew you, and loved you, but then it turns out that you've been living a lie, and the trust is gone at the moment, she's hurt, confused, and very pissed, so take baby steps

its may take a long time, she's going to have to be convinced that your are sober and are gonna stay sober

but be realistic man, you made a huge mistake, and you may have lost her for good, sorry to break your spirit on that one, but its the truth, but don't let it stop you from getting well, freeing yourself from addiction is the best gift you can give yourself

Good post. IMO it would be a good idea for this person to worry about self. I believe thats what you are suggesting. Once you can take care of self, others will be able to see the progress. Never be in a relationship to be taken care of. My dad use to tell me..."Everything is in your life because you put it there. What you choose to do with it is up to you"
I repeat those words everytime i have to take the time and figure things out....., which being a parent/grand parent, is quite often.

420 Peace,
dai*ma:stoned:

[Kryzco]

thanks

I agree, i was taught that as well

learn from your mistakes

choices have consequences be they good or bad, what you broke, you must fix

[Terps]

Fuck this shit, Fuck this bitch, Straight up i hope she burns in fucking hell....
So i get home from class, Felt good cause i turnd down a burn cruise for the first time in my life only to come home and find my car (chrysler 300, that i inherited from my mom when she passed away last year) mother fuckin keyd. Fuck this whore she wants to play these games this bitch is going to loose. i no it sounds like i have just turnd around and i am going down the same path, but last night i thought about it and i am NOT an addict, i just have to work on my self control. I am going to smoke dope but i am going to quit everything ealse...blow, pills, E (the list goes on) im a stoner for life always will be. but this bitch is pullin sum highschool shit and if she wants to play games count me in this bitch wont last long.

Im off buy a secruity system for my car and a secruity system for my house, sad that i have to spend the rest of the money i inherited on protecting my ass from this slut.

Then im off to slash that fat fucks tiers WHAT NOW FAT FUCK :dance:

as for all of you i can not show you how thankfull i am for all of your responses, you have helped me out alot. the night i started this thread i was going to take my life...OVER A FUCKING GIRL! thats one sad mother fucker, im going to become huge im going to become big and show this girl what SHE lost... Peace for now
~High till i die

[Kryzco]

Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn

thats really fucked up, and your right, that was a quick change of heart

she went way over the line, I had a radio stolen that my mom bought me before she died, so I totally understand what your feel right now

keep on tokin man, and glad to hear ur gettin off the pills

[Terps]

Kryzco, if i could man id give u a fuckin hug and than pass the blunt to your ass...

Kryzco = my shrink

[Kryzco]

dude do you have any instant messengers? we should chat sometime

[Terps]

Hell ya
xXihatethesimsXx - thats my Sn on aim

[Kryzco]

cool beans I'll add ya when I get the chance, because my comp has add and runs slow as fuck! its a pos

damn too bad you don't live in the chi, or else we would blaze!

and u hate the sims? awwww i kinda like them, fun setting them on fire and watching people cry over it

[Terps]

im dam close bro i live in milwaukee and go to school at the university there, thats just a hop / skip / jump to Chi~Town

[Kryzco]

damn! thats pretty cool

well if you ever come to visit be sure to hit me up!

just out of curiousity, how old are ya?

[Terps]

im 18
but my Id says im 21, thats just how i roll :cool:

[minnesota man]

Don't waste your money on the security shit.

She already got her revenge.

This is what you should do:

Call the dude you stole the pills from. Give 'em back if you still got 'em. Apologize. You don't have to explain anything. That's it. Wear the keyed car like a badge. She'll find out you apologized. She doesn't care if that dick asks her to babysit again. She'll find out you aplogized and then she'll want to apologize for what she did. If you do find yourself pilfering again, try to use your head a little.

[Kryzco]

cool!

I'm 18 too

sweet!

