Honestly, have you ever been 'in love'?

[Spoken Word]

This might have already been made, if so, please forgive me.
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If you have or have not been in love, share with me...if you want.

I haven't. I thought I was but when you really think about it, real love is supposed so much stronger.

For those that have, how do you know? What's love to you? What's the difference between the love for your partner and lets say, your family?

[13thirteen]

Yes! I have been married for 3 years this November and am totally in love with my husband. this is my 1st marriage, I was engaged once before but I never felt about that man the way i feel about my husband.

[Purple Banana]

I'm still too young, I can't stand it when I'm dating a guy, and he says the L Word within a week of getting together. For me, it takes like a month to say it, that is, I love the person, but I am not IN love.

[stinkyattic]

Yes actually. Recently. And in a bittersweet turn of events, I still am.

There's a former member here- The Yeag- who I dated for a number of months recently, while both of us were going through some pretty amazing personal transformations. Our communication was wonderful and supportive and genuine. He really helped me find some inner strength I didn't know I had, and says I did the same for him.
The small amount of time we were able to spend together was truly amazing- a level of sexual compatibility I'd never found up to that point- oddly, while we were together, I missed our phone conversations.
As a result of the personal growth he was working on, he moved back home to Alaska while we were dating. I had originally planned to move there within a couple years to be with him but decided that there were still too many things I needed to do here, and my family is in NEw England. He agreed that I should be more selfish and take care of my own interests instead of giving it all up for a man; after all, that had been the major personality flaw that I personally was susceptible to in previous relationships.

As it turned out, we went our seperate ways with a lot of love and an unselfish desire to see the other succeed completely, and realizing that our relationship, while a beautiful thing, would hinder each of us individually.

So Yeag, big guy, you have all my warmest wishes in everything you do.
It's the sweetest love I've ever been in.

[spliffstar22]

obviously a guys gonna tell you i love you within the first week, who's waitin a month for pussy lol............and no i haven't, im about having fun right now, no time for love when there's all this pussy in my sexual prime too....................

[skatin_foo15]

Yeah...loves an evil thing brings ya more hurt then good if you arent loved in return.

[crudemood]

Yeah...loves an evil thing brings ya more hurt then good if you arent loved in return.
That totally hurts at times.
I thought I was, then I lose perception of what love is when I fall out of love. Then I ask whether I was or not in love in the first place.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I honestly believe I was in love with each of my boyfriends, all in a different way. I'm not confusing "loving" with "being in love", trust me. When I was younger, it was more of an obsessive kind of love, making sure I was always pleasing my partner in every way, trying to be the best girlfriend I could be (and usually succeeding). I loved every single thing about them, every flaw, even their fuck-ups. The most "in love" I've ever been was was either with my last boyfriend (not current) or the one before that. They both ended pretty badly, which sucks. Now, as I've gotten older and more experienced I don't fall in love as easily, actually..it's quite difficult for me to fall in love at this stage in my life. In my current relationship, I love him but I'm not IN love with him, which I prefer. I'm kind of a love freak, to be honest..or was. I fell so hard and so fast.

[RamblerGambler]

I'd say I was truly "in love" for certain once, a girl that absolutely refused to let the phrase even be muttered. The longer we spent togeather, the closer we became. She even started telling me she loved me, which she told me at the outset she would never do. Then she blew an older friend of mine and needless to say that all came crashing down.

After, emotions hold less influence on me. And I never use love as a throwaway phrase

[cannabis campbell]

Yep for the past 6 years been in an extremely one of those on-off type relationships but we both love each other and we always will not with her at the moment but just like the past it probably wont be long till we are back together again.

[higher4hockey]

yes i have been in love. its everything its cracked up to be and then some.

for me there are three different kinds of love

A. Friend love. friend love is the kind of love that i would get in my car in the middle of the night and drive till morning if they asked me to. friend love is like a river, a river is consistent in that it is always flowing, as is friend love.

B. Family love. family love runs deeper, family love is never being able to say no, no matter what. family love is like the ocean, from the surface everyone's love for their family looks relatively similar, but once you break the surface, who knows what you might find.

C. romantic love. romantic love is a combination of both friend and family love mixed into one creating something amazing that can't be described, only experienced. romantic love is like the rain...its always somewhere.

[Purple Banana]

H4H, those are the best analogies I have ever heard in my life in an attempt to (usually poorly) describe love. Kudos to you.

[GraziLovesMary]

yes i have been in love. its everything its cracked up to be and then some.

for me there are three different kinds of love

A. Friend love. friend love is the kind of love that i would get in my car in the middle of the night and drive till morning if they asked me to. friend love is like a river, a river is consistent in that it is always flowing, as is friend love.

