Rambling: 26 and never been in a relationship.

[Melkane]

I'm awake and can't sleep so thought I'd ramble on for a bit...

I've been on like 3 dates my entire life none of those were anything more than either a meal a movie and some talking. The only sexual contact I've ever had is contained in one 1hour period of my entire life that I got tired of waiting and went to a brothel, but while very enjoyable I just don't have the money to utilize that method.


It's not from a lack of wanting a relationship, or even a lack of trying. I have chased after those which I have really crushed on but there's something about me that prevents anyone from being romantically interested in myself. I know part of it is looks, I'm not an attractive man, I'm very much overweight and just not a "handsome" human specimen, however there is plenty of unattractive people that still find someone to love. So that's not all of the reason I haven't.

Though sometimes I think it may be for the best. I mean I really REALLY would like to have someone there that loved me for being me, someone there that I could be intimate with. But at the same time I very much enjoy my solitude and not having to worry about pleasing any other person. In fact I sometimes really wonder if I want a relationship or if I just want someone available for sexual relations. Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being. I would do so. To think of my life in it's current form of likes/dislikes if I could enjoy my life as it is now without the insanely strong desire for sex. I would be one of the happiest people on the planet. Personally I'm getting rather tired of my desire, of my hormones getting the better of me and causing me to develop crushes on various people throughout the years only to ultimately over and over again be disappointed to heartbroken that once again my feelings are one sided.

It's not something that can be just shut off though, so it becomes something that torments me...becomes a primal desire for myself that is never satisfied. It's actually highly frustrating to know that it's pure instinct. The desire to find someone is merely nature at work, it's something that we dont' get by choice, but simply because we live and it's programmed into our minds to find someone and pass on our genes. The irony of instinct/nature making me wanting/yearning to have sex or a relationship yet in reality I/myself don't want to procreate, don't want children. I sometimes feel to be able to look at some attractive person or sexually provactive situations and feel no yearning, no change in emotion in any way would be quite awesome. To simply not care about it would in of itself be just a great a gift as being granted a relationship.

[Breukelen advocaat]

You wrote, "Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being I would do so." I felt the same way. Believe me, in time it will become less and less bothersome and some of it will be replaced with other thoughts and pursuits. This is not to say that it's gone, far from it. The mind should continue to mature as we mellow with age, including the sexual part. I learned to channel sexual energy into creative interests. After a while it becomes second-nature.

Although I'd had "relationships" when I was younger, none worked out to anything long-term. This may have had something to do with my total lack of desire for children, and also my hard-headedness. If you live alone, and can handle that lifestyle, you're fortunate. A lot of guys can't do it and get hitched, thinking that they'll be better off. Most are not.

The first thing to understand is that women choose us more than we choose them. When you find one, or rather a woman finds you, and it is the right chemistry, you'll be set. First you have to look around to find her - unless you're incredibly lucky. The sexual fire in the beginning of a relationship always goes down to a flicker, but that's just the nature of the beast. What's more important is the aforementioned chemistry.

I didn't meet the right person to marry until my late 30's, and tied the knot in just under five years, but I'm glad I waited. I stuck to my guns, and found someone that was not going to try to change me. This can happen for you, you just have to be open to it. There's someone perfect out there for most everyone, but the hard part is all the bullshit you have to put up with until it happens.

Just remember that plenty of unhappily-married guys, or guys that were married and are now paying alimony and/or child-support, would trade places with you in a minute.

[thcbongman]

You can always change your looks. If you aren't happy being overweight, hit the gym. Looks only carry you so far anyway. You can be beautiful on the outside, but if on the inside you are ugly, you'll be ugly.

Be the best person you can be. Take those desires and as BA said, find creative outlets for it. It helps mold you as a person.

Also, I really do think you should be exercising to increase your testosterone levels. You'll feel better, and also it'll make your wang bigger from all the fat that's burned off.

Most of all, don't change yourself for anybody. In time it'll come, just as long as you continue to grow yourself as a person, and not choose to stagnate your life.

Good luck!

[rebgirl420]

Ever try online dating sites? Its how I met my fiance.