I wish my id said I was 21 I sure could use a bottle right about now

oh and minnesota man, I agree with ya, but then again she went way too far, and he already made amends with the people

[Terps]

dam i swear all ya ppl dont read/cant read
i said i gave the ppl there pills back cause they were screaming at my gf and she was in tears and then the guy smoked me right in my face (by smoked i mean wound up and cracked me one in the head)
So 1st off i gave there pills back
2nd i already appologized to them
3rd its a mother fuckin chrysler 300 and i have the money to get it fixxed
4th im not going to let her appologize to me. she fucked with my dead mothers shit that is a god dam discrase she new that car means the world to me
5th im going to be big im going to be huge im going to be sombody in this world, i will make her want me back just to stick her face in the dirt and take a big shit on her

[Kryzco]

lol take a big shit on her, I'm crackin up, thats a first to here that

but yeah especially if she knew that car meant that much, she deserves some form of retaliation, I also believe being the bigger man and all, but I went through my mother dying and I'd be damned to let someone disrespect me and my mother like that, you damn right they are going to get their just desserts

just be careful man, don't get into trouble now, it'd be a shame to spend some time in jail over that stupid whore

damn now you got me wanting to kick her ass, and I'm a female so its making it more tempting

[minnesota man]

It's cool dude. Sorry if I missed all that. It was a good story. You're so angry, you missed my point. People turn into the things they hate so yeah, that's all I'm saying. Sorry to be judgemental but if you think about, what is the anger doing for you? Use it wisely.

[HiddenBeauty]

So all of a sudden you don't have a problem and don't need help?It was very couragous of you to go to the door and face them again but it is weak of you to think that you don't need help.

[Skink]

Ha,,,A cop in my town got busted for raiding med cabinets last year...

[Terps]

how i look at it there are 2 Ez ways out of any situation
1) say your an addict
2)Kill yourself

just using the excuse "O but im an addict..." is fucking lame, think about it what makes u an addict, do these pills controll your life or do you just like how you feel when your on them

pills dont controll me i just LOVE the way they make me feel

i just need more self controll so i dont gank other ppls shit

as for this bitch shes a god dam poet... this is her latest work

i cry for you and over you and to you
my cheeks blacken with mascara streaks
my eyes swollen and puffy, barely open to see the ones i love
you hurt me so badly
i don't think i will ever come to look at you again
but you gave up
you gave up in more ways i can count
you gave up on us, on me
you gave me a box filled of memories
do you want to forget, forget me
you say your sorry
if you really feel remorse you will not forget this
you will keep all the feelings with you until you die
feelings of joy, love, pain
especially pain... the pain you caused on several people
i cant eat because of you
i can not sleep because of you
and i will not live with you
you need help
we both know you do
i can't provide you with the help you need
i will be waiting for an apology
when you return from help i will be here
not for us, but for the apology
and i will keep the box
filled from us, i will keep it
you will want it back some day
you hurt me badly
and i can never forgive you for that
and i didn't fuckin move on
i was crushed you could do that to me
in my fuckin sleep
just fuck you, fuck you over again
so some day if you get over you need
the need for drugs, the need to hurt people
then come back and give me the apology i deserve
but until then i'll just keep crying

...CRY BITCH CRY i dont give a fuck about you and i hope my mom haunts your dreams at night

[Terps]

i dont need help i just need to controll my shit

[Kryzco]

she makes some EMO ass poems

i don't like emos

they make me sad

and as long as you get off the pills and don't steal no mo I'll be happy

i got faith in you man

[minnesota man]

That's fucked up.

As for your need for drugs, I know how you feel. I've scrapped the basement floor to find a little ash that might get me high. It fucking sucks. Just wanted to tell you, you're not alone.

[psychocat]

dam i swear all ya ppl dont read/cant read
i said i gave the ppl there pills back cause they were screaming at my gf and she was in tears and then the guy smoked me right in my face (by smoked i mean wound up and cracked me one in the head)
So 1st off i gave there pills back
2nd i already appologized to them
3rd its a mother fuckin chrysler 300 and i have the money to get it fixxed
4th im not going to let her appologize to me. she fucked with my dead mothers shit that is a god dam discrase she new that car means the world to me
5th im going to be big im going to be huge im going to be sombody in this world, i will make her want me back just to stick her face in the dirt and take a big shit on her

You're unbelievable dude.
You get her in shit and steal from folks and then bitch when payback comes a calling. It's called karma dude. I am sorry about your motor and I admire you having the balls to apologise to the folks who's shit you took, but this girl is obviously pissed at you because of your stupidity and the grief you caused her. Be a man and take it on the chin ,try to learn this from it, you fuck with others and it gives them the right to fuck with you.

IMO you don't need help you need a fuckin slap.