B. Family love. family love runs deeper, family love is never being able to say no, no matter what. family love is like the ocean, from the surface everyone's love for their family looks relatively similar, but once you break the surface, who knows what you might find.

C. romantic love. romantic love is a combination of both friend and family love mixed into one creating something amazing that can't be described, only experienced. romantic love is like the rain...its always somewhere.

The ancient greeks actually had a seperate word for each one of these concepts. The only one I can remember is Agape, the brotherly love that you have for your close friends.


To answer the OP, yes I have been in love with my past two girlfriends. Although they didnt work out, the only one I hate is my last one because she cheated.

Oddly enough, there is another female I am in love with. She is the most intelligent, charismatic, enchantingly beautiful, entertainingly funny, sweet, lust-inspiring female I know. We used to work together, and would have AWESOME conversations while doing mind-numbing food industry prep work lol. Her boyfriend was in jail most of the time I knew her but Im not the dude that takes a mans woman like that. Plus I had a girlfriend at first, but she was the one who helped me get over her when I found out she was cheating. Shes the girl that would call me up out of nowhere asking "hey... ya wanna smoke?!?" Ironically she will never know how I feel and we will never be together, but its ok. As long as shes happy.

[BlAzInIt4:20]

LOVE SUCKS!!

Its great when it starts but when its time to end it, its the worst heart pain ever. I honeslty can say i was in love with my ex.. and i will always have a place for her in my heart..

[GraziLovesMary]

LOVE SUCKS!!

Its great when it starts but when its time to end it, its the worst heart pain ever. I honeslty can say i was in love with my ex.. and i will always have a place for her in my heart..

Some say "time heals all wounds." Others say "time wounds all heals." Love is a bittersweet tragedy, is it not??

[Markass]

two of my past relationships...yes, the feeling was very genuine and still is...of course I know things would never work out between us, but indeed...it's not too hard to find enough things about a person that makes you absolutely cherish them..

[stinkyattic]

The ancient greeks actually had a seperate word for each one of these concepts. The only one I can remember is Agape, the brotherly love that you have for your close friends. .
Agape is religious love.
Platonic is friend
Erotic is romantic

[DarkHairedSativa]

This might have already been made, if so, please forgive me.
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If you have or have not been in love, share with me...if you want.

I haven't. I thought I was but when you really think about it, real love is supposed so much stronger.

For those that have, how do you know? What's love to you? What's the difference between the love for your partner and lets say, your family?

I have experienced "love" 3 times.... I'm on the third and it's more than the last 2.I never thought it would happen again. Love is all about acceptance,forgiveness,honesty,openess,sharing of self,seflessness,kindness,caring,the ability to look past faults and deficiencies.That's not all I'm sure but that is a quick summary of what love is for me..... ;) He still makes my heart jump and the slightest touch ignites a fire deep within.... I would literally die for him without a second thought.

[420MissHighTimes420]

I honestly believe I was in love with each of my boyfriends, all in a different way. I'm not confusing "loving" with "being in love", trust me. When I was younger, it was more of an obsessive kind of love, making sure I was always pleasing my partner in every way, trying to be the best girlfriend I could be (and usually succeeding). I loved every single thing about them, every flaw, even their fuck-ups. The most "in love" I've ever been was was either with my last boyfriend (not current) or the one before that. They both ended pretty badly, which sucks. Now, as I've gotten older and more experienced I don't fall in love as easily, actually..it's quite difficult for me to fall in love at this stage in my life. In my current relationship, I love him but I'm not IN love with him, which I prefer. I'm kind of a love freak, to be honest..or was. I fell so hard and so fast.


I do the same exact thing, I do my best to be the 'perfect girlfriend' and hell I think I am. And I like to be that way I wouldn't change it because being giving and doing things that I do makes me happy. I think that I have learned recently thoguh that I need more of a balance. Because even though I get a lot of satisfaction out of being good to others it can take its toll! I know from your other posts that you too have had your sahre of rough relationships. What is this?! Why the nicer you are the more attracted to the assholes I swear?!

[greatmuta]

I'm 32 and can honestly say I've only truly been in love 1 time. And that was from 1993 -1995 in college. And I still love Whitney and always will. Forever :lovestruck: :s2:

[da dubs]

I KNOW LOVE AND IT FEELS GREAT MOST OF THE TIME<<THE LOVE FROM MY FAMILY<AND THE LOVE I HAVE FOR THEM>>THE PAIN OF LOOSING A LOVED ONE<<THE LOVE I FEEL FOR MY WIFE<

LOVES GOOD:) :hippy:

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I do the same exact thing, I do my best to be the 'perfect girlfriend' and hell I think I am. And I like to be that way I wouldn't change it because being giving and doing things that I do makes me happy. I think that I have learned recently thoguh that I need more of a balance. Because even though I get a lot of satisfaction out of being good to others it can take its toll! I know from your other posts that you too have had your sahre of rough relationships. What is this?! Why the nicer you are the more attracted to the assholes I swear?!

