No good-ass friends

[Ganj]

Whose got them...whose one of them? I have them and I'm one of them!

Who decides whose good for you? And how can you be sure they're no good? Something attracts you to them...do they smoke you up? Is that all that matters? Maybe it's a recreational friend you see on occasion that gives you what you want but not what you need?

Share your thoughts.

[Chronisseur]

Proud to be a "good-ass friend":D

[fasterspider]

I am a good ass friend that takes good care of his friends and I have a couple of people that I can really count on if need be, true friends that aint there for anything but the friendship. I love my friends and don't think I would want to be in this world without them.

[O. G. ganja smoker]

i dont have them i used to have a bunch but they never kick it. better for me tho i dont need them, most humans are unreliable as fuck. My Family is the only ones i depend on and are great people although we have are bad moments. im happy though with my life and how things r.:jointsmile:

[Ganj]

I'm trying to understand what brings these kind of people (bad friends) into our lives. Chron & spider, you all say that you're good friends. What makes a good friend? Do your good friends have a relationship with your parents?

I have this idea that bad friends are brought into our lives because the individual generally doesn't care enough about themselves to keep another parent-like figure around them. What do you all think about that?

[Ganj]

Pardon the double post.

Yo, OG...I know what that's like. I have virtually no one but my family that actually cares, and my relationship with them has taken some serious blows. I've dishonored them time and time again and it's unbelievable that I'm still in their presence. I guess that's the measure of unconditional love? Still, I'd like to have something more. The fams are great and all but even they get sick of seeing you sometimes.

[iNHALE.xHALE.]

theres one person i can trust in this world..meka. this chicks been thru heaven nd hell with me and Hands Down id trust her with my life if i needed to. weve gone thru mostly anythin u can think of, nd shes the only person whos been there for me. shes more than a "goodfriend", at times shes been the only thing positive in my world. mann i seriously dont know where id be without her. i started smoking weed with her, done everything else inbetween weed and rehab, stuck it thru with her. believe it or not, it took her giving me a whole intervention type thing for me before i realized that this chick really cares about me more than anyone else. [intervention wasnt for trees..err..it concerned more uhmm.."hardcore substances"] shes the only person in this world who really knows me, knows what im about, shes the only one who's given a fuck about me nd thats what makes her a goodfriend..we know each other in nd out, and i wouldnt give her up for anything..


..uhm that was a little longer than i thought nd almost rant like, fuck it tho im high


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[fasterspider]

I am 45 years old and have nothing to do with my parents and haven't for a very long time. I live 3000 miles away ffrom my family because they always made me feel uncomfortable.
What brought the friends into my life I have now is a jumble of intros. My wife I met at a 12 step recovery meeting and we are together for almost 5 years.
My best friend aside from my wife is my buddy Edgar and we worked together at a motorcycle shop. That is how we became friends, mutual love of Honda motorcycles and my stealing all the knowledge I could get from him on how to work on these bikes I now am the expert at and build for sale.
Another very good friend of mine is a guy I call Parnold but his name is John and he was a customer at the motorcycle shop who pissed us off all the time and still does but we love him anyways because he will always be there for us.
Then I have my internet friends and some of them have become very close also because of a mutual love for the DOHC Honda 79-83 Super Sport.
Then there are people that have the similar kind of bike to mine and they bring their bikes to me to fix because I specialize. They are also friends or brothers in the motorcycle world and I will ride or drive 75 to 100 miles in one direction to go help get their bikes running just because.
My closest friends just happen to be pot heads also which is cool with me, I like to share a good high.

[MadSativa]

I have freinds then I have brothers friends we kick back cause were usualy geologicaly close. Brothers we would do anything for each other, and thogh we dont live close and are not usualy related we keep in touch. And always relay info back and forth to each other. We like to think of it as officers spread out over the land with each of our own little armies. Our friends would do alot for eachother and us but when things need a touch up we form to gether haha usualy we just catchup

[Ganj]

theres one person i can trust in this world..meka. this chicks been thru heaven nd hell with me and Hands Down id trust her with my life if i needed to. weve gone thru mostly anythin u can think of, nd shes the only person whos been there for me. shes more than a "goodfriend", at times shes been the only thing positive in my world. mann i seriously dont know where id be without her. i started smoking weed with her, done everything else inbetween weed and rehab, stuck it thru with her. believe it or not, it took her giving me a whole intervention type thing for me before i realized that this chick really cares about me more than anyone else. [intervention wasnt for trees..err..it concerned more uhmm.."hardcore substances"] shes the only person in this world who really knows me, knows what im about, shes the only one who's given a fuck about me nd thats what makes her a goodfriend..we know each other in nd out, and i wouldnt give her up for anything..