[turtle420]

Wow!!!

I'm away for 12 hours and many things have happened...

Terps, good for you. :)

I've got to be 100% honest...

1st - Nice work on talking with the folks. DON'T LOOSE CONTACT WITH THEM YOU ASSWIPE!!!
2nd- Get a new paint job with your car... yeah, yeah, I know.... in the future. But, as ^^^ said, take it in the chin. Fuck it.
3rd- Don't retaliate with your ex... why?
4th- I've come to believe, that your girlfriend is similary fucked-up.

I don't think you should hang-out with her, or seek her.

If you where doing drugs, I'm about 98% sure she also does all those drugs. Maybe not as fucked up as you are (were... sorry), but she does them.

If that's the case, you'll never quit.

Either
A- You both become junkies.
B- She realizes you're a junkie looser, and leaves you for a better man...
C- You realize she isn't the best game, and leave her for a better woman... or better life.

And you and Kryzco,... take it easy... don't go meeting each other in Minnesota and starting some fires... only small weed fires...

<><><>

I was gonna post... but I want to convince you not to do anything to get back at her for your car...

Look at it in this light:
Her fucking up your car, has just deposited a SHITLOAD of "action points" in your bank account...

If she every comes bitchin' for whatever reason... you remind her of the car.

But if you do something in return, you're back to zero in your "action points" account.

Learn from Sun Tzu dude... lie to your enemies.

Peace out Terp...

-turtle420 :cool:
.

[SomeGuy]

wow....this was like reading a small book.

It was the right thing to do talking to the parents and I honor you for that...
I dont think you should go for revenge though...
All this anger will only make things worse. Turn the other cheek and forgive. Youve made mistakes and are on the path to overcoming them (hopefully) and she has the right to making mistakes too.

Look at her point of view...The guy she loved turned out to be a completely different person thatn she though, and then runs off into the night, leaving her vulnerable at these peoples house.

I think the only thing now is to call her up and tell her EVERYTHING...or write her a long notw with most all of the stuff you have posted on here. It mayn not save your relationship, but it will save yall both alot of stress.

Another thing is I think you should check out churchs about drug programs. God is a big factor in helping lost of people fix their lives. Even though this whole thing dosnt look that great it seems as if God our some higher power has thrown a wrench in your life to give you an oppertunity to fix it.

Peace & Love Man
Hope everthing works out...
post back

[GluteusMaximus]

hmm, you want support and forgiveness, however, you are unable to provide those things yourself. You hurt your girlfriend but think her hurting you is inappropriate. Her level of expressing her feelings only show how much you hurt her. Your chrysler isn't shit compared to a life long loving relationship. One day that chrysler will go from a prized possession to just transportation to you. Your value of your chrysler WILL change, however, you will never look at your wife and see her just as someone who keeps you company like your dog might. Your car will depreciate with time, your wife will appreciate with time.

You'd better take 5, learn how to forgive, learn how to grow up, learn how to determine what is really valuable. Things like cars (no matter where you got them or how much they mean to you) can be easily replaced with money. Try replacing your loving relationship with money. All you'll get is a whore.

The things you two are experiencing are the things that forge your relationship into something unbreakable. Hang in there, quit the poem crap and act like an adult. Many times I wanted to "shit on my wife" but now there's nothing she can do that will make me hate her. My old lady could burn my house down and I'd say "I didn't like that house much anyway". When you're young your "toys" seem so valuable to you, but rest assured one day, you would gladly give up anything money could buy to have her back.

Keep your focus....get yourself to where you want to be. The rest will follow. She is only venting her anger hurting you in a way that she knows will register. That alone says she must care for you considerably otherwise, she'd have left you alone and never uttered a word about it. She must care for you a lot, otherwise, she'd have just abandoned you without a word. That relationship can be salvaged, but you must decide if that's what you want and accept all those "punishments" willingly.

