Feeling ashamed HELP!

[jacked420]

has anyone ever done something they are so ashamed and embarrassed by that it consumes their lives? i made a terrible decision this weekend and i did something that i immediately regretted. now the shame and guilt is driving me mad! it's all i can think about...i can't eat, can't sleep, i am depressed! anyone ever had a similar experience? how did you get through it because i have never been this down in my life!

jacked420 Reviewed by jacked420 on 10-29-2007. Feeling ashamed HELP! has anyone ever done something they are so ashamed and embarrassed by that it consumes their lives? i made a terrible decision this weekend and i did something that i immediately regretted. now the shame and guilt is driving me mad! it's all i can think about...i can't eat, can't sleep, i am depressed! anyone ever had a similar experience? how did you get through it because i have never been this down in my life!:( Rating: 5

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I did something myself that I felt pretty bad about. Do you care to share what it is you did? All I can say is you have to recognize the reality of your situation and accept it, even when you don't want to. Sometimes it's not easy to accept the opposite of what you want to believe. I have no idea if this is applicable to your situation, hence why we'd need to know what you're talking about.

[thcbongman]

Dude, if I counted all the reasons I should be ashamed of myself I'll jump off a bridge.

You never felt the consequence of your action before until now. Otherwise, you likely won't have done it.

Life's a learning experience. You learned.

Now get ready for tomorrow's lesson.

[Unknown American]

What is this about? How does it deal with Sexuality or relationships?

Yes I have had regrets and things I have been ashamed of. I have a lifetime of regrets.

If it involves other people you ask for forgiveness and make sure it does not happen again. If it involves consequences, you face them and deal with it.

Then you move on.

[jacked420]

yeah i fooled around with someone that i should not have. the bad thing is that i have been trying to work things out with my girlfriend who i recently seperated from. and i am also very worried about STD's. I don't think I have one, but i got a blowjob without a condom. i just feel very dirty and ashamed of the stupid decision i made while i was horny and wasted...

[bobthenuker]

I don't think I have one, but i got a blowjob without a condom. ...

wait, so what's the problem? I'm pretty sure a girl can't transfer an std that way if she had one, unless it's you that has one.

[Unknown American]

I am having a hard time feeling sorry for someone that just shot his load off into some girls mouth. But that is just me.

If you were really concerned with working things out with your girlfriend you would not have put yourself in that situation. If this girl that you fooled around with knows your girlfriend, you are fucked. If not just end it now.

Do not put yourself in this situation again.

But hell ya got sucked off and blew your load. Sounds like your life is pretty good to me.

[jacked420]

I am having a hard time feeling sorry for someone that just shot his load off into some girls mouth. But that is just me.

If you were really concerned with working things out with your girlfriend you would not have put yourself in that situation. If this girl that you fooled around with knows your girlfriend, you are fucked. If not just end it now.

Do not put yourself in this situation again.

But hell ya got sucked off and blew your load. Sounds like your life is pretty good to me.

i agree that you should not feel sorry for me. but i still feel like sh*t. you are right that i should not have put myself in that situation. i think what bothers me the most is that i did put myself in that situation, and i completely let myself and my girlfriend down. my girlfriend is smokin hot, and this chick i fooled around with is not hot at all. i have never had an STD, i'm just worried this chick might have given me one since i wasn't wearing any protection during the blowjob. unfortunately, i called the health center today and they said unless i am showing symptoms, i must wait a couple weeks to get tested. i am retarded. there is no chance my girl would ever find out unless i told her, but i'm not sure if i want to.

[Storm Crow]

(a) Don't tell her, but treat her like a queen.
(b) Don't have sex until you've been tested. (tell her you just want to "take it slow".)
(c) Remember how much of an ass you feel like now, and don't do it again!

Granny:hippy:

[eddievanzant]

I remember three times that I said something completely opposite of what I wanted to say for no reason at all. I'm still in school so forgive me for not having anything relevant to real life to mention. Hopefully it helps you feel normal.
I told a Japanese person I hated Chinese people in a conversation simply because I heard that Chinese and Japanese people didn't get along. I don't hate Chinese people.
I downplayed my own expertise when it was called into question when I was on the stand as a witness in Mock Trial in state competition.
I sarcastically said, "Oh no, I'm not in my seat when the bell rang. I'm gonna get a detention," instead of saying, "Crap, I gotta get to my seat!" at the beginning of class.
None of these things I did changed my life significantly. No one heard me say I hate Chinese people, my side of our Mock Trial team won anyways, and all I got for mocking the teacher was the detention that I was going to receive in the first place.
Nonetheless, I would like to shoot myself in the head for saying such idiotic things. I have no idea how these things came out of my mouth. I just wasn't thinking.
There's no way to remove these bad memories, and that is a good thing. If you forget that you may have ruined a relationship by doing what you did, you may do it again.

You have to learn from your mistakes. Do what you can to fix the problem, but don't put yourself in this situation again.