Feeling ashamed HELP!

[jacked420]

has anyone ever done something they are so ashamed and embarrassed by that it consumes their lives? i made a terrible decision this weekend and i did something that i immediately regretted. now the shame and guilt is driving me mad! it's all i can think about...i can't eat, can't sleep, i am depressed! anyone ever had a similar experience? how did you get through it because i have never been this down in my life!:(

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I did something myself that I felt pretty bad about. Do you care to share what it is you did? All I can say is you have to recognize the reality of your situation and accept it, even when you don't want to. Sometimes it's not easy to accept the opposite of what you want to believe. I have no idea if this is applicable to your situation, hence why we'd need to know what you're talking about.

[thcbongman]

Dude, if I counted all the reasons I should be ashamed of myself I'll jump off a bridge.

You never felt the consequence of your action before until now. Otherwise, you likely won't have done it.

Life's a learning experience. You learned.

Now get ready for tomorrow's lesson.

[Unknown American]

What is this about? How does it deal with Sexuality or relationships?

Yes I have had regrets and things I have been ashamed of. I have a lifetime of regrets.

If it involves other people you ask for forgiveness and make sure it does not happen again. If it involves consequences, you face them and deal with it.

Then you move on.

[jacked420]

yeah i fooled around with someone that i should not have. the bad thing is that i have been trying to work things out with my girlfriend who i recently seperated from. and i am also very worried about STD's. I don't think I have one, but i got a blowjob without a condom. i just feel very dirty and ashamed of the stupid decision i made while i was horny and wasted...

[bobthenuker]

I don't think I have one, but i got a blowjob without a condom. ...

wait, so what's the problem? I'm pretty sure a girl can't transfer an std that way if she had one, unless it's you that has one.

[Unknown American]

I am having a hard time feeling sorry for someone that just shot his load off into some girls mouth. But that is just me.

If you were really concerned with working things out with your girlfriend you would not have put yourself in that situation. If this girl that you fooled around with knows your girlfriend, you are fucked. If not just end it now.

Do not put yourself in this situation again.

But hell ya got sucked off and blew your load. Sounds like your life is pretty good to me.

[jacked420]

I am having a hard time feeling sorry for someone that just shot his load off into some girls mouth. But that is just me.

If you were really concerned with working things out with your girlfriend you would not have put yourself in that situation. If this girl that you fooled around with knows your girlfriend, you are fucked. If not just end it now.

Do not put yourself in this situation again.

But hell ya got sucked off and blew your load. Sounds like your life is pretty good to me.

i agree that you should not feel sorry for me. but i still feel like sh*t. you are right that i should not have put myself in that situation. i think what bothers me the most is that i did put myself in that situation, and i completely let myself and my girlfriend down. my girlfriend is smokin hot, and this chick i fooled around with is not hot at all. i have never had an STD, i'm just worried this chick might have given me one since i wasn't wearing any protection during the blowjob. unfortunately, i called the health center today and they said unless i am showing symptoms, i must wait a couple weeks to get tested. i am retarded. there is no chance my girl would ever find out unless i told her, but i'm not sure if i want to.

[Storm Crow]

(a) Don't tell her, but treat her like a queen.
(b) Don't have sex until you've been tested. (tell her you just want to "take it slow".)
(c) Remember how much of an ass you feel like now, and don't do it again!

Granny:hippy:

[eddievanzant]

I remember three times that I said something completely opposite of what I wanted to say for no reason at all. I'm still in school so forgive me for not having anything relevant to real life to mention. Hopefully it helps you feel normal.
I told a Japanese person I hated Chinese people in a conversation simply because I heard that Chinese and Japanese people didn't get along. I don't hate Chinese people.
I downplayed my own expertise when it was called into question when I was on the stand as a witness in Mock Trial in state competition.
I sarcastically said, "Oh no, I'm not in my seat when the bell rang. I'm gonna get a detention," instead of saying, "Crap, I gotta get to my seat!" at the beginning of class.
None of these things I did changed my life significantly. No one heard me say I hate Chinese people, my side of our Mock Trial team won anyways, and all I got for mocking the teacher was the detention that I was going to receive in the first place.
Nonetheless, I would like to shoot myself in the head for saying such idiotic things. I have no idea how these things came out of my mouth. I just wasn't thinking.
There's no way to remove these bad memories, and that is a good thing. If you forget that you may have ruined a relationship by doing what you did, you may do it again.

