how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

[Non]

Most if not all women would reject a person whose never had a girlfriend or have never had a sexual relationship, in these days. aside from the fact that I have to lie, it may be hard to hide it since it's resulted in many imbalances physical and emotional. also I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time.

maybe I'm just full of it.

I am 21 by the way not a teenager anymore...

[Canadian_Cron]

dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

[LuckyG]

Well, don't lie about it then. Be honest and be yourself. Have a good time. :D

I don't know, I'm in the same situation but I guess apathy doesn't work for everyone. You are probably just worrying too much about it, which won't help anything. Look out for number one, and then worry about finding number two. :thumbsup:

[LuckyG]

I'd edit my last post but I think that the unintentional bathroom humour in it deserves to live on. :D

[THClord]

Dude, same here.

Well the reason for me is that I was f*in stupid. I had a couple opportunities recently, but I blew them all.

I'll keep my eyes open.

BTW, I'm 19.

[Non]

dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

yeah that's pretty much what I thought...

[Innominate]

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

[420MissHighTimes420]

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

:thumbsup::thumbsup:

[The Lorax]

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:


I agree with this man. :thumbsup:

I'm almost 20, and in the same boat.

I also figure that I need to focus on school and photography more so, I mean, I'm not gonna prevent anything from happening if I find the right person, but at the same time, I'm not gonna go out of my way.

There are more people out there just like you than you think, I used to be the same way, thinking I was one of few, but I know now, and am content with the fact.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

[Unknown American]

Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

[geonagual]

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:


I am sure you have posted about it before but I cant remember the particulars..what the reason for this? Is it by choice?

Edit: how did you become a glorious beacon of light already? :jointsmile:

[Kokujin X]

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad: lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

[Nailhead]

I am 25, never had a girlfriend, didn't loose my cherry till I was 19. I have severe social issues, but if you play your game right you can make girls think you are a playa, and that's why you've never had a serious g/f, not because you are what I am, an anti-social loser. lol

Your past experience really does not matter for anything at all, all that matters when it comes to girls, is confidence. If you are confident even though you have little or no experience, you can get a girl to be interested in you. Some people here sound like they are way too nice, don't be! Being nice will get you nothing but perhaps a peck on the cheek from a girl and her constant phone calls at midnight with her crying talking about what an ass her boyfriend is. That is a situation you never want to be in, also known as the dreaded friend zone.

Just be confident, that is the most important thing. If you have to fake the confidence, that is fine, as long as you can fake it long enough to convince a girl you are worth paying attention to then your job is complete.

Oh, one more thing....try dating Asians. I don't know why, but I just have good luck with them, worth a shot ;)

[Nailhead]

lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

[Kokujin X]

I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that? lol, yeah man, myspace is horrible for finding new girls. Its ok to use to talk to girls you meet in person, most of them my age do. But yes, I was branded an outcast all through elementry school basically. Then later on in highschool hardly anyone actually knows me, but if you ask someone about me most likely its "oh yeah, he looks like a pretty chill guy" or "I really like his hair!"

I dont think its good for me to live in a mainly white area, not trying to sound racist or anything but I swear I've been made a spectacle because I grow dreads. Its what my hair does when I dont comb it, I cant help having curly hair. But these people are so fucking retarded, i cant walk down the hall without hearing the name "bob marly", its rediculous. And these girls (which 99% of them are white) seem to have an imbeded mentality of indifferance when it comes to actually dating black people, hell even mexicans and asians. You dont ever see any of them walkin around with nothin but a white guy. I've had 2 girlfriends, one in kindergarden, 1 in 4th grade (lol @ elementry gf's) both were mexican (which i dont have a problem with by any means, they were good lookin to me) but sadly most girls are too tied up in their little bitch clicks. I challenge these girls to go for something a little more exotic, somethin different then all the steriotypical bullshitters, hardly origonal people.

A lot of online dating sites i've tried usually give me bad results (if any for free) I tried chemistry.com thinking it might be decent. Looked through my top 5 (free) matches and they were barely matches at all. I got a terrible impression of all of them and NONE of them even had "african american" under their match req. shit. 3 of them only had "white / cacasian" and they other 2 had most BUT black! wtf???? seriously, you would think they take this into consideration when "matching" couples.

[WeedyBoyWonder]

I'm 18 and never been in a serious relationship (lasted longer than a week or two), and haven't been in a relationship since I left high school.
If you guys want a girl so bad, get one, it's not really that difficult, put some effort in!
It just depends who you will settle for, for me personally I haven't come across any lady's who I would would even consider to spend the rest of my days with.