[locomark]

Melkane,

Your better off seeking a no strings friendship. Less issues and expectations. But what do I know?

Loco

[Ganj]

Granted when you do find someone to be with, Melkane it's going to twist your world upside down. Locomark touched base on it with the issues and expectations that you're probably not used to. Seems like you've dug yourself a hole. Take his advice and find a no strings relationship and if that's not your bag, then enjoy yourself until you find the right woman. Reb did the whole online dating thing and she's happy. Maybe you'll find the woman of your dreams?

[spliffstar22]

Just step your self esteem game up man............You seem to be putting yourself down, at least that's how you come across.......Girls like self esteem, step to them as if you know you're gonna get the #, there's always that 1 snooty bitch that wont give any guy the time of day cause they think they're the shit.....when in actuality their avg.........females want dick, we want pussy, so it's not too hard to get it......... Self Esteem and swagger is the key, just dont be too cocky with it......Do you go to parties and things like that? I think you gotta be holdin back, just step up to the plate, and let your mouth do the rest, it's all about the talks.........

[Melkane]

Well as old as I am, I've heard the pep talks and motivation speeches plenty of times. I found the motivation to quit smoking cigarettes because I really didn't like smoking and I didn't like how it was making me feel. However my weight problems stem from the types of foods I love and the hobbies I enjoy and I'm unwilling to give them up or drastically reduce them. I've never minded being overweight though since I quit smoking my weight skyrocketed upwards and while I'm definitely not happy with my current weight I don't see much I could do about it without changing my whole lifestyle around. I would love to lose about 100lbs. but it most likely never will happen. Besides I've seen plenty of fat guys get women.

The environment in which I would meet a woman is important to me, I don't want a "party girl". I hate parties and large amounts of socializing for the most part. Meeting some girl at party is likely to lead to a bad fit as most likely any woman I meet at said event went there because they like them. In reality the woman I need is going to have to be into the same stuff I am, gaming, movies, tv etc...and it's highly doubtful I'm going to see that woman at a party or at the bar or some place like that.

Also, I really do think you should be exercising to increase your testosterone levels.

What's that intended to mean? :wtf:

I've never really got into online dating, I mean I've just considered them to be big scams for the most part. The few people that say they've had success with them I chalk up to pure luck.

[Spoken Word]

I'm awake and can't sleep so thought I'd ramble on for a bit...

I've been on like 3 dates my entire life none of those were anything more than either a meal a movie and some talking. The only sexual contact I've ever had is contained in one 1hour period of my entire life that I got tired of waiting and went to a brothel, but while very enjoyable I just don't have the money to utilize that method.


It's not from a lack of wanting a relationship, or even a lack of trying. I have chased after those which I have really crushed on but there's something about me that prevents anyone from being romantically interested in myself. I know part of it is looks, I'm not an attractive man, I'm very much overweight and just not a "handsome" human specimen, however there is plenty of unattractive people that still find someone to love. So that's not all of the reason I haven't.

Though sometimes I think it may be for the best. I mean I really REALLY would like to have someone there that loved me for being me, someone there that I could be intimate with. But at the same time I very much enjoy my solitude and not having to worry about pleasing any other person. In fact I sometimes really wonder if I want a relationship or if I just want someone available for sexual relations. Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being. I would do so. To think of my life in it's current form of likes/dislikes if I could enjoy my life as it is now without the insanely strong desire for sex. I would be one of the happiest people on the planet. Personally I'm getting rather tired of my desire, of my hormones getting the better of me and causing me to develop crushes on various people throughout the years only to ultimately over and over again be disappointed to heartbroken that once again my feelings are one sided.