..uhm that was a little longer than i thought nd almost rant like, fuck it tho im high


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That's incredible, man. It almost brought a tear to my eye. Even through all that bullshit...she pushed through because she saw something more than a problem. She sees your beautiful heart and knows the staircase to the window of your soul. I can tell you cherish her.

A lot of people don't have someone like that in their lives...or they just don't realize it yet...?

[SmokieJay420]

some of my friends are little shits.
sneaky bastards
i barely see them.
i watch my back and never take my herb or pieces over there.
i need new friends so i looked here haha!

[Hilder420]

I am a Damn good friend. I'm generous not only with my stash, but with my time, money and a good listener. If I have something that u could use more than me, its yours. I've learned the hard way that in order to have good friends, you have to be a good friend. I just recently lost my best friend of 6 years. we were in high school together, he's the only person whom I stayed in contact with after high school. He was the person who introduced me to mary jane, and every other drug ive ingested, sniffed, and smoked. a few months back, he became a c*ackhead, and he started stealing from his mom to feed his habit so she kicked him out. i let him stay with me at the house I worked in at the time, I risked my job, and he stole from me, his boyfriend, and from the bartender of the bar we frequented. he told people that his mom and brother had died which is why he was homeless. he would get drunk and start fights in public with me. he event tried to hit me once. The final straw was when he tried to attack my sister, so i popped him one, and that was that. he was constantly late, or wouldnt show up at all and not answer his phone until like the next day. sometimes a week. he had no consideration for anyone's feelings but his own. He blamed me for not, as he said "jumping with him into his downward spiral. i stepped back and left him to sink by himself as i watched and washed my hands of him." he told me I deserved to be molested by my step- father because I was gonna end up bitter and a bitch anyway. i tried everything i could to help him and he still did everything wrong. i stood up for, and by him when no one else would. i fed him, bought him clothes, let him sleep at my job, let him wash his clothes, let him bathe, gave him his own stash every week, rented him a motel room when he couldnt stay at my work. he started hooking to feed his habit, now he has AIDS, and has absolutely NO ONE. i miss him like he was my oxygen, but cant bring myself to befriend him again. his mom has spinal cancer and she will probaly bury him first. the saddest part is that he's only 22 and a brilliant piano player. I dont know if i will go to his funeral.

[ganjzilla]

ive known most my friends for years and we were bonded together before weed and will be still if we stopped smoking...friendship more important than weed

[poiuyt]

I am a good ass friend that takes good care of his friends and I have a couple of people that I can really count on if need be, true friends that aint there for anything but the friendship. I love my friends and don't think I would want to be in this world without them.

amen.

[Ganj]

I am a Damn good friend. I'm generous not only with my stash, but with my time, money and a good listener. If I have something that u could use more than me, its yours. I've learned the hard way that in order to have good friends, you have to be a good friend. I just recently lost my best friend of 6 years. we were in high school together, he's the only person whom I stayed in contact with after high school. He was the person who introduced me to mary jane, and every other drug ive ingested, sniffed, and smoked. a few months back, he became a c*ackhead, and he started stealing from his mom to feed his habit so she kicked him out. i let him stay with me at the house I worked in at the time, I risked my job, and he stole from me, his boyfriend, and from the bartender of the bar we frequented. he told people that his mom and brother had died which is why he was homeless. he would get drunk and start fights in public with me. he event tried to hit me once. The final straw was when he tried to attack my sister, so i popped him one, and that was that. he was constantly late, or wouldnt show up at all and not answer his phone until like the next day. sometimes a week. he had no consideration for anyone's feelings but his own. He blamed me for not, as he said "jumping with him into his downward spiral. i stepped back and left him to sink by himself as i watched and washed my hands of him." he told me I deserved to be molested by my step- father because I was gonna end up bitter and a bitch anyway. i tried everything i could to help him and he still did everything wrong. i stood up for, and by him when no one else would. i fed him, bought him clothes, let him sleep at my job, let him wash his clothes, let him bathe, gave him his own stash every week, rented him a motel room when he couldnt stay at my work. he started hooking to feed his habit, now he has AIDS, and has absolutely NO ONE. i miss him like he was my oxygen, but cant bring myself to befriend him again. his mom has spinal cancer and she will probaly bury him first. the saddest part is that he's only 22 and a brilliant piano player. I dont know if i will go to his funeral.

I hope you can find comfort knowing that you did everything you could for him. What an amazing story of strength and compassion. People like your friend tend to take an extra mile when you give them an inch, and no matter how inherently nurturing one is--everyone has their limits. He really messed up by striking your sister, uh?