Besides that I enjoy being single alittle, I means I can talk to lady's anyway I like and not feel like I shouldn't be having a laugh with other girls because I'm attached to someone. No responsibility apart from myself.

[Non]

Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

yeah thats what Im trying to do but sometimes i get all preoccupied with my social life and cant focus on my studies. im trying to keep myself busy.

[Non]

I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

i think online dating services look too much like a meat market.

I've had a problem doing the 'cold pickup' or what they call when you chat with a girl spontaneously that you don't really know. it seems girls like that the most, but I may be wrong. you have to have good social skills, and yeah you can compliment a girl on just her looks that way too, but I want things to flow naturally like we meet first as friends or casually through conversation and same interests, and I don't just chat with her just because I want a girlfriend, you know what I mean?

seems like I cant meet a girl, whilst Im doing something of the same interest like at school or at work but some have strict rules like "don't date anyone who is from work, from school, your neighbor, etc" only in special cases I guess.

[Non]

I think girls prefer the spontaneous pick up like on the street or whatever. like they say they dream about someone who 'sweeps off their feet' spontaneously but that limits them too...

[Innominate]

Women love a spontaneously cunning man, but more than likely they will not fall for typical dialogue because depending on the woman, they've seen how men approach them and have a sense of what the man's motives are, so I would stay away from cheesy conversations that might lead to no where.

My approach to finding a woman is meet them but don't provide them with the least bit idea that you are attracted to them. Keep them guessing. It is important to not only be conservative in terms of dialogue but behavior and body language as well. Show that you are a deep-minded and caring person, meaning that you have an empathetic and affectionate side, something all women are looking for. It is amazing by how much attention women will provide when they see it inside of you. Very few women meet men that are socially responsible in these terms, but if you grab her interest, just then will she yearn for your affection that you've held back from her.

Always remember that these connections take time.

[snowblind]

from the flip side i got in too a heavy relationship when i was 17 and although she wasn't my first she felt like it cus it was the first time i had love and sex. anyway 4 years down the line i was broke, somewhat mentally disturbed and fucked. things went proper sour.

they say that males brains don't fully develop till were 25. so take your time build up your resources, people and careers. then youll have more to offer than douche scenesters and wanna be gangsters. cus real gangsters wear suits.

but just be on the look out cus the best girlfriends are just really really good mates you get to fuck.

peace and progress.

[killerweed420]

Women are highly over rated. Get a rubber fuck me in the face doll and dog for companionship.lol;)

[snowblind]

/\/\/\/\ if you believe that why you even bothering with the doll. wont the dog satisfy both your needs

[Kokujin X]

^ ewwww... I dont think he ment beastiality, haha

[snowblind]

lol well blow up women are more hassle, puncture repair kits are fuckers

[BathingApes]

lol well blow up women are more hassle, puncture repair kits are fuckers

Needle-dick? :)

[killerweed420]

Naw no doggy style.lol
If I get too horny and start thinking about picking up a girl at the local bar I just slam my a door on my cock.lol

[home.grower]

what is there to deal with? if I were u i'd practice seducing the ladies to boost my confidence... smoking cannabis and thinking oneself into a hole is unhealthy...

as we can see, no man is an island... therefore don't assume you are the only dude who has never had a girlfriend (not that you are assuming that of course). I sometimes feel as though I haven't had a girlfriend, but only because its been ages since I've been bothered to commit to anything beside a successful harvest. we all have our issues :)

for me... going someplace new, and treating the event ~(any event)~ as a big act with the world as my stage often provides me a confidence boost... under this new light I realise that I can be and do what ever I like all depending upon how confidently I carry it off... the watcher is non the wiser as they engage in conversation an feed of my invented magic... during these moments the possibility of establishing long lasting relationships is just so possible...

I told a girl around 6 years ago quite confidently that I was a virgin, but I didn't say it as though it was any kind of major issue... she wanted to fax pipe off to cut a long story short... she made a bigger issue out of it on the surface than I did and she very much desired to put me out of some kind of misery... she couldn't wait to take her panties off and pull me in... steamy windows lol enuff!!

hold yer head up and get on with being alive dude

[Omnirok]

And for some odd reason I thought I was the "only" or one of a "few" people with this problem...

I am a senior in highschool Havent had a relationship since 9th grade... (lasted 2 weeks) anyways its not like im bad with women... I have many girl friends but on that note its always that... Every girl that ive ever met and became friends with thats what I turn out to be... the "FRIEND" who she cries to and tells you to "stay the way you are now you will find some girl that deserves you"

or this is a good one to

"Your going to make some girl extremely happy one day"

OR this one is even better...

"I want a guy JUST like YOU"

on that one I cant help but say... "Im standing infront of you"
and that usually ends with "I dont deserve someone as good as you" ...