It's not something that can be just shut off though, so it becomes something that torments me...becomes a primal desire for myself that is never satisfied. It's actually highly frustrating to know that it's pure instinct. The desire to find someone is merely nature at work, it's something that we dont' get by choice, but simply because we live and it's programmed into our minds to find someone and pass on our genes. The irony of instinct/nature making me wanting/yearning to have sex or a relationship yet in reality I/myself don't want to procreate, don't want children. I sometimes feel to be able to look at some attractive person or sexually provactive situations and feel no yearning, no change in emotion in any way would be quite awesome. To simply not care about it would in of itself be just a great a gift as being granted a relationship.
It's human nature. I think everyone has the chance of meeting someone special. Your looks shouldn't matter if she(or he lol) sees you for what you are, not how you look. I thank my parents for my decent looks but there is a whole lot more to me than my face or body. I would think it's the same with everyone. Just find that person that gives you a chance, be yourself and see what happends. It isn't really useful advice but don't think about it too much. That only leads to obsession. I haven't had a girlfriend or sex in something like a year. If I think about it too much, I start going crazy so I just enjoy life with hopes that one day, I'll have a real relationship.
Most importantly, just try to be happy. I have found that being alone and satisfied with your life helps you find oout more about yourself. and we need that before we start marching into other peoples lives.

[thcbongman]

What's that intended to mean? :wtf:



Girls pick up on testosterone levels. The stronger, the more likely they become infatuated with you if you make a move. You have all this built up sexual frustration and people aren't being receptive to it. That's why you should try to increase it.

[LegalizeTheGreen]

i have to say, being overweight, while not always a factor, will reduce your chances. if you arnt willing to make the needed changes, then thats your choice, so you cant complain about the results.

also, you are retarted if you are requiring your women to be into everything you are into. thats unrealistic, and also pretty sad if you would dismiss a potential canidate (particularly in your situation) just because you dont share all the same like and dislikes.

I feel for you, but you cant expect shit to just happen for you, it requires effort.

[Melkane]

i have to say, being overweight, while not always a factor, will reduce your chances. if you arn't willing to make the needed changes, then thats your choice, so you cant complain about the results.

I thought that if you find someone that truly loves you for you they'd look past such "superficial" things? The fact is if I were to alter my life to get into shape that would be such a drastic change that it would be changing who I am. Period. The things I do and enjoy have the drawback and to get into shape I'd have to completely stop them or drastically cut back. Sorry I'm not going to change everything about me just to get someone else to like me. And if I can't simply be myself and that be enough then I have EVERY right to complain.


also, you are retarted "retarded" ..found that ironic.


if you are requiring your women to be into everything you are into. thats unrealistic, and also pretty sad if you would dismiss a potential canidate (particularly in your situation) just because you dont share all the same like and dislikes.

She doesn't need to be into EVERYTHING I'm into, but if a relationship has ANY hope of being something longlasting we have to have something in common that we enjoy doing together. A relationship built solely on attraction and sex while likely fun for the short term isn't going to be some life long thing. Eventually the excitement would end and then it would be two people with nothing in common. You strip away the attraction bullshit and if there is nothing else there then there is nothing there to begin with.

The fact is I spend pretty much all my time as a gamer or movie buff. That's what I know, that's what I can talk about for any length of time. I frankly am going to HAVE to have a woman that is either a gamer or movie buff themselves.


I feel for you, but you cant expect shit to just happen for you, it requires effort.

So your saying unless I "make an effort" and change everything about myself and fall for any female on two legs regardless of common likes/dislikes then I can't expect anything to happen? I find that highly flawed and likely reason for such a high divorce rate these days.

[rebgirl420]

well physical attraction is important too. I mean im sure you would expect a girlfriend to take care of her self.

[JD1stTimer]

Hey Malkane, I'm 27 and I'm in the same boat.. BUT a few years ago I actually started exercising and it only takes like 1 hour a day seriously it doesn't cut into your gaming or whatever. I also quit eating sweets and breads and pasta, basically a low carb, and it DID increase my testosterone. My hair started growing thicker, etc. Women started becoming friendlier and all that and I had lost about 70 pounds. I also just felt healthier and I started enjoying some of the activities I always thought were dumb. Then I had a lifestyle change and lots of things come up that were very stressful financially and I sorta fell off the wagon and gained back 30 pounds and I feel like crap again but I'm gonna get back on and this time it's gonna work better than ever. But for real, I'm not one of these naturally skinny guys who's acting like it's due to all their hard work or whatever when really they just do whatever they feel like and stay in shape. I know what you're going through (Not specifically but in general ) Oh yeah and I also have the really high sex drive, maybe it's a compulsion I beat it like five or six times a day most of the time. But I heard once that when you have a partner you stay good for a much longer period of time, like once a day would be enough. I don't know if that's true though.