GM

[Terps]

So the story goes on...
Katie (my x-gf) calls me up today, i ignord her first 50 calls just like she did mine, and then i picked up she was in tears. balling about hows she sorry she did that to my car and blah blah, then she goes on about how much she has missed me and how she wants to come over...so i tell her to come over and we can talk, she gets to my house and she is so fucked up she tripps on my shoes and falls face first to the floor, i help her up and dust her off and i bring her to my couch and tell her how sorry i am and immedeitly she says "Forget about it" and attempts to make-out with me. i push her away as i know shes just drunk and wants to fuck. Now she gets angry demanding that i have sex with her or she will ruin my life, she says abunch of stuff like "I will call the cops and tell them u raped me" "I will call the cops and tell them about your drug problem" "i will call the university and tell them what you did" "i will call all your friends and tell them what you did" so on and so on the bitch came up with so many reasons that i should have sex with her it wasnt even funny i just sat there, thinking thinking about the 36 mafia song "Pussy got you hooked" i waqs about to cave in and have sex with her but then came the vurse that say "HELL NAH!"...i looked at her slapped her accrosed the face and kicked her out of my house. i told her if she ever comes back or ever fucks with my shit one more time i will get the cops involved myself.

This was realy weird i love the girl to death but at the same time i dont...

why do i feel this way???

[GluteusMaximus]

You hit her? WTF for? Man, if you can't control your anger, then you have no hope in ever keeping a relationship. My old lady can beat me with a ball bat and I'd never hit her. You did the right thing by making her leave, however, she can now press charges against you for assult, which you rightfully deserve. Now I ask you, can you ever take that slap back? Is there any chance she will feel totally secure with you? I doubt it. You just permanently ended that relationship. I hope that's something you can live with. You'd better hope you one day find someone who will make you forget your girlfriend, because if you can't, you're gonna be one lonely dude.

I was reluctant to post this, but it's time you've read this little poem.

If...
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!";
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!


Best of luck to you,

GM

[likemclever]

Sorry starting no to believe your strange ass story.

[mike jones]

Hey Terps,

I can go on and on telling you what you did right and what you did wrong, but there are plenty of other members here that will give you their two cents. I just wanted to wish you good luck in sorting out everything thats going on. Take care.

[HiddenBeauty]

You two belong together,you are both fucked up I think.

You gave us bullshit in your first post saying you could of beat the fuck out of that guy whose pills you stole when really you only have the balls to hit women.I hope karma kicks your ass or someone else does and if/when it happens please tell me about it I need something to smile about.

[chisme]

So the story goes on...
Katie (my x-gf) calls me up today, i ignord her first 50 calls just like she did mine, and then i picked up she was in tears. balling about hows she sorry she did that to my car and blah blah, then she goes on about how much she has missed me and how she wants to come over...so i tell her to come over and we can talk, she gets to my house and she is so fucked up she tripps on my shoes and falls face first to the floor, i help her up and dust her off and i bring her to my couch and tell her how sorry i am and immedeitly she says "Forget about it" and attempts to make-out with me. i push her away as i know shes just drunk and wants to fuck. Now she gets angry demanding that i have sex with her or she will ruin my life, she says abunch of stuff like "I will call the cops and tell them u raped me" "I will call the cops and tell them about your drug problem" "i will call the university and tell them what you did" "i will call all your friends and tell them what you did" so on and so on the bitch came up with so many reasons that i should have sex with her it wasnt even funny i just sat there, thinking thinking about the 36 mafia song "Pussy got you hooked" i waqs about to cave in and have sex with her but then came the vurse that say "HELL NAH!"...i looked at her slapped her accrosed the face and kicked her out of my house. i told her if she ever comes back or ever fucks with my shit one more time i will get the cops involved myself.

This was realy weird i love the girl to death but at the same time i dont...

why do i feel this way???


im sorry everyone here from this poin tu may think me a mean bastard and an evil person but i would have dun the same (like i say a little backhand never hurts) and what she started saying is verbal rape accusation she's bad news dont take her call mate and dont talk to her you def better off without.

[chisme]

u guys dont seem to understand ..he may have slaped her but why?


because she's demanding sex and if he says no she's goin to completly ruin his life even more then he has i know what he dun in the first place was very shit and turp it was u stole from someones house when they trusted you ...personaly u woulda got more then a punch from me......

but still at the end what she is saying now is just as worse....''fuck me or ill tell on you'''''................backhand go home and sleep bitch..thats ovet the mark.

[Big Bad Brit]

Terps you wanna be glad she don't have friends like me coz I would stomp you if you had stole from me .You are both screwed in the head and she is too stoopid to stay away from your sorry ass.

