Help me people!

[Bongoman]

OK I have a bit of a situation regarding MJ and the girlfriend, she doesn't like it at all, and she doesn't think i smoke it. In fact i said i never would (before I started). Anyway I have been smoking for a little bit, and I'm talking to her on the phone when she suddenly says "I've heard you've been smoking weed regularly, is it true?" Then me, like an absolute dumbass, denies everything (well I don't smoke regularly, but thats beside the point). This was a few hours ago, now I feel like the worlds biggest prick for lying to her. I don't think shes entirely sure, but I'm going to tell her tomorrow anyway I've decided. I don't know why I denied it in the first place, it was so sudden I suppose I felt a bit threatened or something. Anyway what should I do? I think the telling her thing is a given, but do I have a chance? I really love this girl, and I'm shitting bricks thinking about what shes going to say. Any advice? And yes I know I'm a bastard, I don't need to be told.

[geonagual]

First of all..lying does not get you anywhere and makes you lose power..guess you will just have to fess up and take what she gives..she has got you by the balls now..not cause of the weed, cause of the lie. Good luck.

[Innominate]

Let her know why you smoke and what it truly means to you. If she doesn't like it, that's her personal problem and not yours. And STOP lying.

[Spellbound]

I was once that girlfriend. Just let her know the scientific proofs and what it means to you. Eventually she may come around. I was a hardass once but then I saw it for what it is and can be and I can't judge.

[ldg420]

if shes not down with who you are, then say goodbye to her. All you can do is explain, apologize for lying and hope for the best, if that doesn't work, you probably don't wanna be with her anyway, whatever happens i promise that Mary Jane won't ever turn her back on you.........:stoned:

[burnable]

:beatdeadhorse:
From what I know about girls, except for the radical few who have ill-founded opinions about weed, the thing they hate the most is to be lied to. Instead of trying to hide it, I told my g-friend straight away that I was puffing again. Now I grow it in our closet, and she still doesn't smoke it.

Just be honest with her, show your vulnerable side, let her know that you still have loads of attention to pay to her, and in the short term be reliable and sharp so she knows that notwithstanding your habit, you can be the kind of b-friend she wants

[HyeCobra]

just find a girl who smokes :thumbsup:

[WeedyBoyWonder]

It's your life, live it your way. You can't let some lady tell you what you can and can't do, if you do, you will be HER bitch forever.

[crudemood]

you can either change for her, or you don't change for her.

[Reefer Rogue]

I've said in the past that i'd never quit tokin for a girl, but i would quit to get my ex back. If she'll leave you because you smoke, then quit only if you love her.

[Spoken Word]

it all depends on what kind of person she is. if she tells you she "loves" you and doesn't accept your "occasional" smoke, then i'd say she isn't "the one".

[PackAnotherBowl]

Don't stop,even if she likes it or not.

[TheDefiler]

I'd never stop smoking weed for a woman. I've been independent for so long that I could never go back to having someone tell me what to do constantly. If she doesn't like it or at the very least tolerate it...then kick her to the curb.

[chisme]

said it many times to many people n the same position as you,

IF SHE IS YOUR PARTNER SHE SHOULD LOVE YOU, FOR
WHO YOU ARE
IF SHE LOVES YOU SHE WOULDNT WANNA CHANGE YOU,
BECAUSE THEN YOUD BECOME SOMEONE DIFREENT TO WHO YOU ARE.


its like you cant marry someone you know smoked weed, then divorce them because of that.

its likE my sister married a sorta high up in the game dealer, then divorced him 3 years later because of that reason, i said look you knew what he did before you married him , you accepted it then, YOU CHANGED HE DIDNT.

[baldie1]

Hi mate sorry to hear your situ .Here's an idea one night get stoned the next night get totally pissed then ask which one she prefers lol give it a go ,best of luck

[Bongoman]

Thanks for the help people, but as some of you said, its not about me smoking the weed, its about the fact I lied to her. Things ain't looking that great, but I haven't given up hope yet. I told her and she really, really wasn't happy I lied in the first place, but I can't blame her for that.

[chisme]

lol true at least your dicisive and accurate about the actual underlying problem not jumping to conclusios like i an other did,

your a good person for owning up before the lie got out of hand, even if it was a white lie no harm intended or more to prevent hurt, white can become black with a single stroke and your good for relising that. hopefully she'll see this

[stinkyattic]

Just sit her down and explain that it was a conversation that you felt it was important to have face to face, not over the phone. The important bit is that you are talking about it. Give her a little time to think things over and get used to the idea of you smoking, and decide if it's really that big a deal after all. I used to be that girlfriend too, but then I gave it a chance and discovered that cannabis was a gentle and effective alternative to a medication I was already taking. So it all worked out nicely.

[chisme]

could also ask her reasons for you to stop smoking .why is she worried , what is diffrent about you when you smoke? are those things really that bad or is it as usual the fact its cannabis seems to make those problems seem alot worse then they are,? in short is it the stereotype she is worried about

[jakeypoo]

hey
i can relate to this problem, i am a guy myself but when i found out my girl was smoking green i was devistated. i was so angry that she had been hiding this from me and i seriously thought about ending things. however, this was only because i didnt know the facts! i am sure your girl is exactly the same, i have come from a background where drugs are told to be completely the wrong thing to do.
anyway, i went away and did a lot of research into the effects of cannabis and now im fine with it and have toked up myself :) (not because i was influenced by her but as i had a serious back injury in rugby and it releaves my pain)
we have now broken up due to her proceeding onto other drugs which i am not happy with, however just tell her the facts and tell her that it isnt harmful etc and if she still doesnt like it then she doesnt really love you.
good luck pal

p.s stick to the green! nothing else :)

[dominionxp]

why would u even tell her? i wouldve had so many more girlfriends if they didnt know i get high. i rather have weed than girls!! wuts more important to you? GETTING HIGH OR GETTING PUSSY? getting high is better

[Bongoman]

Ah well people it didn't end well, sort of knew it wouldn't. We just split. Anyway, lesson learned is DO NOT LIE TO YOUR WOMAN!!! Even if it is about cannabis, just tell her the truth, it'll turn out better than if you lie and then tell her or she finds out. Such a stupid fucking mistake, been together for more than a year.

[psychocat]

Honesty truly is the best policy.