[thcbongman]

I thought that if you find someone that truly loves you for you they'd look past such "superficial" things? The fact is if I were to alter my life to get into shape that would be such a drastic change that it would be changing who I am. Period. The things I do and enjoy have the drawback and to get into shape I'd have to completely stop them or drastically cut back. Sorry I'm not going to change everything about me just to get someone else to like me. And if I can't simply be myself and that be enough then I have EVERY right to complain.


What do you have to stop? I'm not telling you to stop anything. I'm suggesting you add. It doesn't require drastic changes. Baby steps man. Going for the moon will end up in failure. Bit by bit, build it up.

Sure a person eventually has to love you for who you are, but first you have to draw them in with some attraction. That's why it's important to look good, and show you take care of yourself. How are you expected to take care of a woman if you can't take care of yourself?

Something to ponder.

You have an animal inside you, you have to let out at some point.

[Ganj]

Well as old as I am, I've heard the pep talks and motivation speeches plenty of times. I found the motivation to quit smoking cigarettes because I really didn't like smoking and I didn't like how it was making me feel. However my weight problems stem from the types of foods I love and the hobbies I enjoy and I'm unwilling to give them up or drastically reduce them. I've never minded being overweight though since I quit smoking my weight skyrocketed upwards and while I'm definitely not happy with my current weight I don't see much I could do about it without changing my whole lifestyle around. I would love to lose about 100lbs. but it most likely never will happen. Besides I've seen plenty of fat guys get women.

The environment in which I would meet a woman is important to me, I don't want a "party girl". I hate parties and large amounts of socializing for the most part. Meeting some girl at party is likely to lead to a bad fit as most likely any woman I meet at said event went there because they like them. In reality the woman I need is going to have to be into the same stuff I am, gaming, movies, tv etc...and it's highly doubtful I'm going to see that woman at a party or at the bar or some place like that.


What's that intended to mean? :wtf:

I've never really got into online dating, I mean I've just considered them to be big scams for the most part. The few people that say they've had success with them I chalk up to pure luck.

What about an empathetic "party girl?" Would that better suit you?

[ombudsman]

Hey Dude, I know that life can throw you some tough blows, but there are things you can do to help yourself out. I think that the first step for you is to get your head in the right direction. Finding the right person is a difficult task that some people never complete. Not to get all psycho-analytical on you, but I think that you have a confidence problem, probably spurred on by your weight. I personally suggest that you go to the doctor and get some information on SSRI's (Selective Serotonine Reuptake Inhibitors). You can see your general doctor for this, no need to see a psychiatrist. I suffer from a confidence problem and they work wonders. A nice side bonus is that the one I take (Zoloft), decreases your appetite, so you will drop a few pounds right off the bat. Beyond that, getting some sort of cardio workout will exponentially help your weight loss. Appearances are important, because that is really where your first impression lies with. I know it sucks, but that is reality. You will find someone, but you really need to seek it out, because often, unless you are really lucky, your soulmate will not just appear on your door step. Getting into some activities will help you meet new people. This is especially true if you join a gym and get into some of the classes. You should not have to change your interests to make the other person fit, the relationship will fit naturally. I feel for you bro, but your problems are definitely not without solutions. Good luck!

[spliffstar22]

yeahhh man, if you dont wanna lose weight it's on you, most girls like healthy males, and looks is a big thing, you can say personality this and that, but it's bs, girls and guys look for looks first, personality second when you actually go talk to them,

[420MissHighTimes420]

Wow wanting to remove sexual desire? come on now! There is someone out there for everyone, don't give yup, some people don't meet the right person until they are 40 or even older, so hang in there, and be glad you were blessed with the gift of pleasure. never wish that to be taken away! You will get yours don't worry.

