Everybody thinks I'm gay

[thcbongman]

I had a strange realization last night. I was at a concert, and I overheard some chick that kept eyeing me saying "why isn't this guy hitting on me. Tall, handsome, he must be gay." I look around and realized I was the only tall dude around. At that moment, I recollected moments in the past when I was questioned about being gay.

Then I asked a couple of my female co-workers if I gave off a gay vibe. They said I sorta did, they labeled it "metrosexual." WTF? If I didn't have to dress-up at work, I'd be wearing t-shirt and jeans. One of them says how I carry myself hints of gayness.

That's when I realized, everyone but close family and friends thinks I'm gay. That's just messed up. I don't even do anything that resembles gayness in my opinion. So I maybe shy, and don't approach chicks very often, but that doesn't mean I'm gay! Man, I don't even know what to do!

[jdub61]

prove em wrong bucko, don't leave any doubt :rasta:

[Skink]

Teshirt and geans,,,how metro can you get???

[mikeo14]

your title cracks me up

[Delta9 UK]

So?

Sounds like you don't come across as a twat and try and shag everything with a pulse! If that's "Metrosexual" so be it.

pffft! labels!

[GraziLovesMary]

^^ haha you dont mind the label because youre gay! lol but I agree, labels are a joke. Especially ones with such a hazy definition such as "Metrosexual" Its all a joke to me. Sexuality is sexuality who the fuck cares who its geared towards?

THCBongman... I dont know you so I can only guess and generalize, so please tell me where my assumptions have strayed from accuracy.. bear with me:

I sense that you are confused about how they meant "how you carry yourself makes you seem gay" Well it sounds like body language has kicked you in the ass when you werent looking... men whose body language and poise have too many effeminite traits put off a... well... feminine vibe. It has lots to do with many little idiosyncracies about ourselves that we usually dont pay much attention to. Men and women for the most part have very separate and well-defined body language characteristics.

Everything, from how straight or slouched you hold your back, to how you move your ass and shoulders when you walk, to how you swing your arms and place your feet when you walk. Even just how you motion with your hands while talking can have a masculine or feminine cast to the motion, or even the way you tilt your head. All these tiny, sub-conscious movements and many many more (a whole spectrum of facial expressions can cast the light either way) are relatively inconsequential when viewed alone (except for maybe an extreme... like a severely limp wrist lol), but when they all go together to form the big picture, they do much more to cast aspersions on that person character.

I dont tell you this so you can try and "fix" the issue by changing yourself, only so you can understand why, and be satisfied with the answer. There are people who ask me if IM gay, and I am very heterosexual. Not even homophobic in the least... it doesnt even have anything to do with guys.. I just love women too much to ever NOT be attracted to them.

The point isnt whether youre gay or straight, or whether people think youre gay or straight... its that you know what YOU are. Fuck the people who doubt you, just always trust your gut instinct and you will always be happy.


EDIT: I felt it important to add that one of the things women find sexiest and most manly is confidence. People often mistake shyness for lack of interest and often jump conclusions. Work on becoming more outwardly confident if you want to disperse with the accusations.

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Host a giant lesbian gangbang at your house, that'll prove them wrong

[Reefer Rogue]

I don't think you're gay, if that helps lol.

[azure]

pics?

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

So?

Sounds like you don't come across as a twat and try and shag everything with a pulse! If that's "Metrosexual" so be it.

pffft! labels!


Well put! Wish I could hand out rep at this point, but.... well I'll have to give you a raincheck on that one:thumbsup:

[thcbongman]

Damn, alcohol and cannabis.com don't mix! I really did make this post!

None the less, I'm happy I made this post. Y'all are the best.

[psteve]

I assume everybody's gay... until they prove me wrong.;)

[slipknotpsycho]

well it is a good thing tooo...

chicks seem to be natrually drawn to gay guys <.< use it to your advantage.