You have to learn from your mistakes. Do what you can to fix the problem, but don't put yourself in this situation again.

[friendowl]

when you get older your going to wish you took more advantage of the carnivores

[Struck420]

honestly i see a problem which is you may have an STD but i don't see a reason why you should be mad that you got head when you weren't even dating your girlfriend i can see why you'd be ashamed if she was nasty but mabe we have different values, actually from your post im sure we do but good luck with your ex-gf (now gf again?) and i hope you dont get an std :thumbsup:

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

I am having a hard time feeling sorry for someone that just shot his load off into some girls mouth. But that is just me.

:S2::S2::S2::S2::S2::S2::computerlove1:

[sm0k1t]

Hey dude think about the fact that people do alot worst than that and you technically did not cheat on your gf so all is good!
And you got head without protection with a not so hot chick...so what!! Believe me I did worse and I'm not proud of it...actually it was stupid but no consequences followed and thank god for that!
Hope you wont have problems regarding that though

peace

[illnillinois]

sex is never worth dying for, or at lease getting sick over.



but back to the topic at hand.

i feel ashed when I yell at the little ones in my life, better yet my wife. I hate the way i feel if i lost my temper and say things i dont mean.

:S1:

[Reefer Rogue]

You should feel ashamed, very ashamed. At least you recognize this. Cheaters like you deserve what you may get. Harsh? Maybe so, but i don't believe you deserve your girlfriend after what you did. Blah blah mistake mistake i was wasted, excuse excuse. You should do this girl a favour and face the music like a man.

[Vino]

You and i are in the same boat sorta, only im a girl.....

what i did is, over the summer i hooked up with a co worker of my now current roommate. they werent good friends at the time, i was single, he had broken up with his gf. so we slept together multiple times, its just sex, i dont want to date him. hes not looking for anything either.

however, he is now back with this girl, and they are together in a serious way and she is constantly coming over to my house with him to hang out with my roommates and myself. The worst part is, shes super nice, a good person and i would love to be friends with her....buti did a pretty awful thing to her that she doesnt know about and it eats me up inside.

i feel awful about it, and would NEVER have had sex with him if i had known.

you make your bed you know. I have to deal with the fact that i make stupid choices....it builds character...or something. lets just put it this way, lesson learned. i feel like a crap knowing that im the girl he slept with while they were fighting, i feel like a home wrecker. And i will remember how this feels for the rest of my life.

You can take some solace in the fact that at least you arent the only one that screws up, we all do at some point.

[Charles U Farley]

(a) Don't tell her, but treat her like a queen.
(b) Don't have sex until you've been tested. (tell her you just want to "take it slow".)
(c) Remember how much of an ass you feel like now, and don't do it again!

Granny

Amen!!

[GraziLovesMary]

Man he sounded so ashamed of it, I thought he cheated with a dude.

Chill out and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

If you want advice, listen to Granny. As far as im concerned, shes The Oracle.

[VoidLivesOn]

this is like one of those quintissential life experiances dealing with relationships that you have to choose to be a schmuck or a dick and face reality. you'd be a schmuck if you got back with her and didn't tell her because lets face it...how would you feel if she let some dude lick her pussy and didn't tell you. and you would be a dick if you told her because lets face it what you did was fucked up.

it all revolves around guilt and how much of it you can swallow. and remember if you don't tell her karma's a bitch and a half. and i don't really believe in karma i've just always wanted to say that.

[higher4hockey]

man if you want to talk about dumb things done while drinking i can give you a few...well more than a few...do a search for "you know you're really wasted when". i do a lot of dumb shit when im drinking and it really doesnt bother me. hell ive done so mnay dumb things that i refer to drinking as an excercise in bad judgement.

just let it roll off of ya mate...drinking time is not like sober time..