[420MissHighTimes420]

oh and about changing your apperence, (no one get mad its just my opinon) yes you should want to be with someone because of who they are, not what they look like, ---- but not looking good tells you something about the person, when you are overweight (to me) it says you don't care about yourself enough to stay healthy and that you have a low self esteem. I am not shallow, but I wouldn;t date an overweight guy because of those reasons. so maybe you should just chalk it go on a diet, feel healthier, look better, and hopefully get some new bitches.

[420MissHighTimes420]

What do you have to stop? I'm not telling you to stop anything. I'm suggesting you add. It doesn't require drastic changes. Baby steps man. Going for the moon will end up in failure. Bit by bit, build it up.

Sure a person eventually has to love you for who you are, but first you have to draw them in with some attraction. That's why it's important to look good, and show you take care of yourself. How are you expected to take care of a woman if you can't take care of yourself?

Something to ponder.

You have an animal inside you, you have to let out at some point.

exactly, I only approach hot guys because why approach a ugly guy when the good looking ones might have a good personality? I know it sounds shallow but fuck it ... i wouldnt want to date an ugly guy because i dont have to , there are a ton of good looking guys with great personalities so why settle for less?
if you start to care more about ur apprence you will be able to approach more women and more will approach you. you need that whole package.

[Jibboom]

It sounds like a cliche but I think to a certain extent you only find love when you're not looking. I don't think this means you can let yourself go and stay in your house 24/7 playing games/watching movies and expecting it just to happen because it won't. As others have said exercising will not only make you feel better thanks to the release of endorphins, but it will make you feel better also when you start seeing the effects it has on your body. I would think that maybe getting a few activities where you'll mix with females is a step in the right direction also.

"Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being. I would do so."

Dude, if you met a girl you hit it off with and you heard her say this to one of her friends, what would you think? I'm guessing you're giving off some sort of signals like this to girls you do meet, and it's unsurprising you don't get many that are interested. I mean this in a nice way, so please don't take offence.

It's all in your mind mate, small changes are what is required now. Go to some bars and just talk to women without any intention of picking them up, pick women that you consider not particularly attractive, seeing as you don't find yourself attractive you might feel on a more level-playing field and so can be more relaxed and just work on your confidence.

[LegalizeTheGreen]

nearly every post above this seems to agree you cant expect to draw in the women without effort, so perhaps there is somthing to this? It doesnt take alot to lose weight. I used to be overweight in HS, but as a junior i decided to do some weightlifting (nothing serious, just like 45 min every other night) and didnt even do any cardio (i hate running), but the main thing is changing how you eat.

It isnt just about losing weight either, how do you think all those twinkies and mountain dew affect your body? thats what everyone is talking about in terms of respecting your body.

I managed to lose 30 lbs in NO TIME just by eating healthy and doing a little weight training. It isnt hard, i promise you. Just try to cut out sugar, simple carbs, and fatty foods. Try cooking chicken breast instead of steak. Turkey burgers instead of hamburgers. Make a high protein fruit smoothie in the morning instead of pancakes. The main thing though is there is NO DOWNSIDE! eating healthy will improve every aspect of your life. You can still game and do whatever else you want, just eat healthy and spend 1/24th of your day, every other day, excercising.

remember, nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.

[Melkane]

I managed to lose 30 lbs in NO TIME just by eating healthy and doing a little weight training. It isnt hard, i promise you. Just try to cut out sugar, simple carbs, and fatty foods. Try cooking chicken breast instead of steak. Turkey burgers instead of hamburgers. Make a high protein fruit smoothie in the morning instead of pancakes. The main thing though is there is NO DOWNSIDE! eating healthy will improve every aspect of your life. You can still game and do whatever else you want, just eat healthy and spend 1/24th of your day, every other day, excercising.

remember, nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.

But what do you do when you can't stand those above foods? Hmm? I can't stand chicken or seafood...hell I don't even like steak to be truthful. Turkey meat tastes nasty as hell I tried using it as substitute a few times because it was cheaper and man that crap is gross. This is one of the main issues I have. I simply cannot eat foods I hate. I'm a fast food junky it's all that tastes good to me, besides a select few home cooked meals that I tolerate. I'd rather have a double cheeseburger from McDonalds than the juiciest steak. You should actually enjoy the foods you eat and if every meal makes you want to hurl, you are eating the wrong foods.