Honey, that's EXACTLY what it is. I hate to say this but I treat my current boyfriend worse then I've ever treated any of my other's and he's more in love with me than I've ever known anyone to be, I don't recommend it, though. As you get older you realize that you can't give everything you have and not get anything back, yanno? Then you're left with nothing.

[khronik]

What is this?! Why the nicer you are the more attracted to the assholes I swear?!
I think if you act like you'll always be there for someone, it's easier for them to take you for granted. On the flip side, if you act like you could leave at any time, they'll do whatever it takes to not lose you.

[CBsDankNugs]

i dont think i have ever had true love. i just like casual friendly sex with my friends. i thaught maybe i had found love a few times but when i look back on it i realize it was nothing

[GraziLovesMary]

Agape is religious love.
Platonic is friend
Erotic is romantic

Thank you, oh wise stinkyattic :D I shoulda known! But hey.. Ive learned things from babies!

[O. G. ganja smoker]

muthaFUCK LOVE!!!

[stinkyattic]

muthaFUCK LOVE!!!
aaawww... sounds like someone needs a...

[GraziLovesMary]

^^ssooooooooooo disturbing lol.

[DarkHairedSativa]

The ancient greeks actually had a seperate word for each one of these concepts. The only one I can remember is Agape, the brotherly love that you have for your close friends.

Hey,wanted to reply to this part of your post,but the rest of it.....you're so sweet!!! I swear! ;)

Agape love is God's love
Phileo (not sure of the spelling) is the love you feel for your close friends...it's man's love.

Love ya,Tiva;):thumbsup:

ps- Philadelphia was named after phileo love.... the city of brotherly love....:hippy:

[DarkHairedSativa]

^^ssooooooooooo disturbing lol.

Disturbing yes...... but oddly hot!!! lol

[GraziLovesMary]

Hey,wanted to reply to this part of your post,but the rest of it.....you're so sweet!!! I swear! ;)

Agape love is God's love
Phileo (not sure of the spelling) is the love you feel for your close friends...it's man's love.

Love ya,Tiva;):thumbsup:

ps- Philadelphia was named after phileo love.... the city of brotherly love....:hippy:

Good point! I remember I was in in-school suspension god only knows how many years ago when the guy told me that lol.

[Zcomp]

I've loved my women going on 10yrs now. We started dating in highschool and we did fight alot at first. We still fight now but much much less severe. About 2-1/2 yrs ago we separated to find if we did better on our own. We did do well and found mates for about 6mo's. After giving my new girl an honest try and her giving her man an honest try, We found that no-one else made life as enjoyable. So we got back together and have been very much happier since.
It's true what they say about letting a bird fly free, and about absence makes the heart grow fonder.
StinkyAttic will probably agree with me here? and maybe her bird will some day find its way home.

[funfubarman]

i was in love once, it was some time ago i fell for this one girl hardcore , all my friends hated her and i lost them because of her. I recall the first time she told me she loved me, took like 30 min to get her to say it. She kept telling me there was something she wanted to tell me but she was to scared i still have to e-mail. Any way she cheated on me 3 times that i know of, broke my hart. First and only time in love

[geonagual]

Yes actually. Recently. And in a bittersweet turn of events, I still am.

There's a former member here- The Yeag- who I dated for a number of months recently, while both of us were going through some pretty amazing personal transformations. Our communication was wonderful and supportive and genuine. He really helped me find some inner strength I didn't know I had, and says I did the same for him.
The small amount of time we were able to spend together was truly amazing- a level of sexual compatibility I'd never found up to that point- oddly, while we were together, I missed our phone conversations.
As a result of the personal growth he was working on, he moved back home to Alaska while we were dating. I had originally planned to move there within a couple years to be with him but decided that there were still too many things I needed to do here, and my family is in NEw England. He agreed that I should be more selfish and take care of my own interests instead of giving it all up for a man; after all, that had been the major personality flaw that I personally was susceptible to in previous relationships.

As it turned out, we went our seperate ways with a lot of love and an unselfish desire to see the other succeed completely, and realizing that our relationship, while a beautiful thing, would hinder each of us individually.

So Yeag, big guy, you have all my warmest wishes in everything you do.
It's the sweetest love I've ever been in.

I swear to god I almost had a tear in my eye...that is what love is about right there..

as far as true love...just one time....and that is all I got to say on that....I have probably already said enough on this god damn spread your life on the internet board.

[GraziLovesMary]

Seeing the word "Alaska" almost made me tear up.. I really fuckin miss it.. Im gonna go back real soon...... :(