What
The
Fuck.

Oh, well me and this current girl are hitting it off pretty well we've hung out every night/day since we met... about 1.5 months ago... And we both agree theres never a day that passes that we dont "want" to hang out with each other...

But shes made it clear that she doesnt want a relationshit right now because of her last boyfriend "ruind" her but its ok I guess so yea... all of our friends think we screw around but the reality of the situation is we dont at all... nothing

But oh well they keep telling me to make the move but... Yea no point because she made it PAINFULLY clear that she doesnt want any type of "love" life at all and shes happy without one.

Thats just my thought on the subject and a small story...

yea...

<3 all at cannabis.com!:rastasmoke::rastasmoke::rasta:

[r0k]

Everyone starts somewhen :jointsmile:

[Non]

I don't think I'll ever get a girlfriend

[Non]

I dont even know how to get one. One cannot even really be direct in looking for a girlfriend without it looking like you're just looking for meat can they?

[psychocat]

I always found that a direct approach works. My opening line is :
Do you fuck on first dates? LOL

Only kidding my problem isn't getting girlfriends it's keeping ex=girlfriends away.At my moms funeral two of my exes were there as well as my current one.

[killerweed420]

In my own experience as funny as it seems,I usually find women when I'm not looking.Its seems if I show no interest it makes them more attracted to me. The times I was most approached by women was when I was married. My wives friends were all over me. But me being the idiot I was I never took any of them up on it.

[Non]

i dont get why girls get all whorish around every other guy except for me and then they get all mad with me or some shit and are quick to throw me a lawsuit.

[yoda]

one of the funniest things i've ever read, on a guitar forum

"Sex is overrated. Try World of Warcraft."

[Nailhead]

Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.

[Coelho]

one of the funniest things i've ever read, on a guitar forum

"Sex is overrated. Try World of Warcraft."

ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):



"Sex is overrated. Try Weed :stoned:"

[Non]

Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.

the problem is I can't even get a date or fuck budddy

what the fuck is dating anyway. I dont know how to go about that one with women. "Hey you wanna go on a date?" it sounds better if I just ask them if they wanna hang out.

[Non]

ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):

that's BS that it will always come. that's why there's guys who are over 40 and still haven't found a date or have never had sex etc.

nothing in life is guaranteed

[Non]

Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.


I think we are to look for the right person. If you have sex before you know a person than you may end up with a sexually transmitted disease or later find out the person is messed up. Sex is a Union, and not to be abused. You don't first have sex with someone to get to know that person. The problem with this world though is that hardly anyone gets to find the right person (or at least me) before it's too late and then become sexually imbalanced so that people look only to satisfy their sexual needs and may also end up in the wrong relationships because they're just looking for any relationship.

and then because people are looking for just any relationship, they may occupy their time with someone who may be good only on the surface meanwhile that person may be good for someone else, and that someone else may be left alone because the other person is occupied with someone else.................

whatever.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):


Coelho, I know it's easy to say "wait till you have more experience and are wiser", but having that first screwed-up relationship is what gives you the experience; having that experience, is what builds wisdom.


As for the other guys here, saying it's more hassle than it's worth, that being alone is better, that being without any relationships is just fine... you don't actually know that till you've experienced years upon years of it, into your adult life where every one of your friends have past you by in this field, and the loneliness gets utterly soul-crushing and developes into isolation-based depression. The isolated feeling can be outright hell at times; human beings as with all animals have a biological need for companionship essential to healthy mental development.

[Unknown American]

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

[silkyblue]

no girlfriend !! wtf!!!

get a girl for heavens sake !! just take the plunge, be yourself, dont be totally honest, but, make promises, write poetry for her eyes only, tell her, her hair smells good, she has soft skin, open doors, gals loves words, be gentle, girls are fragile

if its about just gettin laid?

the good girls, wont, but, the bad girls will !!

:jointsmile:

[Non]

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

well I could think about my goals. but my goal is to become a doctor. and as a doctor you require your own balance before you work on anyone else. also, I feel like I work for no purpose if I don't get any type of 'affection' or someone likes my work, or approves of it, and some kind of womanly affection is the epitome of that for me.

I don't even feel complete without one. I am like split in half without the 'other'. she is the yin to my yang. etc.

I am strange. people want to tell me "you don't need it" but in all honesty I do think I do, for the sake of my own balance.

[Non]

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

oh yeah and even if I do go out I don't find anything.

[Its a Plant]

I can't really say anything other than reiterate what's already been said. You have to go out and make yourself available man. And honestly, most of the girls I've dated were never too much into the whole "date" thing anyways. They actually turned their noses up at the idea of just going out to dinner. We just did things together. Anything. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to get a "date," because sometimes that word itself is what intimidates some people. Just go do something and leave it at that.