[HighTillIDie]

lol excuses... man i was once in the 150lbs overweight club... women never looked at me, but maybe every 1000 years, and then only out of pity... i was very bitter just like you man... very jaded... thought JUST like you

BUT, you have to pay to play... i started making healthy changes to my life... started looking better, my confidence went up... and i found what kind of woman i really like, and what kind i attract, and ect... i am by no means in a long lasting relationship... i am single right now... but thanks to several years of dating and playing the field, and not too mention making a fool out of myself... i don't worry about women anymore... i don't wait for anyone... i just go about my life, and enjoy the company of many women.

i am proud of the changes i have made, how i look, and who i am. i know there is better looking, and blah blah blah... but i kick ass and it was all my hard work that made it happen.

i say quit living unhealthy... of course it is easier that way... but so what that is irresponsible and lazy... and that is why thinner people stay away from overweight... most overweight people are lazy and irresponsible... not too mention the social problems it can create (jaded john syndrome)

i don't want to talk too much about my real life, but i do this shit for a living man... but you either want to get into the game or not... you sound scared to compete for women... which is what it is... and you mention that women should think this way blah blah blah... everyone has to be sexually attracted to their mate... or sexually attracted to something about them (money is a popular choice)...

not pickin on you, i just think you should give your pecker a chance... just remember, it doesn't matter how small it is... if she uses a dildo too... lo

[LuckyG]

I didn't read through the entire thread, but Melkane, it sounds to me like you have a pretty negative attitude towards a lot of stuff, including any helpful suggestions from fellow forum members. Women pick up on that kind of thing pretty quick, and I wouldn't doubt that's half of the reason why they aren't into you.

My thoughts? Do what I did - stop caring about getting laid, and get out there and do things that make you feel good. Turn off your TV and try exercising, getting a hobby, eating healthier or less. Clean up your place, throw out stuff you don't like or are just keeping for sentimental value, rearrange your furniture, build up a wardrobe that you like. Keep a positive outlook on life. Don't spend all your time damning yourself for your faults, and try to minimize or eliminate them. Set goals or challenges and try to achieve them. Soon you'll be feeling great about yourself, and it'll be apparent to the people around you too.

Just my two cents. :twocents:

[snowblind]

the reason you like all the fast foods is because they are designed for you to like them. they have addatives, suugars and fats in them that make your body release chemicals that makes you want them more.
you started this post so you must want to do something about you situation adn all the suggestions that i see and people trying to help you you come up with more excuses.
the reason you dont like any other food at the moment is because you have conditioned yourself to not like it, physically and mentally.
cooking food and being healthy requires a little bit of effort, and yes at the begginging it is ardous to prepare veg and marinade meat. but after a while you begin to enjoy it. cookin is really easy too. once everything is prepared its just like a big jigsaw, putting the right things together at the right times.
the post about the testosterone is true, women are attracted to pheromones in men and vice vers that are agitated by our relative sexual chemicals.
bodies are like finely oiled machines and need to be well cared for, junk food doesnt do this. and im sorry to say it, but its why you are fat.
you sound apathetic and unmotivated to do anything about your situation, but subconsciously you must becuase you wouldnt have posted otherwise.
the women issue isn't really the main issue here, i personally think it is with yourself. but i cant descibe enough what exercise and a healthy diet will do for you. you'll feel like a new man and be bouncing off the walls. you will probably want to go out and inturn your happiness and personality will attract more women, because you will look better, wont smell and be happy.
your current life seems to me to be full of easy alternative, games apposed to human interaction and exercise and junk food as apposed to healthy food.
if you love games so much, why not try and get into the industry, go back to college.

no one here can tell you what to do, only offer help and thats all im trying to do. maybe it would be better if you looked at your junk food and gaming as addictions and tried to break them. limit them and use them as goals to reward yourself. an hour of wow for a 15 minutate jog. or a big mac on a sunday if you eat and prepare all your own meals for a week.

the only way you will ever get out of the rut of your life if with self disipline and self beleif

no one hear can do that

but we will always be here to support

the rest is up to you big guy

peace and progress
snowblind

who know this time next year you could be a whole new you

[JD1stTimer]

It isnt just about losing weight either, how do you think all those twinkies and mountain dew affect your body?