[Canadian_Cron]

if it was really embarrasing and no1 actually saw u do it seriously man just straight up deny it. dont make up a story jus say its not true.

[FlyGuyOU]

sometimes, not very often but on occasion, drunk things happen to good people.

[silkyblue]

whats done is done

theres no going back

learn from it

for future reverence

[Reefer Rogue]

Perhaps i was too judgemental in my previous post. For that, I apologize. Live your life, however, please attempt to live it without causing harm to others.

[jacked420]

i appreciate all the helpful comments i have received from you friends. you are a good group of people. i have decided to make a major change in my life. ever since i was 16, i have been doing some sort of drug. whether it has been weed, alcohol, acid, or even meth. i thought i turned my life around when i joined the military, but when i went to iraq, i haven't been the same since. i have been an alcoholic for about 5 years now, and i have been smoking weed a lot for about a year now. i woke up yesterday still feeling terrible, and for the first time in my life, thinking about suicide. i realized that i am a f*cked up person and i need help. i have decided that i will in fact tell my girlfriend about what happened (not anytime soon though because i need her in my life right now). i have also decided i am no longer drinking, doing drugs, or anything else along those lines. i am going to get some counseling help, and i am going to stop being selfish and start living my life for the people i love. i regret my bad decisions recently, but in way they are good because i have finally realized that i need help. once again, thanks for the kind words everyone..i will probably still check in here every now and then because you are all very cool people!

[silkyblue]

I would def kiss the meth goodbye (( that shit will kill ya ass dead!

weeds all you need !


dont kill yourself !! please~~ (( that war in Iraq is because some dumb ass muther fucker plowed planes into our stuff<<<<< here in America! on 9-11 may they RIP

benzo with drawels is my folly, mine was hell to pay! but I did it!! Im happy those years are behind me, my Drs were spoon feeding me Klonopin! I was letting them!

theres only one you! we all struggle honey ! your a little lost lamb searching for a place in this cruel world, you will find that place,
its there for you

life is Indeed precious ~~ you have a long life ahead for you !

keep in touch~~

cyberhug ()

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

That war in Iraq is about oil. None of the terrorists were Iraqis. Follow the money, it leaves a slimy trail.

[rebgirl420]

Hey dude think about the fact that people do alot worst than that and you technically did not cheat on your gf so all is good!
And you got head without protection with a not so hot chick...so what!! Believe me I did worse and I'm not proud of it...actually it was stupid but no consequences followed and thank god for that!
Hope you wont have problems regarding that though

peace

1) What fyucking fantasy world are YOU living in? How is this NOT cheating? He shot his load into some chicks mouth. If that was my boyfriend Id dump him, and then id ruin his life.

2) And yeah, its possible to get STDs from oral. Read people, read!

[cm8883]

That war in Iraq is about oil. None of the terrorists were Iraqis. Follow the money, it leaves a slimy trail.

Exactly.

[stinkyattic]

jacked, you already have the strength to admit this not only to yourself, but to admit it publicly- keep up that momentum. Keep feeling strong.

[home.grower]

Forget it!! It happened!! Maybe manufacture the idea in you head that she made it happen because you weren't fully in control of your faculties, and think of yourself being smarter in future. It could be worse.. You could have poked it and be having an unplanned child on the way, or mushrooms growin out the side of your manhood. Stick to blowjobs and your regrets will be minimal.

Gee, one guy in one thread saying he ain't ever had a girl or somethin, and a next guy can't keep his bits to himself.. You should trade places for a day to two..

[home.grower]

...i realized that i am a f*cked up person and i need help. i have decided that i will in fact tell my girlfriend about what happened (not anytime soon though because i need her in my life right now). i have also decided i am no longer drinking, doing drugs, or anything else along those lines. i am going to get some counseling help, and i am going to stop being selfish and start living my life for the people i love....

I think, If you are turning a new leaf you should demonstrate it by telling her while see can see you going thru your transition. Not telling her is kinda selfish in itself. What if she found out? That might fk ur sht up.. She, whoever she is might be willing and able to support you more than you know. But, do what you gotta do!