As for where to find them, I'd recommend not hitting up the bars in search of Mrs. Right. That's just too cliche' and kind of scummy imo. Besides, most girls that are worth holding onto don't go for horny guys at bars to begin with. See if a friend of a friend knows anyone that's single, or if you're in any classes see who's around you and strike up a conversation. Even where you work. Just get out there and meet as many people as you can so you can build up your "network" so to speak.

You have to walk before you can run man. You can't go out there right away expecting to find your dream girl. Take it slow and first get comfortable talking to women, then move onto maybe starting a relationship with one that suits your fancy. I'll warn you not to be over-anxious though lol.

Best of luck my man. Keep your head up and it'll happen as long as you're you, there's nothing anyone can take away from that. :jointsmile:

[meatw4d]

If you ever get bored, try reading some of the articles on AskMen.com - Free Men's Online Magazine (http://www.askmen.com). Maybe they could give you some confidence or inspiration or something.

[Coelho]

Coelho, I know it's easy to say "wait till you have more experience and are wiser", but having that first screwed-up relationship is what gives you the experience; having that experience, is what builds wisdom.


Yes... but its the hard way... i know that "the burnt hand teaches best" (or somewhat like... its a proverb)... but wisdom is never too much, nor patience. My own first experience was both heaven and hell. The only concrete thing ive learned from it is that the first love is a heavy drug, as addicting as crack, heroin, and its withdraw is VERY bad also. If you think weed is not enough, go for it... but dont say i didnt warned you!


As for the other guys here, saying it's more hassle than it's worth, that being alone is better, that being without any relationships is just fine... you don't actually know that till you've experienced years upon years of it, into your adult life where every one of your friends have past you by in this field, and the loneliness gets utterly soul-crushing and developes into isolation-based depression. The isolated feeling can be outright hell at times; human beings as with all animals have a biological need for companionship essential to healthy mental development.

Well... i dont want to disregard your views, but companionship isnt a biological need... its only a social need. But, as we humans live completly immersed into the society, we easily confuse biological needs with social needs. I used to feel like you described, but now ive overcame it... the paths i had to thread were black and cold, but now i can say that nothing actually matters. In fact, now i love to be as lonely as possible... But, each one his own, of course. You are intelligent, and surely will find your way... so, good luck! May the force be with you! :thumbsup:

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

longest relationship ive had was 8 months,imo g/f's are overrated trying to make you change and buy them shit i would rather go out every night.

[birdgirl73]

Companionship, friendship, love and affection are very much biological needs. In study after study, we know that people of all ages live longer and in better health when they have companionship and affection. Babies who are deprived of care and nurturing don't thrive at all, and adults are not all that different. It is very much a biological need, most likely driven by evolution. Companionship, since it's a boon to our health and longevity, increases our chances of successfully passing our genes on to another generation.

[TryptamineScape]

after reading birdgirl's response I completely forgot what I was gonna say...someting along the lines of it doesn't really matter if you've never had a gf before. Just don't worry...but it doesn't make sense now I can't really remember the way it made sense...

[Non]

well one thing I have trouble seeing through is that without 'her' I an not even fully yang, because a yang male is supposed to be a certain way. the only way I could do it then is if I find a woman who compliments my 'yang' which isn't even completely 'yang' but an imbalanced 'yang male' so an imbalanced 'yin female' would do so, that we would compliment each other the way the normal 'male/female' relationships are supposed to be.

and so I'm making this whole thing weird.

and I don't believe in evolution by itself. evolution happens through creation, if creation is able, but if not then tough luck. the only motivating force may be pain. so I try connecting with nature but like.. the nature of imbalance is to 'die' and perhaps feel pain with pain being the only motivating force to live on.

[Non]

Yes... but its the hard way... i know that "the burnt hand teaches best" (or somewhat like... its a proverb)... but wisdom is never too much, nor patience. My own first experience was both heaven and hell. The only concrete thing ive learned from it is that the first love is a heavy drug, as addicting as crack, heroin, and its withdraw is VERY bad also. If you think weed is not enough, go for it... but dont say i didnt warned you!



Well... i dont want to disregard your views, but companionship isnt a biological need... its only a social need. But, as we humans live completly immersed into the society, we easily confuse biological needs with social needs. I used to feel like you described, but now ive overcame it... the paths i had to thread were black and cold, but now i can say that nothing actually matters. In fact, now i love to be as lonely as possible... But, each one his own, of course. You are intelligent, and surely will find your way... so, good luck! May the force be with you! :thumbsup:

while you may disagree.. I think we do have ingrained in our biology to be with 'the other'.. why do you think we have the other in the first place, do you think it's for nothing?