[Kryzco]

So the story goes on...
Katie (my x-gf) calls me up today, i ignord her first 50 calls just like she did mine, and then i picked up she was in tears. balling about hows she sorry she did that to my car and blah blah, then she goes on about how much she has missed me and how she wants to come over...so i tell her to come over and we can talk, she gets to my house and she is so fucked up she tripps on my shoes and falls face first to the floor, i help her up and dust her off and i bring her to my couch and tell her how sorry i am and immedeitly she says "Forget about it" and attempts to make-out with me. i push her away as i know shes just drunk and wants to fuck. Now she gets angry demanding that i have sex with her or she will ruin my life, she says abunch of stuff like "I will call the cops and tell them u raped me" "I will call the cops and tell them about your drug problem" "i will call the university and tell them what you did" "i will call all your friends and tell them what you did" so on and so on the bitch came up with so many reasons that i should have sex with her it wasnt even funny i just sat there, thinking thinking about the 36 mafia song "Pussy got you hooked" i waqs about to cave in and have sex with her but then came the vurse that say "HELL NAH!"...i looked at her slapped her accrosed the face and kicked her out of my house. i told her if she ever comes back or ever fucks with my shit one more time i will get the cops involved myself.

This was realy weird i love the girl to death but at the same time i dont...

why do i feel this way???

Ok first off, if you have any chance of getting your life in check, you need to get rid of her

Slapping her was going way passed the line but hey we all do stupid shit when we are pissed, still it was wrong nevertheless

If I were you, I would just ignore her completely, don't dare give her a second of your time, instead take every opportunity to make yourself well again

And being successful in spite of her will get you nowhere because by that time she will have moved on and would care less, and although you'll be successful, if you see she doesn't care, you'll go back to square one

You need to take some time, get your shit together

Fix the car, and forget about the bitch, go on with your life as these things have never even happened, and move on

try to move forward, not backward

To me it seems you two are one in the same, and thats only a combination for a destructive relationship and a destructive path for yourself, you both have different poisons but never the less they are both deadly

Your mother would have wanted better for you, and if she was here, she most likely wouldn't be too pleased

She wanted the ass because she wants comfort, simple as that
In her head, if you guys would have fucked, she would think she has her way, and that you guys are fine, plus she was drunk, never fuck a drunk girl unless you never see her again (sounds a bit crude but its true) especially if she's your ex, and especially since she wanted to trick on you, if you guys would have fucked, don't even think she wouldn't have threw that in when tellin everybody your buisness

Right now your focus should be starting fresh, it may not seem that way to you now, but the sooner you do it, the better off you will be

Oh and turtle420, the only fires I start are weed fires lol :rasta: too pyrophobic to start any other kinds

Burn your bridges with her, and move on man, if you really want the best for yourself, then thats my suggestion, otherwise history is just going to repeat itself, and you'll be heading down a very volatile path, and you won't ever see the light until you hit rock bottom, and usually rock bottom mean 6 feet under

don't take anything I said as attacking you, especially about your mother, like i said i lost my mother, i know how you feel, but i look at some of the things I've done and my mother would have my ass on a platter if she was still here

Stay strong man, don't give into temptation, and don't give up, get well and hope it all works out for you

[psychocat]

[QUOTE=chisme]u guys dont seem to understand ..he may have slaped her but why?[QUOTE]

If you have any kind of memory you will know that HE started all the shit in the first place,she keyed his motor because of him putting her in the shit with the people she babysat for and god knows what else.
I am starting to believe that it's all a crock of shit anyway,starting to sound more and more like BS to me.
My advice to Terps is (if he is being straight) put it behind you and decide to make a better life for yourself and I really don't see why he thinks he was right to resort to violence.