[OniEhtRedrum781]

well it is a good thing tooo...

chicks seem to be natrually drawn to gay guys <.< use it to your advantage.

I think that would just cause problems later. After helping them with their bras, doing their dresses up and giving them make-up advice, things are gonna be a little sticky (and not in the good way) when it comes to to break the news to that lucky lady :thumbsup:

[crudemood]

Hey, consider that a comment, I find gay guys really hot and they do make GREAT friends :)

[420MissHighTimes420]

Hey, consider that a comment, I find gay guys really hot and they do make GREAT friends :)

Very true ... I work in the gayborhood of Philadelphia and it kills me! There are soo many hot ass gay guys. It's good that your 'metro' or whatever because it means your hot and you take care of yourself. and all that matters is you know your not!

[cannabis campbell]

Maybe, its something else? Like the way you wear your clothes or how you walk or something?

[420marijuana420]

well it is a good thing tooo...

chicks seem to be natrually drawn to gay guys <.< use it to your advantage.



Hey, consider that a comment, I find gay guys really hot and they do make GREAT friends :)

Yeah, that might be true...................... but that's not going to get him very far with girls he wants to be with.

[anomalousirrelivance]

i got the same problems, and it makes me hate stupid bitches (females) who assume and pronounce to the world that you're a fudge packer if aren't all over their nasty snail trail poon.


just cause every jock in highschool loosened this bitch up doesn't mean i find her attractive. that fact right there makes her by far the least attractive girl i can think of, i mean...she's attracted to shallow morons i sure don't want her liking me ;)

[TheGanjaKing420]

pics?

Yeah, this thread is useless without pics

[beachguy in thongs]

Thcbongman, you may put off a gay-vibe because you have more spots on your hypothalamus, I think that's the area. Several years ago, they found that gays had more spots, like females, as opposed to most men who don't have an abundance of spots. Don't ask me what color.

[Fringekid]

Girls love gays-just wink one of them & they'll be all over you.
Trust me!

[GraziLovesMary]

Ya know, some of the posts in this topic got me pondering one day while high and contemplative.. and I think I may understand a major reason why so many men are homophobic... bear with me as I was high and its just a supposition.

Its actually pretty simple, really. In todays world where homosexuality is more prevalent and accepted, many of the things that gay men enjoy are becoming more mainstream knowledge. 60 years ago, the only people that seemed to know what gay people did were gay people.. the rest of the world tried its best to ignore it, it would seem.

Switching it up for a second... Men enjoy the comraderie of their buddies. Good friends go fishing and camping and to bars together, they have poker night, guys nights out.. all sorts of shit. Its a bonding experience, and it brings them closer as friends. Gay men are the same as straight men in that respect, the only difference being, they actually have romantic feelings of love attached as well.

Homophobic men become uncomfortable when they realize that many of the same things they like doing with their buddies, are enjoyed by gay men and their lovers as well. Their insecurity makes them afraid that simply because they share something in common with a gay dude, that must mean they, in turn, are gay. And it freaks them out. Also, they very well could have had fantasies or dreams about men, which happens to more straight guys than most would think, and almost all of them get freaked out by it lol.

Not to mention society has been shunning homosexual activity via religion for a couple millenia now; and that has had quite an impact on the moderm male psyche. I guess it all breaks down to the fact that so many people on Earth are no longer their own person.. just imitations.. shells of pop-mainstream culture emulation. Dont trust the gut.. ask MTV or the media... theyll know. Its pathetic.

Anyway it wont last forever.. lesbianism is already becoming more and more accepted, mostly thanks to womens rights movements and the porn industry, ironically enough. And the fact that women are alot more beautiful than men, lol.

[yoda]

is that what the purple banana told you?

[GraziLovesMary]

The purple banana??

[rastaman79]

man i dont wanna sound harsh,but leavin that 2nd post made you 60% more gay,never say sorry.