You don't necessarily have to eat junk food to be ridiculously overweight... I always eat healthy food and I don't even like most sweets, but I still can gain weight just by eating too much healthy food and not making special time to exercise. I also know people who eat junk food all the time, rarely exercise, and stay thin all the time.... what I'm saying is, some people are more sensitive to calorie issues than others. We have to work a lot harder than the naturally thins in order to stay on top of it. Case in point is myself... I can gain like 5 pounds in a week if I just add two pieces of toast to my dinner instead of just one every day.. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be that drastic for most people..

[snowblind]

thats brutal, u wudn't think that 7 slices of toasted even weighed 5lbs

[snowblind]

anyway dude what was the hooker like, was she a hottie. did u make her moan? did she put a condom on ur dick wit her mouth ?

[HighTillIDie]

when i go to amsterdam, think i can get a hooker to let me donkey punch her?

[Melkane]

I am in college, but not for gaming. I like to play the games, not make them. Game designers rarely get to sit down and actually play, they have insanely long hours and the average designer only gets paid like 30K a year. Which wouldn't be bad if it was a 9-5 job, but with all the long hours they are forced to work..totally not worth it. Game testers don't get to play through either, and usually spend most of their time replaying small portions of games over and over again looking for bugs.


As far as the lady I was with... hold on a moment let me check on something..wow it does still exist
NVBrothels.net Forum - Julie Love (http://nvbrothels.net/forum/showthread.php?t=27371)


..again HighTillIDie who is that in your avatar?

[420MissHighTimes420]

But what do you do when you can't stand those above foods? Hmm? I can't stand chicken or seafood...hell I don't even like steak to be truthful. Turkey meat tastes nasty as hell I tried using it as substitute a few times because it was cheaper and man that crap is gross. This is one of the main issues I have. I simply cannot eat foods I hate. I'm a fast food junky it's all that tastes good to me, besides a select few home cooked meals that I tolerate. I'd rather have a double cheeseburger from McDonalds than the juiciest steak. You should actually enjoy the foods you eat and if every meal makes you want to hurl, you are eating the wrong foods.

than you have to make a choice, getting healthy and meeting some new women or eating mcdonalds which is going to give you a lot of health problems ???

[snowblind]

depends on what you wanna do within the industry, developers, lead artists and lead programmers can make upto 200k+ as with anything its about what you put in and where you want to go. the only person that ever holds you back is yourself

[snowblind]

can i have a 'HELL YEAH' gor hookers please

[snowblind]

hang on dude, if ur were 21 then and are 26 now, thats five years. have you not go the itch yet? after a few months i get it real bad, just this unsatisfiable urge to get laid

[Fugitive]

The thing about socializing is you're going to have to do it, cut down on tv and video games because that makes you go into a trance and socializing becomes more distant. If you feel uncomfortable just think of all the socializing might eventually lead somewhere. Video games and movies are fun and enjoyable, I know I try not to watch tv because it works against you in the real world especially if you get caught up in all the series, what I try and do is watch something with a purpose, comedy to get me in a good mood, a movie with other people.

Junk Food is the last thing you want, in my experience junk food makes me feel like crap and is very addictive,
start off slow like healthy cereal, smoothies taste good, 2 or 3 liters of water every day. Have you're munchies and junk food if that's seriously the only thing you like ;) just not as much as you used to.. maybe try healthier junk food lol maybe even get active? Excuse the lame quote but, no pain no gain, is very true its your choice to either reap instant rewards now or something more satisfying later.

Do not be picky with your women and look up forums and women gurus :D how to behave around women, and some men's clothes style forums.
You've probably heard it before and it's your choice to take it seriously or not, I'm not trying to lecture you JUST do it and don't complain here because in the real world people don't give a shit if you're unhappy and single you have to make everything for yourself.

