How to rid a stalker? (help!)

[Chronisseur]

So laugh all you want but I was in a relationship for a traumatic 5 months with some chick I met on a dating site. I'll spare you all the details but I have a problem and I dont know what to do. This CRAZY chick will not stop calling me, 5-10 times a day. We've been broke up for 3 months and havent talked for well over a month. I'm not a mean guy but it feels like the only way she'll leave me alone is if I REALLY hurt her feelings. On the other hand, that COULD make it worse! What the hell should I do? :wtf:This is fucking insane,. HELP!

...and oh yeah, she once drove to my house which is 2 states away,WITH a 1 y.o and a 3y.o boys after I left and told her I never wanted to see her again! NUTS

[stinkyattic]

The police are your friends sometimes. Has she ever threatened violence against you or herself?
Restraining order FTW.
Second choice is to change your number. Or have a chick friend record you a new voicemail greeting, like, "Hi! You've reached Chron and Susie! We can't come to the phone! LEave a Message!! (perky voice a plus)"
Or tell her you are gay. And that you were only dating her because your mom was hassling you to get a girlfriend. Be nice about it. See, if she is as insecure as she sounds, that lets her off the hook- if she needs validation from men, you dumping her because you don't like her SUCKS for her. But you dumping her because you're gay, she can get her twisted little mind around that and get enough closure to get the FUCK off your back.
Creepy!

[rocktheganj]

dude have you had sex with her? like if she lives 2 states away and you havent had sex with her just talk to her about your "operation" you had a few years back

[stinkyattic]

Oh baby I'm sorry, next time I'll leave the rugrats at home...
You still love me, you just don't realize it...:D

HAHAHAHA (I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing at the poor logic of the whole situation...)

[Chronisseur]

Shes a BAD alcoholic and honestly the only reason I stuck around so long was for the kids. I dont really believe in using the police for anything but maybe a ride to the hospital, or to help a family member if absolutely nessecary, so thats out. She knows Im not gay, but the answering machine HAS crossed my mind! I guess I havent done it because I know it WILL make her depressed. May have to though, thanks for the support on that one!:)

Roctheganj,...We were together for 5 months, her 1 year olds first word was calling me Dadda! Not gonna work!
thanks neway:thumbsup:

[Chronisseur]

Oh baby I'm sorry,
You still love me, you just don't realize it

I'VE HEARD THAT! No joke! lmao:D

[rocktheganj]

ohhh..... do the message machine then haha

[cannabisis4for20]

Give me her number, I'll take her off your hands. :jointsmile:

[stinkyattic]

Give me her number, I'll take her off your hands.:
Ah hahaha the hot potato trick!!

[cannabisis4for20]

Ah hahaha the hot potato trick!!

His loss, my gain. As long as I have some one else to pass her off to when she gets too crazy I should be fine, like in the ring.

[locomark]

Well,

You could tell her that your low on cash and want her to move to your town to restart your pimping business. But what do I know?

Loco

[rebgirl420]

Wow id make it clear, "STOP fucking calling me. Your a freakin' nut job. Your crazier than a bag of assholes. If your Courtney Love crazy ass continues to call me im calling the cops."

[FakeBoobsRule]

I have had my share of stalkers. Yours reminds me of one in particular. I made the mistake of dating this one girl for a little over a month. We broke up 4 months before my birthday and she calls about 9 o clock on my birthday. She is talking like we are still together "Hey FBR, It's D***** and I have your birthday present with me and I just wanted to make sure your home. I'll be there in 5 minutes baby." I made it clear to her I don't want her coming by or any present or ever talking to her and that I was out the door to go to meet my friends out to celebrate and I wouldn't be there when she came by. Hell if she didn't turn into my driveway while I was telling her this (she wasn't 5 minutes away). I called 911 from my home phone and hung up on them knowing that would send a police officer to check the hang up call. I called one of my friends and told him I needed immediate evac from my house but to come up on of the other streets. I waited to see the cops pull up, start talking to psycho, and I ran out the back door and through some yards to my friends car as we dusted off.

She still bothers me 5 years later, popping up on IM's or emails. About 3 years ago I was stupid enough to answer one of the IM's and told her to go away. She asked if I was dating anyone and I said yes and then she said she wanted to come by and meet her! I told her she better not because this girl wouldn't stand for that at all and that she needs to leave me alone. I went on to call her some of the worst names possible and told how embarrassed I would be if my current girlfriend met a loser like her and that I would have to tell her I dated that loser. That bought me some relief for a little while.

So cops, restraining orders, telling them off are all starting points.

[Dr HaZzMatT Esq.]

Take her fishing

[rebgirl420]

I had two guy stalkers who were 25-27 when I was 14 (I looked 18). I met them at this big ol' outdoor event and they had asked for my number and I gave it to them hoping they would go away. A few nights later they called and I would blow them off but then they started calling at 3am and stuff drunk, looking for sex and Id say no and theyd call and call and call. And then they threatened my dad when he answered the phone. They said they would come and deal with him and get me. Well the next day we called the cops and they wanted me to do a sting. But I wouldn't. Finally tho when I began dating John a few months later when they would call he would answer and they finally dtopped calling. This went on for a LONG time......creepy guys..

[psteve]

Welcome to my world.
I've had them lie to my girlfriend saying we were together, trying to break us up. "He doesn't love you, he loves me." "We're together now."
I had one crazy desperado who followed me 100 miles on the highway at high speed, showed up at my friend's court date in another county because I was avoiding her, and would sleep in her car in front of my house.

[rebgirl420]

^that reminds me, when i started dating John this girl he had dated 2 or 3 times kept on IM'ing me and calling his house screaming that they had slept together 2 nights before and that he loved her not me. But what was funny was that the night she claims they were together was the day we hung out THE WHOLE DAY! haha she was nuts! Then when i told her that she proceeded to call me names....crazy!!!!

[psteve]

Yeah, one girl was my friend (I thought) for a long time. I had confided in her about problems I'd had with previous girlfriends, and she knew about me and what I like in a relationship. While I was in Europe, she used that information to make up an elaborate fantasy about her and me and our imaginary sex life, which she told to my actual girlfriend, who freaked out, then realized it was bullshit, and nearly put the stalker through a wall for putting her through the drama of the imaginary soap opera.

[Chronisseur]

...ya know another thing that worries me is the way she watches these shows about "crimes of passion" almost religously!
Okay, I'll admit I WAS mean once! About a month ago I told her that her friend was right about her being a "slampig". She's disgusted me to the point that I couldnt even GET my dick up.
Another thing is I convinced her to find out who her 3 year old childs father is, got them in contact. He even moved to VT from GA to be around his son and try to be with her!
The way I saw it was that I had an opportunity to reconnect this little boy whom I adore, with his dad. That just made me more of an angel in HER eyes!
I think I'll try the message machine and if that doesnt work than I'll just have to take her fishin'! (jk. Iloveherkidstoomuch):D

[Anubis10012007]

Ignoring them usually tends to work. I would get a new phone number if you want to stop the phone harassment, but you can usually just not answer.

I don't think she can afford the gas to drive 2 states! lol.

these stories scare me. the crazy ex ones. this is why I stay single! fuck that shit man!

[cannabisis4for20]

I have had my share of stalkers. Yours reminds me of one in particular. I made the mistake of dating this one girl for a little over a month. We broke up 4 months before my birthday and she calls about 9 o clock on my birthday. She is talking like we are still together "Hey FBR, It's D***** and I have your birthday present with me and I just wanted to make sure your home. I'll be there in 5 minutes baby." I made it clear to her I don't want her coming by or any present or ever talking to her and that I was out the door to go to meet my friends out to celebrate and I wouldn't be there when she came by. Hell if she didn't turn into my driveway while I was telling her this (she wasn't 5 minutes away). I called 911 from my home phone and hung up on them knowing that would send a police officer to check the hang up call. I called one of my friends and told him I needed immediate evac from my house but to come up on of the other streets. I waited to see the cops pull up, start talking to psycho, and I ran out the back door and through some yards to my friends car as we dusted off.

She still bothers me 5 years later, popping up on IM's or emails. About 3 years ago I was stupid enough to answer one of the IM's and told her to go away. She asked if I was dating anyone and I said yes and then she said she wanted to come by and meet her! I told her she better not because this girl wouldn't stand for that at all and that she needs to leave me alone. I went on to call her some of the worst names possible and told how embarrassed I would be if my current girlfriend met a loser like her and that I would have to tell her I dated that loser. That bought me some relief for a little while.

So cops, restraining orders, telling them off are all starting points.

Wait, wait, wait. Hold the phone. So people call you FakeBoobsRule in real life?

[spliffstar22]

that's why i dont tell most girls where i live...........You never know these days who's sane and who's fuckin batshit crazy.........Only 2 girls know where i live, and they were very sane, the rest, i take to a park, or go to their house.........i had one of these like a few months ago too, wouldnt stop calling, thought i was still her boyfriend after we hadnt talked in a month, and still calls me her boyfriend, but luckily she never came to my house, and i never gave her my house number, just my cell, and there's an ignore button on that.......and then i just changed my number because it got kinda annoying........learn your lesson, meet girls at their house to fuck or for anything, or in a public place, never to your house, at least not until you know they somewhat sane.........

[MadSativa]

haha damn we get alot of this behavior here but I dont deal with it this is why I pay taxes (cops). Its their drama not mine, when they breach the perimiter even the cops cant help em