[Straight Illin]

Hey, consider that a comment, I find gay guys really hot and they do make GREAT friends :)

Bingo, bango.

[GraziLovesMary]

StraightIllin... you like the caps... you live near DC??

[cannabis=freedom]

If people think you're gay, thcbongman, fuck it...once you hit on a lady after interesting conversation she'll realize you're not, and she's all that matters, right?

A lot of it's how you carry yourself, for I could VERY easily be mistaken for gay...let me describe myself...

I'm a tall and slender guy, and possibly the biggest pretty boy you'll ever meet, with long silky hair, a smooth face, big blue eyes, and very long, curly eyelashes. To top it off, I also wear purple quite a bit, and the odd pink. Somehow I never get thought of as gay, though...

[Straight Illin]

StraightIllin... you like the caps... you live near DC??

Fredericksburg VA my good man. Yerself?

[thcbongman]

If people think you're gay, thcbongman, fuck it...once you hit on a lady after interesting conversation she'll realize you're not, and she's all that matters, right?

A lot of it's how you carry yourself, for I could VERY easily be mistaken for gay...let me describe myself...

I'm a tall and slender guy, and possibly the biggest pretty boy you'll ever meet, with long silky hair, a smooth face, big blue eyes, and very long, curly eyelashes. To top it off, I also wear purple quite a bit, and the odd pink. Somehow I never get thought of as gay, though...

That's mostly what I am like, minus, the blue eyes, long hair.

I don't really care who thinks whether I'm gay or not. I simply don't give a shit anymore. I don't give a damn who judges me, and laughs, because someone else is laugh at you!

I just feel like kicking the shit out of someone I don't know why.

[thcbongman]

is that what the purple banana told you?

lol! Guess her opinion would have weight hahaha.

rastaman, I take no offense, I'd rather be told what you really think.

and Grazi, you from the DC area too?

I'm setting up a cannabis.com gathering for the folks around here. Want to smoke my weed? Come over! That simple!

[Straight Illin]

lol! Guess her opinion would have weight hahaha.

rastaman, I take no offense, I'd rather be told what you really think.

and Grazi, you from the DC area too?

I'm setting up a cannabis.com gathering for the folks around here. Want to smoke my weed? Come over! That simple!

4th of July Smoke-In in DC, anyone? :-)


ps. didn't mean to hijack the thread :)

[Gatekeeper777]

why should you give a rats ass what others think.

the next woman who says she thinks your gay, ask her to drop to her knees and when your done stretching her throat. ask her if your still gay.

[delusionsofNORMALity]

when i was younger some people used to think i was gay. then my hair started to thin and the gray set in. now they just think i'm that weird old pervert that lives down the street.

come to think of it, they may be right.

[BlAzInIt4:20]

^^ ur statement was creepy..........okay well, you know i think gay men are very attractive, their well kept and for some reason that matters to me, and i haven't seen very many metro sexuals around here for awhile.. but still i can find a rugged guy attractive, just all depends on the person i guess...

[delusionsofNORMALity]

^^ ur statement was creepy
i aspire to nothing less. i have worked long and hard to become a dirty old man and i take great satisfaction in the fulfillment of my life-long dream.

[GraziLovesMary]

Fredericksburg VA my good man. Yerself?

Calvert Co, MD., Im only 40 mins south of DC. And Im a huge DC man... like... it runs in my blood... Skins, Caps, Nationals, DCUnited, Wiz... I have family in Fredericksburg come to think of it...

[GraziLovesMary]

and Grazi, you from the DC area too?

I'm setting up a cannabis.com gathering for the folks around here. Want to smoke my weed? Come over! That simple!

Word, brotha, Im in good ol boy Culvert County.. fuckin southern Maryland.. are you in the city?? And Im so down for a smokeout... I was planning a huge stoner road trip.. it was gonna be my Stoner Roast, from Coast to Coast.... aint quite made it happen yet...