[chisme]

[QUOTE=chisme]u guys dont seem to understand ..he may have slaped her but why?[QUOTE]

If you have any kind of memory you will know that HE started all the shit in the first place,she keyed his motor because of him putting her in the shit with the people she babysat for and god knows what else.
I am starting to believe that it's all a crock of shit anyway,starting to sound more and more like BS to me.
My advice to Terps is (if he is being straight) put it behind you and decide to make a better life for yourself and I really don't see why he thinks he was right to resort to violence.


no bruv listen right im saying about the whole thing right of course ive read and i know whats goin on dumbass .what i mean is everyone saying ooo you slapped her thats bad your bad your evil.....im saying hwe slaped her because she's trying to force him into sex........read what im saying in the right context before you judge it.


yeah he stole and dragged her into it........thats not what im talking about thou is it!!!:mad: :mad: ffs

[chisme]

now u all know what i mean when i say no-one understand what im saying because they allways think im talking about something else other then what i am and get the wrong end of the stick....loo i know i speak diffrently from u guys in usa and canada and iraq and stuff but would u please read my posts and keep in mind i dont refure to things the same way as you...but thats no reason to try and insult me because of it......to be doin that just shows small mindedness.

[psychocat]

Just a suggestion but a little punctuation would make your posts easier to understand.
I disagree with him slapping her fullstop because at the end of the day the original sin was his, it's that simple.
Without him stealing they probably wouldn't have broke up at that moment (him being a junkie makes me think it would've happened eventually) and therefore his motor wouldn't of been keyed,he wouldn't of gotten a smack in the mouth and this whole problem would simply not exist.

[highjinx]

wtf! who slapped who? :confused:
im too baked to read that whole thread to find out!:stoned: :stoned: :stoned:

[HiddenBeauty]

He messed up her life so she keyed his car then he slapped her quite boring really and not worth wasting your time over.

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

Go seek a profesional, tell him how you feel, how you are a junkie and steal. I know it may seem hard but im hoping it will be easier to you considering your talking to a stranger and he won't think any less of you because its his job to help you, tell your g/f that you've realised what you've been doing is wrong and that you want to get off this addiction and become a better person. Its going to be hard, but if you give this up now once you've over come this you'll see how much better your life is :)

Good luck man, MUCH love

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

So the story goes on...
Katie (my x-gf) calls me up today, i ignord her first 50 calls just like she did mine, and then i picked up she was in tears. balling about hows she sorry she did that to my car and blah blah, then she goes on about how much she has missed me and how she wants to come over...so i tell her to come over and we can talk, she gets to my house and she is so fucked up she tripps on my shoes and falls face first to the floor, i help her up and dust her off and i bring her to my couch and tell her how sorry i am and immedeitly she says "Forget about it" and attempts to make-out with me. i push her away as i know shes just drunk and wants to fuck. Now she gets angry demanding that i have sex with her or she will ruin my life, she says abunch of stuff like "I will call the cops and tell them u raped me" "I will call the cops and tell them about your drug problem" "i will call the university and tell them what you did" "i will call all your friends and tell them what you did" so on and so on the bitch came up with so many reasons that i should have sex with her it wasnt even funny i just sat there, thinking thinking about the 36 mafia song "Pussy got you hooked" i waqs about to cave in and have sex with her but then came the vurse that say "HELL NAH!"...i looked at her slapped her accrosed the face and kicked her out of my house. i told her if she ever comes back or ever fucks with my shit one more time i will get the cops involved myself.

This was realy weird i love the girl to death but at the same time i dont...

why do i feel this way???


As i said, get profesional help. Other wise your going to end up in jail, depressed the rest of your life. Or worse, dead. You only have one life. Don't wreck it man. Make sure if you do talk to her again that she's sober and just explain about how the threats ar'nt helping and your trying your hardest.

[highjinx]

He messed up her life so she keyed his car then he slapped her quite boring really and not worth wasting your time over.

lol ill take your advice, smoking the rest of this dooby in the back garden seems better!:dance: :thumbsup:
its nice outside, like a summer night!:smokin: :thumbsup:

[chisme]

true its not worth argueing over

[HiddenBeauty]

lol ill take your advice, smoking the rest of this dooby in the back garden seems better!:dance: :thumbsup:
its nice outside, like a summer night!:smokin: :thumbsup:

Sounds like you have the right idea.I can't believe it's like a summer night in Scotland :confused: ;) :smokin:

[Ae...]

This thread went to hell at post 52, man. Before that I was very much into it, now it's sounding like a joke....and a pretty funny one at that.

Reminds me of that WB bullshit from television.