[dean0000]

People have been giving good advise here and you just dismiss whatever they say. I think if you think a little more positive you will have a better chance. Thinking negative never got anyone anything. I should know im the king of negative thinking. There is at least 1 girl for every guy so just be yourself and things will happen. Dont act desperate around girls, that makes them run a mile.

[TryptamineScape]

I don't think it's the need to be with someone or loved quite so much as the need for sex that's ingrained in us all. Looking at the rest of the animal kingdom would be proof. Alot of animals have high social needs of course. Mating isn't a social need. Us feeling that we need to be loved or be with someone special is social. Even now, there are places in the world where the social standard is to be with more than one person and think of those people more as property. The common factor is the factor that we all need to mate. In the event a species isn't able to procreate they will resort to other means of sexual satisfaction or procreation. Like those certain frogs that in the event there aren't enough females to mate with the male has the ability to lay fertilized eggs, of which all the offspring are female. That replenishes the female population so the breeding can continue. Male Koala bears have been observed in captivity to have sex with each other in the event there are no females. The urge to mate is an urge they can't fight. I don't think humans are so different. We tend to take care of ourselves in large ways we don't even notice. Social needs and biological needs are different.

[Nailhead]

the problem is I can't even get a date or fuck budddy

what the fuck is dating anyway. I dont know how to go about that one with women. "Hey you wanna go on a date?" it sounds better if I just ask them if they wanna hang out.

Don't worry so much about the definition of "dating", your only purpose of going on a date is to have sex so who cares if your time with a girl is considered a date to others, that doesn't matter. Do what is most comfortable, I don't think I have ever asked a girl straight up "Hey, will you date me?" Just do what is comfortable, like getting her number, or as you mention, just ask if they want to hang out. Just plan something interesting, no matter how slutty the girl is, they all pretend to be innocent virgins so don't just plan to have her come over, get naked and go at it. If you can get her to your place with no distractions, (parents, roomates, etc.), that would be good, watch a rented movie or something, whatever will make the both of you comfortable.

Alcohol is always your friend, bud can be too but most girls aren't really into pot, and many will be turned off if you even offer it so I wouldn't even chance it unless you already know she is down to smoke. Don't listen to these other guys say you need to know her before having sex, if your only looking to get laid her personality doesn't matter for you, and it's not like goody Christian girls are immune from STDs either, so always use a jimmy with anyone you are with! Personally, I'm more paranoid of knocking a girl up than catching an STD, but in either case neither is a good thing to have happen.

[Non]

lol, well yeah I would only look for sex only because I feel like it's an imbalance, at least until I find the right woman that I may want to be with exclusively for a time. Even then though, I would think it does not fulfill, or balance at least fully if I don't find the right woman, or even if I do: the time for the right opportunities has passed me long ago, and it doesn't matter what I may or may not do, there may never be a balance.

Even my mom suggested a whore may help me out at least until I find the right woman...

[Mississippi Steve]

*MOST* of you are way too young to even understand what a relationship is all about. I highly recommend doing what you want to do, and being what you want to be.... *BEFORE* getting committed in a relationship. When your well on the way to being successful in your lifes endevors, then its a good thing to have that dedicated support system to help keep you on track and be your personal chearleader. Sex is great, but... life isn't based on something that occupies less than .01% of your life.
FWIW, the right partner can be a phenominal addition to your life, but...OTOH, the wrong one can just as easily destroy your life, and your ability to keep a roof over your head and food on the table...then you can end up paying for that particular privelage for the rest of your life in the form of spousal support.
Take it from somebody who has been there.

[silkyblue]

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
:hippy:

[kms brown]

what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.

[Non]

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
:hippy:

lol.. well I meant one that gives sex for money.

[Kodiene]

Companionship, friendship, love and affection are very much biological needs. In study after study, we know that people of all ages live longer and in better health when they have companionship and affection. Babies who are deprived of care and nurturing don't thrive at all, and adults are not all that different. It is very much a biological need, most likely driven by evolution. Companionship, since it's a boon to our health and longevity, increases our chances of successfully passing our genes on to another generation.

Now thats the kind of post i like to read right there. I myself love relationships. I love to have someone to share my life with & to give her all the love i can. Call me a pussy if you must, but remember this when i'm having someone to hold me & share my deepest thoughts with, you'll still be crawling through this world crying for someone to love.

