I've never been so alone

[DaBudhaStank]

I was recently forced to break up with my girlfriend of several years because her parents no longer thought I was good enough. I'm 18, she's 17.

I dont know any of you, but I felt the need to tell someone, anyone.

I've never felt so alone, even though I know I have friends and family. But no one will feel the same pain I'm feeling right now. It's almost 3 in the morning. I have no bud, and I wouldnt smoke even if I did, because I dont want to numb the pain. It might have only been young love, it might have been true love, no one will ever know. I'm helpless to do anything, so all I can do is write. I know we all endure heart ache, and that it's a natural part of life, but it does nothing to ease it. I keep getting the feeling where all you wan't to do is curl up inside yourself and cry, forever. I never get this way, normally I'm very happy go lucky. I guess that just means we really had something.

So even though I don't know you, I love you, and good night.

[Unknown American]

I feel for you. I have been there myself. There is nothing I can say to make your pain go away.

But I have survived and so has everyone on here. Just feel the pain and take one day at a time.

I am 41 years old and I can honestly say you are going to make it. It is hard, but you will.

Wish I could say something to make it go away.

I am pulling for you man. You are stronger than you think.

[slipknotpsycho]

dude, at the absolute max, you have 1 year to wait.... i know it sucks, but if she's that wspecial to you, and she feels the same, both of you can wait til she's 18 as well....

the other option is to have a sit down with her parents, and find out what the problem is.... if yal have been dating for a decent ammount of time, before this, the fact you're 18 really shoudln't matter.. you're the same person that you were when you were 1 day away from 18....

seems to me her parents are just looking for an excuse to seperate the two of you....

[Nation_1ne]

I'm in a similar situation, I was with my misses for roughly 5 nearly 6 years and we broke up not so long ago. She has Uni and we were going through a rough patch. She wants to meet up at Christmas though, I can only hope positive things will happen as I still love her. But I have this nasty feeling she's gonna drop a bomb on me.

[sm0k1t]

Yep shit happens to everyone... Same here 3 years and a half and bang in 3 days I'm alone in my appartment now paying full price and she's gone with another guy that she knows for 2 weeks...live with him and is brother...anyway yep it still sux and its painfull but you still get happy moments...well for its been 3 weeks now and I had happy times worth living for and alot of badluck lol...car broke down...I'm on foot now. yay! anyway,when you feel bad cry it out and then go do somethin else and with time it will heal.

[Chaotixxx]

Better to have loved and lost.. Suck it up at least you got food and clothes.

[Zendro]

Been there when I was same age as you, time heals all wounds man, keep your head up :stoned:

[jchap]

it happens to everyone at some point in their lives

chin up my friend

the first time is always the toughest

but it can only make you stronger

[Reefer Rogue]

Thank you for reaching out for comfort. Love, or should I say the lack of love, hurts. A pain that goes beyond the normality of physicality. The feelings that were created through time which was shared and enjoyed. Is now over. Now at a stage of complete hope, will we ever get back together? We know it is over, yet can not move on as of yet. What is true happiness? Does it exist without the desire for sexual pleasure? Can you be happy without her? I believe you've been in the past and I believe you shall be again. Build your inner strength and confidence. Gain wisdom from the Kaya, true introspective knowledge, which can only be attained through everyones subjectivity. Surround yourself with friends, peace be with you.

[angry nomad]

Well, that sucks. But why not just be friends until she is 18?

[WesMan6868]

yea you cant stop the pain, hang in there. me and my girlfriend broke up after a 3 year relationship and a month later she was with my best friend.

[Storm Crow]

You two have been an item for "several years" and she is 17 and you are 18. Unless she just had her birthday, you have less than 12 months to "tough it out"! The day she is 18, she can tell her parents "Bye-bye!" and do as she pleases.

My questions are "Why do you think that your love cannot survive a separation of less than a year? Is it that fragile?" and "Is she worth waiting for?"

In the meantime, remember, she is totally jailbait! Do not doubt for a moment, that her parents will press statutory rape charges if they get a chance!

I am certain you have an "acceptable" mutual friend who would be willing to give her a private message from you- "I will wait until you are 18!". Dude, if she isn't willing to wait and give up everything for you, then maybe she doesn't feel as deeply as you do. If she says she will wait, too- then I wish you two the very best! :thumbsup:

In the meantime, start getting ready for your eventual reunion! Do you have a job? A place to live? A car? If you two are going to "set up housekeeping", you don't have time to be sad! This is the time to get things ready! Turn your sorrow into action and determination! By the time she hits 18, I want you to have it SO DANG good, that her parents will be unable to say a single word of criticism!

I'm not saying you need a big screen TV, a Volvo, and a stock portfolio and all that stuff, but you do need a comfortable place (without roaches and meth dealers downstairs), a reliable car and a job that can cover the bills and food. Until you have that, her parents will do their best to prevent you two from being a couple.