[Blitzed]

I have one good friend, we just really clicked, we were real similar, and he we just naturally got along. I have a handfull of good friends, I lost a couple, but gained a couple more. And then I have lots of aquantinces.

And friendship to me isnt what someone gives me, or they like me cause I give, we just get along.

[GraziLovesMary]

I am definitely a good friend. I am loyal to the end to the people that I love, and I love alot of people. I have a good amount of friends that are just as loyal as I am.. but possibly even more friends that arent. They key is knowing how much to trust every person in your life. Knowing and understanding people is a part of life, and something that I have dedicated a good portion of time to figuring out. Weed has nothing to do with how good a friend is to me.

[DaPolarBear]

I pride myself as being a fantastic friend. I'm an very chill guy, and I love all my friends to death. I'd go outta my way to help them. They all say I'm very easy to talk to.

I've actually become kind of my groups older sibling and psychiatrist. People come to me alot if they have personal issues, or anything like that. They say that I listen very well, or something like that. And I have a nacks for find out peoples problems.

I work very hard to bring up my friends self esteems, even though I don't have all that great self esteem myself, but apparently I have a nack for raising my friends. But that gotten better over the years, especially thanks to music and herb.

I think I'm rambling, sorry. I'm a little hyper and toked, ya know how it is.

[Ganj]

I'd apologize for posting this thread but you all...thanks for putting up with my preoccupations.

[king of the world]

to me what makes a good friend is some one that cares about you and got your back no matter what. to me its not really hard to know who is a good ass friend. you just have to think about all the things you have been through and they reacted to certain things. like if you got in a fight would they help you? if some one whupped your ass would they beat that person down for you?if you dont got bud would they instantly hook you up with bud? can you trust them with your money,weed , or valueable things around them?
if your in need of a ride would they hook you up with a ride?

if you dont really know how good of a friend they are you can always use little creative tests to chek their character.

[acrca]

Yeah i cant ever get any "good friends" theyre all shady as fuck. :(

[ghosty]

I have a group of freinds I've known since I was very young, we don't all hang out together as often as a whole anymore cause we're all older and busy with our own agendas, but we all still pretty much hang out at parties and at each others houses, and hear word about each other and speak with concern about each other when we're not hanging out. I still see a couple of them all the time though and they are my best freinds. However I do have one freind I consider to be my best friend above all. My buddy James, I've known and hung out with since like 2nd grade. We've been through TONS of shit together including an incident that damn near took both our lives last summer. Jimmy, as i call him, is pretty much like a brother to me and knows me better than some of my family even.... freinds like those dont come around too often so it's important to hang onto the good ones

I've also been told my every person i consider a freind at some point that I'm a good freind to have

[r0k]

"Good-ass" friend and proud.

[Nation_1ne]

I have many acquaintances who I considered to be friends, but soon realised they didn't give me half the respect I gave them. So I have an awful lot of acquaintances now and a few good friends. All the years I assumed they were just naive, turns out I was the one being naive. People can tell you these things but I don't think you ever believe it until you see it.

[Mex]

I'de have to say I'm a "good-ass" friend. I have a few of them too.

[Pipe Dreams]

shiit. Im a good ass friend dog, I take care of mine.

[Hilder420]

I hope you can find comfort knowing that you did everything you could for him. What an amazing story of strength and compassion. People like your friend tend to take an extra mile when you give them an inch, and no matter how inherently nurturing one is--everyone has their limits. He really messed up by striking your sister, uh?

It just all piled up and after six looooonnnnggggg years. I finally had enough. But yeah, when he tried to hit my sis, was the end. she's like 5ft, not very tall at all actually, and she 's a girly girl, so she would even have had a chance. he is 6ft 3in, i myself stand at 5ft 2in only, but I've always been a bit of a tomboy (i know u prob cant tell from the pic I sent u Ganj) and since its only me and my sis I always had to do the "manly" things around the house. Besides, I'm pretty strong and when I'm mad, theres no stopping me. Must have something to do with me being a saggitarius and born under the fire element, and having had to deal with an abusive mother (and other stuff) that will make u learn how to defend urself. peace - hilder

[LuckyG]

I'm a good-ass friend, but I can't really think of any people who are good-ass friends to me.

[SirReal]

You said it lucky,

All my friends are forgetting the r in FRIEND!

[IThinkIamFeelingit]

I have a few friends that as long as everything is for them, then it is cool..but as soon as they dont get what they want..they are a bunch of whiney ass losers.

[Ganj]

Ah, people taking advantage of kindness and such. It's a poison that eats away at one's good heart I believe. Most of the time it's because the kind one fails to let one know what is a disturbance to them, however sometimes people should simply ask, "how would you feel if I...?" It'd be all gravy then!