[420_24/7]

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

Holy monkey you're right! Thanks dude:D

[Nailhead]

what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.
None of this info is helpful for anybody trying to get laid, as I said before, women don't even know what they really want so asking them for tips won't get you anywhere as far as sex goes.

Non, you just need to get laid, you can worry about all that balance crap later on, but first thing's first, just get laid. I guess you could hire a professional if that is your last option, but that won't really teach you anything about how to talk to girls, so I wouldn't recommend that unless you are getting frustrated to the point where all you can think of is sex, (which doesn't sound like that is you, at least from what I'm getting).

I don't know any girl that would prefer a virgin over a guy that knows what he's doing, not just for sex, but relationships as well. They all want a guy that knows what he is doing, but you will never figure out what to do if you don't have the basics of a relationship down, that is, sex. Yes, sex is the basic core of all relationships. The main reason relationships fail is because they don't have a good sex life, having a good sex life with your mate is the most important part of that relationship. If you never learn the basics, you can never advance into a serious relationship, so don't listen to anybody that tells you sex isn't important because it is, and it always has been in human history. So many people today ignore the importance of sex in a relationship, is it any wonder why so many relationships fail? Divorce is becoming the trendy thing to do these days, few marriages last longer than 5 years, and people continue to ignore the importance of having a good sex life in their relationships.

Although, it seems you are choosing what you want to hear, you are ignoring excellent recommendations given in this thread because you continue to believe in some "balance" crap. With as little experience as you claim to have, I'm not sure how you can even think you know enough about women to have balance. That would be like me claiming to know how to balance my check book when I don't even know enough about my own bank account to log in and see how much money is left. Ok, maybe a bad analogy, but I do think you should be focused on sex and only sex, and let the relationship part come together when the time is right with the right person. The more women you date, the more you will learn what you do and don't like in a partner, both physically and emotionally, again, don't ignore the physical side!

[Nailhead]

^lol, very true, very true

[Non]

ok well first of all I'm not denying the physical side of things. I absolutely know that I need sex, but I was using the balance thing to refer to my sexual balance. I said I really do need a sexual balance and that means: getting laid right now.

[Innominate]

I understand that there is an emotional gap (or imbalance) you are yearning to fill with some female excitement. If you are looking for a relationship then of course it's going to take some more time than just finding the girl that will relieve your urges. Nobody is still clear on your situation...we don't know your appearance, history, or ideals that might have caused you to believe your stuck in this rut. Be as whatever it may be, you aren't a hopeless person.

Nothing in life was meant to be easy so you are going to have to get on your feet and make some action happen. Get your name out there, meet new people, and present the attitude that you want people to see about you, and you bet it'll need to be a confident attitude. Nobody wants to feel sorry for you, they want to see the greatness in you. Focus less about what is wrong with you, and more about how you can work to change it.

[affasd]

longest relationship ive had was 8 months,imo g/f's are overrated trying to make you change and buy them shit i would rather go out every night.

agreed man 100%.way overrated.


I have a lot more money and time to do what i want and im happy this way im not gonna change for someone but if someone likes me for who i am then great but so far that hasnt happened im only 18 tho but i could see me in your same situation at 21 but if you learn to not care and just make yourself happy then its all good and hopefully eventually you'll meet someone for you

[kikoraa]

yea man biggest mistake is worring so much about it, when the time finally comes for you to make your move youll panic cus youve been so stressed out about this day for so long. take it easy listen to everyone and make yourself happy first. be comfortable and confident when approaching a girl.

PS at least you got your hands for now dude

[Non]

I do not think it will ever happen.

[kikoraa]

If you keep talking like that you're right. Man up
You got any personal friends that can help you or give you advice or take you out and and show you.
Theres someone for everyone Just be strong man youll get the poon or relationship you deserve. Don't diss yourself Gotta be more confident. Everones giving you great advice listen to them.

[TheGreenBuddy]

I'm 18 and never been in a serious relationship (lasted longer than a week or two), and haven't been in a relationship since I left high school.
If you guys want a girl so bad, get one, it's not really that difficult, put some effort in!
It just depends who you will settle for, for me personally I haven't come across any lady's who I would would even consider to spend the rest of my days with.

Besides that I enjoy being single alittle, I means I can talk to lady's anyway I like and not feel like I shouldn't be having a laugh with other girls because I'm attached to someone. No responsibility apart from myself.

Same situation man. :)

[kms brown]

None of this info is helpful for anybody trying to get laid, as I said before, women don't even know what they really want so asking them for tips won't get you anywhere as far as sex goes.

Non, you just need to get laid, you can worry about all that balance crap later on, but first thing's first, just get laid. I guess you could hire a professional if that is your last option, but that won't really teach you anything about how to talk to girls, so I wouldn't recommend that unless you are getting frustrated to the point where all you can think of is sex, (which doesn't sound like that is you, at least from what I'm getting).