[snowblind]

this actually has pissed me off. the doc told me today i should do no more than a brisk walk for the next 2 months, cus my creatin levels were higher than someone who had a heart attack.
i love exercising, it makes me feel good, look good and keeps me happy.
its killing me to have to sit on my ass.
rggggggh
twat

snowblind

[HighTillIDie]

this actually has pissed me off. the doc told me today i should do no more than a brisk walk for the next 2 months, cus my creatin levels were higher than someone who had a heart attack.
i love exercising, it makes me feel good, look good and keeps me happy.
its killing me to have to sit on my ass.
rggggggh
twat

snowblind

then i would take the time to work on my flexibility ;)

the most forgotten aspect of fitness

[snowblind]

this is true, still i like running before work and my bodies gonna waste away.

[LegalizeTheGreen]

snowblind, dont worry about creatine, I have actually taken it as a supplement, and having high levels isnt bad for you. It is vital for the ATP energy cycle, and having more allows you to work you muscles harder. besides, if it was bad, the pro's wouldnt be taking it in super high levels.

now, related to this thread, I have given up on helping the OP. He doesnt want advice, he just wanted to bitch. If he doesnt wanna stop eating shit all the time, and chooses video games over real people, then let him lay in the bead he has made. have fun being a 40 year old virgin, because paying for sex doesn't count ;)

[snowblind]

oh i know, sorry its a mix of different things combined with the creatine levels. been going for blood test and things. been put on this 2 week diet/no alcohol/ no drugs thing and have been havin regular ecg's.
i have to have a mucle biospy next week too.
its not that they are just high its that they are high for absolutely no reason, there was just a spike in my levels, that was really, really abnormal combined a few other things.
it was reading at 4928 micrograms, when its usually at around between 800-1000, cus i ref work out, 200 for normal peeps
i get checked everymonth cus i had rumathoidsissitis, i think thats how you spell it
anway its an infection/damage to the heart
so its kinda precautionary.
plus my ecg was a little worrying.
but i feel ok, my doctors mint.
should be at £300 an hour
thankfuck for health insurance.

cheers anyway dude

in regards to this dude and his thread. you exactly right. bet his wrists look like tree trunks

snowblind

[khronik]

Oh, come on. Stop being assholes.

The truth is, he sounds like he has problems with depression. From things he's said, he fits most of the criteria. He sounds hopeless, he's had a lot of weight gain, he's got a lot of social anxiety, etc. He really needs to think about seeing a psychiatrist. I know, it sucks having to take medication, and the idea of it probably makes you feel like even more of a loser. BUT, if it can dramatically improve your health and your outlook on life, so what if you have to take an occasional pill?

Medication may not be the answer to everything, but if you're stuck in a rut, it can seriously help you. Do you really want to be in the same place in ten years wondering what might have happened if you'd tried to do something about your problems?

[thcbongman]

this actually has pissed me off. the doc told me today i should do no more than a brisk walk for the next 2 months, cus my creatin levels were higher than someone who had a heart attack.
i love exercising, it makes me feel good, look good and keeps me happy.
its killing me to have to sit on my ass.
rggggggh
twat

snowblind

Hey, that's better than not being able to exercise because nerve damage from surgery. Starting today, I'm saying F the pain, and work through it.

I love to lift weights, I love to cycle, I love to play sports, I love my yoga. It's killing me that I'm being idle! I know how you feel.

[snowblind]

damn sorry dude, my thoughts and joints are with you.

as for this guy. yes it does sound like he is depressed. but everything that people have suggested are all natural ways to help eleviate depression and help him out. ive been on anti depressents and decided to fuck them off for all the above alternatives. they work much better. he probably does need to talk to someone. but were all nice amiable people just trying to help, if you ask for advice then you should listen to it. not just make excuses.
my freind broke her heroin addiction, im sure he can break his fast food adication

snowblind

[TheDefiler]

Melkane u are a carbon copy of me man. EVERYTHING u mentioned about yourself is true for me too. But I have cut back drastically on the video games and am TRYING to eat better, less fast food, etc. I also have a job 5 days a week where i do nothing but walk so that helps.