Hang in there! And get busy!- Granny:hippy:

[Canadian_Cron]

man thats really sucks. like who the fuck are her parents to make that decision for her! storm crow made a really good point. Give it some sometime, you can still talk to her tho. tell her how much you really care about her and want to be together.

like dude i kinda know where your coming from in a way. my best friend died of a drug overdose a year and 4 months ago and we hung out like every day we were practally married haha... anyways to say the very least it fucking sucked! i would smoke up just so i wouldnt have to think about it.... got addicted and it never helped except 4 when i was high to b honest... and now is actually the longest ive gone in a long time without being high (6 weeks).

my point is dont curl up and fade away and withdraw from everyone like i did. put yourself out there find activities that you enjoy or more importantly that make you happy and you'll meet people. what really helped me is that i started playing guitar cause i love music (makes me happy) and it helped me vent a lot of my frustrations, anger and sadness cause i didnt really have anyone to talk to anymore...:(

[LuckyG]

The advantage of being one of the oldest people on the board is that you've had the most time to accumulate wisdom. As always, Storm Crow has a constructive answer. :thumbsup:

[WeThePeople]

It takes two.

[TheDefiler]

So see her behind their backs and when shes 18 tell them to fuck off! WTF is wrong with people nowadays!

[Squiggle]

Well they can fucking FUCK OFF by god...

Just see her without them knowing...

Fuck them...

Seriousally....

What the fuck...

Parents shouldn't do theese kinds of things kids need to learn from their own mistakes...

And if you fuck up you pay for it...

if not..

well then your doing the right thing...

Oh well...

Hope everything works out for ya.

[O. G. ganja smoker]

all the dudes heart broken in this thread first off i know how you all feel but seriously COME ON!!! there millions of hot chicks in the world now do what you/us dudes do best FUCK EM!! :thumbsup:

[TheSmokingMonkey]

That sucks.

The majority of this advice is good.

Tell her you will wait until she turns 18, but remember, it's better to give her the space to make her own decision, and you need to respect her parents wishes because they do have legal recourse against you, plus, it's just the way things are, and it's not fair to put your girl in the position of choosing between her parents and you.

If you both feel it's worth it after a year, then get back together. But you may have a change of heart or you might meet someone else (or she might meet someone else).

It should get better over time, especially if you try to stay busy and keep your mind off of things that you can't change.

Good luck. I know this post is a bit late but I feel for you.

[connector_robot]

all the dudes heart broken in this thread first off i know how you all feel but seriously COME ON!!! there millions of hot chicks in the world now do what you/us dudes do best FUCK EM!! :thumbsup:

Wow. Just wow. I hope you were kidding.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I'm I hearing this right? In the states can an 18 year old seriously get charged with statuatory rape for having sex with a 17 year old? What kind of insanity is that! More bizarr American legislation of human nature I suppose. Here in Canada it's all good as long as you're within 5 years of each other.

[FakeBoobsRule]

Actually Gandalf, you are closer to being right then some of the other responses in this thread. Age of consent varies from state to state and it isn't always 18. Many states the age of consent is 16 and lower and there are some states that have laws to make exceptions for say a 19 year old dating and having sex with a 17 year old for example or even if they are both under 18 or if the age difference is close. That too varies from state to state and some states even allow for other exceptions. Hell, I think some states have different ages for each gender.

Of course what is written in the lawbooks isn't always what happens in the real world though too.

[Frickr]

think on the bright side, it could be worse. i loved a girl like that, then after she got preg. i got pusehd aside, so now i cant see my kid, and i dont have her as a girlfriend anymore.. i have moved on. just stay positive. things will go your way soon enough. who knows maybe in a few weeks, things will of seattled down with her parents and this will all be over. just be optimistic

[RobPA]

I feel your pain bud, 4 year engagement and I was dumped, we lived together and everything 90% of the time, and she broke up with me over AIM, can you believe that? Couldent even break my heart face to face. I still Love her though and always will, still not over it but trying to move forward. Keep your head up and try to find other things to focus on. Dont go to crazy on the smoking either, i noticed when i would smoke constantly all day to try and numb the pain sometimes it would actually be a big downer. A few hits of some good bud did just fine to take the edge off, but I deffenitely agree with the poster a few posts above, find your inner strength. Hang in there bud....

[DaZeDShAdOw]

Bro thats horrible. I will tell you right now after a previous experience that the best wa to deal with a heart break is to stay busy. Go out and shoot some pool with some friends play some sports get outside and do some fun stuff....get a hobby maybe. But you will be fine it wont be to long at all before youll be happy again. Every day that you go through the sadness youll notice it gets less and less and less I promise.

[O. G. ganja smoker]

Hell no i wasint kidding why be all sad an shit when u can get somone better its not like thats the only girl in the world no matter how much u think you have found the best girl in the world theres always someone better. i broke up with this hot ass chick but im not tripin the world keeps spining. Life is fun even when ur single i WANT a girl i dont NEED a girl. Girls come and they go why cry over spilt milk there aint shit you can do about it. Even if I never meet another girl ill be happy just to be alive. GET STONED:stoned:

[brian965]

um.. dude.. fuck her parents! get her back