I don't know any girl that would prefer a virgin over a guy that knows what he's doing, not just for sex, but relationships as well. They all want a guy that knows what he is doing, but you will never figure out what to do if you don't have the basics of a relationship down, that is, sex. Yes, sex is the basic core of all relationships. The main reason relationships fail is because they don't have a good sex life, having a good sex life with your mate is the most important part of that relationship. If you never learn the basics, you can never advance into a serious relationship, so don't listen to anybody that tells you sex isn't important because it is, and it always has been in human history. So many people today ignore the importance of sex in a relationship, is it any wonder why so many relationships fail? Divorce is becoming the trendy thing to do these days, few marriages last longer than 5 years, and people continue to ignore the importance of having a good sex life in their relationships.

Although, it seems you are choosing what you want to hear, you are ignoring excellent recommendations given in this thread because you continue to believe in some "balance" crap. With as little experience as you claim to have, I'm not sure how you can even think you know enough about women to have balance. That would be like me claiming to know how to balance my check book when I don't even know enough about my own bank account to log in and see how much money is left. Ok, maybe a bad analogy, but I do think you should be focused on sex and only sex, and let the relationship part come together when the time is right with the right person. The more women you date, the more you will learn what you do and don't like in a partner, both physically and emotionally, again, don't ignore the physical side!

While i do agree that sex is a key factor i also believe that what you just said is moronic. Your not having sex 24/7 and if your not having sex what are you doing? communicating with eachother, and if you cant communicate and all you can wait for is sex, your relationship will fail. You dont see many 60-80 yr old married couples still together for the sex, i mean im sure there is one or two out there, but sex stops eventually and when you have a relationship around sex, guess what the relation ship stops too.
I didnt realise he was looking for sex, i thought he was looking for a relationship when i read "I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time." If you really want to get laid get rid of your ego.

[Innominate]

Sign up for a gym and start lifting weights. Gain some muscle, confidence, energy, and get out there. Just don't be too damn confident.

[iStaaHi]

i love my girl and im 18 it sucks tho cuz we dont chill that much cuz she works and between school and that and asap its hard to chill,, so i dont know i cant help u,, relationships fuck with ur head

[Innominate]

We weren't born to be in relationships. We were born to procreate and fulfill our desires. It's a matter of conforming that makes relationships so difficult.

[Nailhead]

While i do agree that sex is a key factor i also believe that what you just said is moronic. Your not having sex 24/7 and if your not having sex what are you doing? communicating with eachother, and if you cant communicate and all you can wait for is sex, your relationship will fail. You dont see many 60-80 yr old married couples still together for the sex, i mean im sure there is one or two out there, but sex stops eventually and when you have a relationship around sex, guess what the relation ship stops too.
I didnt realise he was looking for sex, i thought he was looking for a relationship when i read "I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time." If you really want to get laid get rid of your ego.

It would be moronic if I was giving him relationship advice, getting laid and getting a g/f are 2 completely different things. If he is like any normal guy, he probably thinks that in order to get laid he needs to have a relationship, which just isn't true at all.

Maybe it is just me, but you seem a bit angered by the advice I gave, why is that?

[someuser]

I think Nailhead brought up some good points. I wont go so far as to say sex is EVERYTHING and that is the sole key to a long-term relationship, but yes sex is important.

[kms brown]

It would be moronic if I was giving him relationship advice, getting laid and getting a g/f are 2 completely different things. If he is like any normal guy, he probably thinks that in order to get laid he needs to have a relationship, which just isn't true at all.

Maybe it is just me, but you seem a bit angered by the advice I gave, why is that?

I apoligize for my anger ive been dry on bud for a few days now so i havent gotten the best sleep. You gave advice to get layed, I gave advice for a relationship, i miss interpreted what he wanted, my bad.

[Non]

lol, I don't know how to go about getting sex without a relationship first.

[Innominate]

Obviously you are going to need to make friends with a few girls first. Mentioning that you aren't looking for a serious relationship at the moment is a must, but I wouldn't necessarily mention your personal/truthful intentions right off the bat.

It sounds to me that you have trouble meeting people. Get outside and meet people. Be a fun and positive person, then women will want to have fun with you.

[Coelho]

lol, I don't know how to go about getting sex without a relationship first.

Have you ever heard about a poison called booze?