[Terps]

so after class today i called katie, of course she didnt answear so i left a msg saying that i want all my crap back, all my sweatshirts, all my dvds, all my cds...everything i dont want to have another reason to see this bitch ever. so she called me back like 5 mins later telling me i can come by and pick up my stuff anytime i wanted, so i did i hopped in my car that is all fucked up now and drove to her house. knocked on her door. she came to the door with my stuff, handed it to me and i turnd and walked away without saying a word. got in my car and drove off, she called me about a min later begging me to come back and talk, i told her it would be best if i didnt, best for the both of us. we are both young both new to the game and both have lots of life ahead of us. i told her i was sorry for what i did, sorry for imbarrassing her, sorry for lieing to her face, and sorry for hitting her last night and hung up the phone. My story is done and over. This is probly the biggest learning experience of my life so far in these past few days i feel i have grown emencly. i will continue to stay away for pills and situations that involve pills tell i think i am stronge enough to tackel them head on. i want to thank all who responded with good helpfull comments.

For all of you who still dont understand why i slapped her last night there were 2 main reasons....
1) She DEMANDED sex from me, and got in my face demanding sex and making fulse statments
2) I dont care how much u say that car can be replaced...it cant its not just a normal car its not just any old car...its all i have left its the only thing i have to remind me of my mom.

[psychocat]

For all of you who still dont understand why i slapped her last night there were 2 main reasons....
1) She DEMANDED sex from me, and got in my face demanding sex and making fulse statments
2) I dont care how much u say that car can be replaced...it cant its not just a normal car its not just any old car...its all i have left its the only thing i have to remind me of my mom.

Oh dear did she hurt you with her nasty words? You didn't NEED to hit her you did it cause of what she said and thats a lame excuse. And thats coming from someone who has made that mistake themselves and believe me when I say that it was the sorriest moment of my life so don't bullshit a bullshitter and make excuses for yourself.

Did she take a 14 pound sledgehammer to the motor? Did she put sugar in the tank??
NO! she keyed the fucking thing , you never heard of a spray shop??

Last I have to say on the subject.

[Terps]

say you were 14 years old and your mom got killed by a drunk driver, and your mom left you say a fuckin boombox and sum punk decided to spraypaint all over it...would u let that fly?

Shut the fuck up and dont post on my thred anymore

[chisme]

Oh dear did she hurt you with her nasty words? You didn't NEED to hit her you did it cause of what she said and thats a lame excuse. And thats coming from someone who has made that mistake themselves and believe me when I say that it was the sorriest moment of my life so don't bullshit a bullshitter and make excuses for yourself.

Did she take a 14 pound sledgehammer to the motor? Did she put sugar in the tank??
NO! she keyed the fucking thing , you never heard of a spray shop??

Last I have to say on the subject.


pychocat

no 1.:mad:



2) I dont care how much u say that car can be replaced...it cant its not just a normal car its not just any old car...its all i have left its the only thing i have to remind me of my mom.


no. 2


u ever heard of how much money it costs to get a full repaint? and yes he will have to do that or hell have one door bright and all the rest of the car slightly faded.

..also plus that fact he shouldnt have to pay-our for her taking out her key and scratching it down his car........that his mom has left him.:mad:



[QUOTE=Terps]

For all of you who still dont understand why i slapped her last night there were 2 main reasons....
1) She DEMANDED sex from me, and got in my face demanding sex and making fulse statments
QUOTE]

THANK YOU THATS WHAT IM SAYING THE FACT THAT SHE TRIED TO THREATEN U WITH GETTING U INTO BIGGER SHIT DESERVES A SLAP!.god

also turps look bro u fucked up big u fucked up bad but as the same with everyone else all we can do is try and make up for it.youve obviously tried so i cant kock u much except for your mistake but we all make mistakes at least you've admited it to yourself aswell as other people. so.....good luck

[Fengzi]

Real men don't steal a suffering woman's medication.

Real men don't hit women. For any reason.

That's all I have to say.

[eGGNoG]

be like umm i stole them for a friend
Yes lieing MORE is the key man, you ROCK.

And you didnt have any missed calls cus if you have no reception it doesnt say missed calls.. it juts went straight to your voicemail.. she didnt leave a voicemail yes but you know she prolly called. you need to call her back and tell ehr you need help. i got arrested for weed. and my gf was so scared that i would never see her again so i told her i needed her help, i ahvent smoked in 4 months, will be back soon once im outta trouble but you get me. good luck.