girlfriend problem

[stickyichy]

So Lately my girl has stopped wanting to have sex. She says its because she isn't in the mood. After a while i start wondering whats up since its been a while so i ask. She tells me its just because she isn't in the mood and that by asking im disrespecting her because all i want is sex.

I mean sure after 2 years things might need a little spicing up but seriously what could be bothering her? or do all woman just stop wanting sex for extended periods of time untill they just want it again?

She is not under to much stress and well as far as i can tell she is pretty happy.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

You're "disrespecting her" for asking why she no longer wants a sex life!?!? Does she have no clue what the most basic, primary corner-stone of a healthy relationship is?

[stickyichy]

that is what i kind of feel like... i mean yeah sex isnt everything... but when you have nothing to do and your watching reruns of friends for the second time, i would think that sex would just come naturally.

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

what i would do is do everything that gets her hot for you,get her where all she wants to do is jump you then say I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me... You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a woman, Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?

[stickyichy]

lol that would be nice and well it would teach her something. At the same time.... I am a sex addict... its like putting cake in front of a fat kid. you know he isn't just going to look at it.

Thats a good idea though... if i can resist it might be a good move.

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

well if you happen to be fond of this girl do with discretion she could get pissed,on the other hand it worked for me when a girl wouldnt take care of me orally, but anyway good luck with your problem.

[stickyichy]

good advice. yeah she gets mad easy... but yeah im fond of her some times i wonder when enough is enough but yeah, we have stuck together this long thanks dude.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

sometimes after a time, sex becomes rushed. It makes it feel routine and not worth savoring. slow down. really slow. like back when you were scared cuz you didn't know what to do slow. kwim? try it, see how it goes that way.

otherwise, she may have stressors you aren't aware of. it's important to give her enough space.

it's not "normal" to not want sex but she might consider visiting her doctor if there's no other reason. it could be medical.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

I also happen to think that killing your television and doing something new together are fabulous aphrodisiacs.

[stickyichy]

yeah that would be nice... i love everything nature. out doors plants... but well if it is snowing... raining... windy... she wont step foot outside. its a tad ridiculed. Everything inside cost money so i don't know what we can do. :|

[TheSmokingMonkey]

got any indoor parks? we have a couple here cuz it's always cold.

you might have an indoor botanical garden?

[stickyichy]

Thats a good idea i guess ill plan something out like that. yeah its always cold here too. well at lest untill summer.

[thekhoso]

sometimes after a time, sex becomes rushed. It makes it feel routine and not worth savoring. slow down. really slow. like back when you were scared cuz you didn't know what to do slow. kwim? try it, see how it goes that way.

otherwise, she may have stressors you aren't aware of. it's important to give her enough space.

it's not "normal" to not want sex but she might consider visiting her doctor if there's no other reason. it could be medical.

that's ONE advice that will work. go slow!

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Oh, now that you say it is cold where you live, it's probably also dark this time of year. She might have seasonal affective disorder. She can try taking:

Vitamin D (400 IU if she is taking a multivitamin, 1000 if not)
DHA oil (like Cod Liver Oil or Udo's DHA Oil)
5-HTP (as long as she doesn't take any other mental health meds or issues)
Native Woman (by New Chapter Organics)

[napolitana869]

It is normal for women to go a period of time and not be interested in sex. It's also normal for you to be upset by this though. It's not disrespectful for you to ask about it unless you're pestering her about it. If it goes more than a month or 2 you need to sit down and have a serious conversation about it. She needs to understand that sex is important to you as a means of intimacy in and of itself.

[blackbarbie]

maybe you should try taking her out on dates if you're not already and doing new stuff w/ her outside the bedroom.

[Twentyinches]

hmmm... she wont go out if it's a tad cold/wet/windy etc... she get's mad easily, and now refuses to have sex. hmm.... cut your losses?
yeahh i know that sounds mean but I had an ex that was JUST like that and man do I regret wasting my time. It just got worse. Now I'm not saying it will for you but I rarely see those things get better...at least not for me or any of my friends.

My gf now kicks all forms of ass, BUT I'm having the same prob as you...we've been dating almost 4 years and I'm lucky if it happens once a month now. Who knows what the prob is. Soooo I just take care of myself, that way it doesn't seem like im trying to get it all the time, and well if she wants it then it look slike shes going to wait like I have :D

[napolitana869]

the post I was responding to was deleted

[llama shack]

I think what will turn her on is being a man. Don't ask for it, take it. You know how to turn her on already, so go and do that. Persistence and attraction.

Also, if she's bored, I'd suggest reading up on some new tricks, or asking her directly what turns her on the most.

Women want sex just as bad as men do. The difference is that females are turned in a bit different way than men are. She's your girlfriend, you know best about what turns her on.

[Twentyinches]

Women want sex just as bad as men do.

yeah maybe with other men lol. I think it depends on the girl actually