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

its called date rape get with the times :glugglug:

[cadmiumblimp]

It sounds to me that you have trouble meeting people. Get outside and meet people. Be a fun and positive person, then women will want to have fun with you.
I can't speak for Non, but I'd say that people who have trouble meeting people often have trouble meeting people because they suffer from some sort of social anxiety and I'd say that meeting people, for a person with social anxiety, can be quite troublesome. It's quite difficult to have friends, male or female, when you're too scared to go out and do something.

[Cyclonite]

Well im not the most social person...most find me weird. Its all about confidence, think to yourself they are lesser than you and your doing them a favor. Also most people with not so much experience tend to cling severely...just relax and be patient.

Drinking helps me, might be worth a shot....snap, nice pun.

Try and lightly flirt or just start little conversations then ask for a date, after the date wait a bit before you call. :smokin:

[silkyblue]

got a girl yet?
go get a girl !


then you'll find love ~~
fill us in !!


make love to her from the back of a chevy !

memorable !!

the next post you read will be

about the bitchin chick NON has!!

[Innominate]

I can't speak for Non, but I'd say that people who have trouble meeting people often have trouble meeting people because they suffer from some sort of social anxiety and I'd say that meeting people, for a person with social anxiety, can be quite troublesome. It's quite difficult to have friends, male or female, when you're too scared to go out and do something.
I completely understand, but it doesn't mean it is hopeless for him. As I've said before, there are different kinds of women out there looking for Non.

[cadmiumblimp]

Its all about confidence, think to yourself they are lesser than you and your doing them a favor.
I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

I completely understand, but it doesn't mean it is hopeless for him. As I've said before, there are different kinds of women out there looking for Non.
Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.

[Coelho]

I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

Well... they say so because many men tends to regard any woman theyre interested in as goddesses, queens, so high and distant from them that they think it would be impossible that the woman give him even a look. So, they become very afraid of even approaching her, fearing theyre not good enough for her.
I dont think women likes men who are afraid of her. In fact, it seems women likes corageous, standing, cocky men... and this kind of men, due their own cockyness, would think theyre doing a favour to the ladies when being interested in them. And, strangely, it works with most women...
From my own experiences, it seems as most interested you show you are, less interested the woman becomes. And as less interested you show you are, most interested the woman becomes. Its weird, i know... but who said that women are understandable?

[Innominate]

Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.
I'm glad to see we're on the same page.

[katacus]

Women are highly over rated. Get a rubber fuck me in the face doll and dog for companionship.lol;)

works for me, and Im happy as hell. Got money in the bank and some peace and quiet.

listen, wanna work on your confidence? go to a strip club and practice. talk to the chicks, wave a few dollars around and enjoy yourself. you can screw up bad there, make loads of goofy mistakes. but the chicks arent goning to care, cause its all green to them. then when your ready, hunt ya down a real chick.

then fall in love, get married, have kids.....then you will see loads of chicks given you the eye. then you will have to have some of that because it's written into your dna as a guy. next thing you know, your divorsed. then you go back to the strip clubs and start the whole process again.

another thought: ever notice it's easier to get a girl when you have a girlfreind. seems like the very second your single, all the girls get together and vote you out. I have never been able to figure that one out.

other things about chicks: ever notice those complicated woman magazines at the check out lines. next time your stuck in line, read the covers. "100 ways to make love your man" or "men's 100erotic zones" I only know one erotic zone. I dont have a clue where the others are. trust me, I looked everywhere. thing is, chicks are crazie. I dated one chick who swore spies where chasing her. serious. another told me she was some kind of healing witch. not a bad witch, a good one she says. one chick thougth she was psychic. another would call a psychic hot line. had a few who swore someone is trying to distroy her. been the ringleader of many a circus. chicks love drama. thats why they love those damn reality shows on tv.

oh yeah..chicks love chocolate. everyone of them. you should always have chocolate around for the emergency break down times.

but yes...the best hunters will tell you, it's all in the confidence. I once told a chick at a club that I was an astronaunt and flew to marrs. funny thing about confidence. you can say the crazie things to a chick. but you do it with a degree of confidence, chicks will damn near believe anything. it just takes practice;)

it will all work out...its all good;):rastasmoke:

[Cyclonite]

I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.

Im not saying women are...thats far from the truth. It will help your mindset, your probably putting the girl above and the way you act will portray that to them...then they will get the idea they are better than you. Its just a different way to perceive things...like auto loans, most people are like "great im approved, thank god" but im more like why the hell would I give you my business when there is better offers.

[Cyclonite]

Ever notice most girls get with the guys you will deem an asshole? That gos back to what im saying, its just that initial attitude you have to take to get the date...after you get it then ease into how you really are show her how she should be treated.....I dont understand it but it works time and time again.

[Non]

well I had my first kiss today.

[Innominate]

And so life continues. Nice! :thumbsup: