Hellp!!

[Acouwaila]

Ok so my girlfriend whom ive been dating for about 2 and a half years broke up with me last night...

we had a fight earlier in the day...but nothing special...we always fight...

anyways....i called her that nigiht and she was on the phone with someone....at like 11 pm....you know how you can tell when it beeps at the end of the ring?

Well she sends me a text saying she lost feelings for me ....and this was so sudden!

She said she had to do it.....

at first i was fucking hysterical and I cant bare to think about losing her....I know she loves me....I know it

But now....im determined to get her back....

my confessions: im a college drop out with no job and no money 2000 in debt....

half the time im a dick to her but its somewhat not my fault...

Im about to pawn my mp3 player just to get gas money to drive there and beg for forgiveness and tell her I love her and want to be with her....

usually im a extremely jealous person and she couldnt have made it more obvious that she was dumping me for someone else...but im not gonna let this guy take her away from me.....I love her to death and I dont care about him....Im gonna show her that I do


Question is....is this the right thing to do??

Even if you say no, im gonna do it...but what do you think

[420MissHighTimes420]

First are you sure you want to be with a girl who you dated for 2.5 yrs and then dumped you through a text??? Anyways .... I'm sorry to hear all of that man. Nothing is worse then being broken up with :( I do think you should go talk to her, when I was going to break up with my last boyfriend, I went and talked to him in person and we decided to stay together - not right away but the second time i saw him acutally.-- Also it will go miles if you would be willing to pawn something just to go see her. Tell her your willing to do whatever it takes to keep her. Have her give you two weeks to show her things will improve. But hey if it's meant to be over, it will be over and there isn't anything you can do about it. Maybe there is something going on with her that she doesn't want to be so serious with someone anymore. Becuase sorry she sounds pretty immature. I don't know. But if things do end --even though I know it seems impossible -- you can't let yourself get to upset over it. Your the same wonderful person with or with out her, so go out and look for a new girl and you will get over her in time. sorry i pry wasn't of much help. but hey i tryed lol. good luck with everything

edit: I was just re reading what I wrote and I dont think you should go pawn something just for her if she doesnt even respect you enough to break up with you in person after that long .... i know its hard i was goign to dump someone on the phone and everyone here helped me see that i should do it in person, but come on now, like did she care enough to at least call and tell you? i dont think she is worth you pawning something.
sorry its early and im baked as hell so i might sound dumb :stoned:

[Acouwaila]

yeah well it turns out i dont have anything to pawn anyways....im stuck here ...nothing I can do but text...

she wont even answer the phone...like I did something wrong...

Thanks though...I will try the 2 weeks thing...I really hope she gives me another chance...I love her so much

= (

[Blitzed]

Not to sound like your dad or something, but befor Id go trying to get this girl back, who treated you like she did. You should maybe think about getting your life straightened out. First, Id suggest getting a job, I mean if youd have to pawn something to go see her, sounds like that could be a problem in keeping the relationship going.

I hope everything goes alright though, and if she means that much to you, then get your woman back.

[slipknotpsycho]

Not to sound like your dad or something, but befor Id go trying to get this girl back, who treated you like she did. You should maybe think about getting your life straightened out. First, Id suggest getting a job, I mean if youd have to pawn something to go see her, sounds like that could be a problem in keeping the relationship going.

I hope everything goes alright though, and if she means that much to you, then get your woman back.

agreed 100%
forget about her dude..... if she's lost feelings for you, as much as it may hurt you, you can't just talk your way back into them...

but personally it sounds like she met someone else she wants to be with and just left you to be with them.... which makes it even less likely you'll end up back with her....

fuck her... get a job and a stable life, then find a real girl, who likes you for who you are... hopefuly after awhile she'll try to come back to you, and you get the chance to tell her no....

seriously tho... i know how hard it is being with someone for a long time then losing them.... but she showed you how much she cares about you or your feelings when she was with you for 2 1/2 years and broke up with you through a damn text message.... instead of talking to you in person, she just completely decided she doesn't care about you or your feelings.

going down the road that 'leads to her' so to speak is going to be a road of nothing but pain... one stab in the heart after another...you can't make someone love you and it's stupid to try... all you'll be doing is torturing yourself.

[GraziLovesMary]

I hate to sound harsh, but give it up and get over it. You will almost certainly never get back with her, and if you do the relationship will be doomed, and more heartbreak will ensue. The sooner you move on, the happier you will be.

[slipknotpsycho]

I hate to sound harsh, but give it up and get over it. You will almost certainly never get back with her, and if you do the relationship will be doomed, and more heartbreak will ensue. The sooner you move on, the happier you will be.

i wouldn't go that far... "the sooner you move on the soonier you'll be happy again" fits better....

[FakeBoobsRule]

You are getting good advice from those that are saying a girl who breaks up by text (which BTW is so very Britney Spears kind of trashy) after 2 & 1/2 years isn't worth it and if you have to pawn something to make it to see her, then that is indicative of bigger problems. However, 2 & 1/2 years is a long time to be with someone and not get proper closure. If you don't get closure it may weigh on you heavily. Also, you might ask yourself "What If" for some time if you don't give it one more shot or do whatever it is you think you can do. It doesn't sound worth it or like it will work though. Still, I think you need to do whatever you can to see her one last time to get closure or what it is you need.

[GraziLovesMary]

i wouldn't go that far... "the sooner you move on the soonier you'll be happy again" fits better....

Well if you think about it, its one and the same. "The sooner a person moves on," implies that they are on their way to not being sad over the past anymore, hence they have moved on. If they have moved on and are no longer sad, then they are able to return to their previous normal state of happiness. They will also be happy that they are no longer sad. Unless they would prefer to wallow in their own sorrow like many seem content to do.

I was with my girl for 4 years.. best believe we had wedding plans and everything. I was going to spend the rest of my life with her, I knew it... I was more and more in love with her with each passing day. But when my best friend died last September, I guess she felt I was a bit more distant.. towards the end she kept saying "ever since Robby died, youve been different". Hmm.. Really?? NO FUCKING SHIT! My best friend hasnt been dead for half a year and you expect me to be the same?? Thats fuckin lifechanging.. you gotta readjust and rethink the whole rest of your life with him NOT in it. We had big plans too. I needed her more than ever then, and instead she wanted more attention for herself. She was very spoiled, and the epitome of "princess syndrome." I found out she was cheating on me last March and broke that shit off. Of course I was heartbroken, but I wasnt gonna let myself cry over somebody that clearly didnt deserve me. I was over her in a week and a half by pure willpower, and Im all the happier for it. Clearly we werent meant to be together or we still would be, so Im glad I got out before it was too late. I moved on as soon as I could, and I was all that much happier.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

All I can tell you is that once you break up, it makes it seem "Okay" to break up again and again and again until you're sitting there going "how much longer am I gonna put up with her dumping me?" because i assure you, if you get back together, you'll only break up again..whether it be a week later or 6 months later. It'll be an ongoing pattern. :(

[slipknotpsycho]

You are getting good advice from those that are saying a girl who breaks up by text (which BTW is so very Britney Spears kind of trashy) after 2 & 1/2 years isn't worth it and if you have to pawn something to make it to see her, then that is indicative of bigger problems. However, 2 & 1/2 years is a long time to be with someone and not get proper closure. If you don't get closure it may weigh on you heavily. Also, you might ask yourself "What If" for some time if you don't give it one more shot or do whatever it is you think you can do. It doesn't sound worth it or like it will work though. Still, I think you need to do whatever you can to see her one last time to get closure or what it is you need.

this is also very true... but it goes with virginity too.... i've went through it.... (as in, i lost my virginity to this chick, a week later everything went to shit, we broke up on very bad terms, and i spent years trying to find her... to explain my side of what happened exactly)

how about when you do go to see her... talk about you, and only you.... find out what she thinks of you and say what you think of you... watch how quick it goes straight to her.... that right there is proof she doesn't give a flying shit about you.. and should be more then enough for it to click that you're better off without her..

and dude, i know the pain, i've been down all sorts of roads... i've tortured myself over and over for ridiculous reasons... i know, by experience you're probably not just gonna decide to get over it, you're going to keep pushing for it... but just remember these words.... one day you will wake up and decide you're tired of it... even if you get back with her, it's not going to be magical or anything... there's probably going to be even more fights and arguments and more resentful feelings...

for your own sake, i hope you wake up and see the light (sorry if that sounds harsh... you've been part of this site for awhile and i would consider you a friend.... on the net or in person i'd tell you the exact same thing) quickly... i've been down that punishing road... and i promise, there is nothing down it except lots of pain, and eventually a dead end.

i completely understand how you feel, so don't think i don't. shit i still have nightmares about my wife leaving me and we've been married about 3 1/2 years... before that we were together 11 months (living together) and when things went to shit i did get pissed and kicked her out, but i hated every single second afterwards and i know what you felt.... i imagine it'd be worse because even my nightmares make me cry (yes they do) because of the pain i feel.

but in all honesty, it's obvious she doesn't care about you and she's selfish... if she was any kind of caring women/girl she would have done it in person.... not through a text message.... maybe you're not comprehending just how uncaring and dismissive that really is cuz of your pain.... but dude, that is pretty damn bad...

anyways, i wish you luck with whatever path you choose.. but for your own good i hope you don't pursue her anymore....

[Acouwaila]

thanks guys...I know you've all got experience when it comes to this shit

I had my heart broken once before when I was 16 I just cant bare it again...

I asked her today if she was completely serious (through text messages! erg)

and she said "IDK!"

which probably means "I want it to be but its hard when you keep talking to me"

but im not sure..

anyways...

I know for a fact she isnt going to attempt to call or text at all....which is kind of sad...and she told me to give her space

So now...I cant try to convince her via text, to be with me again....I cant call her because she wont answer, and she definately isnt going to call me or text...

So im thinking im fucked...I cant stand the thought of some other jack ass with her though...damn it pisses me off

Im working on getting a job...a lot harder now

I just hope if we end up ok...its before the weekend comes

[Acouwaila]

for your own sake, i hope you wake up and see the light ....

no offense taken