[Straight Illin]

Calvert Co, MD., Im only 40 mins south of DC. And Im a huge DC man... like... it runs in my blood... Skins, Caps, Nationals, DCUnited, Wiz... I have family in Fredericksburg come to think of it...

I'm a fucking Redskins FANATIC.

I mean, I'm nuts for everything Skins.

[GraziLovesMary]

I'm a fucking Redskins FANATIC.

I mean, I'm nuts for everything Skins.

Thats awesome man, me too (obviously lol)

[thcbongman]

Fuck yeah to all the DC teams!

I'm next to the city, in Arlington. Ironically between you both.

[GraziLovesMary]

Well then fuck... were gonna have to have a DC area smokeout now arent we??

[thcbongman]

Oh yea, were gonna cause mayhem. I could see it in the headlines:

"Stoner gathering shuts down DC with unidentifiable cloud of smoke"

[beautiful disaster]

Maybe it's just that I'm stoned, but for some reason, this is the fucking most hysterically entertaining thread that I've read all day! :) :jointsmile:

[beachguy in thongs]

Maybe it's because Straight Illin' said he was "nuts for everything skins".

[Iplaybass182]

you could use this to your advantages and the chicks will have a compition to turn you straight. Maybe that only happens in highschool though...

[GraziLovesMary]

you could use this to your advantages and the chicks will have a compition to turn you straight. Maybe that only happens in highschool though...

No, it happens in middle school too.

[beautiful disaster]

ok.... i'm drunk now.... not stoned (give me a few more minutes... ;) ... and this thread is still hysterical. :) I wouldn't worry about it. I love gay men because the friends I have that are gay are super sexy and fun to hang out with. Take it as a compliment... and just laugh it off. Be confident in who you are..... you'll make a girls' day when she thinks your gay because you are fun to hang out with and such... and then she finds out that you are totally NOT into men.... :) Just enjoy life..... :):thumbsup:

[clever421]

make a film and show all your co workers

[cheeto]

refrain from having sex with men in their presence and they should eventually realize your not gay...

now back to the real problem! who hear IS gay?

yay for me-men taste good!

[Jibboom]

Don't worry about it.

Metro-sexual is more of a compliment than a label i've always thought.

I think alot of men find themselves in this situation if they are like me or you (a bit shy at first, don't approach every woman you see etc..), that's just the way it is i think.

[GraziLovesMary]

refrain from having sex with men in their presence and they should eventually realize your not gay...

now back to the real problem! who hear IS gay?

yay for me-men taste good!

lmao... fuckin thread theif!!

[need4weed]

i remember once being asked if i was gay by a girl because she said i reminded her of her dad, so i said whys that, is your dad gay?, and she said no. !?!?!? weird. any of u girls out there understand that??

anyway i used to be shy about aproaching girls but got over it, and now i have a great gf,

just proove em wrong bro.

[Ganj]

I had a strange realization last night. I was at a concert, and I overheard some chick that kept eyeing me saying "why isn't this guy hitting on me. Tall, handsome, he must be gay." I look around and realized I was the only tall dude around. At that moment, I recollected moments in the past when I was questioned about being gay.

Then I asked a couple of my female co-workers if I gave off a gay vibe. They said I sorta did, they labeled it "metrosexual." WTF? If I didn't have to dress-up at work, I'd be wearing t-shirt and jeans. One of them says how I carry myself hints of gayness.

That's when I realized, everyone but close family and friends thinks I'm gay. That's just messed up. I don't even do anything that resembles gayness in my opinion. So I maybe shy, and don't approach chicks very often, but that doesn't mean I'm gay! Man, I don't even know what to do!

Why didn't you hit on her? It's natural for older men to question their sexuality but just look at the reality of it bong man. Where are the women in your life?

[thcbongman]

Gosh, there's a smack of reality. I don't even have females as friends. No wonder everyone thinks I'm gay.

[GraziLovesMary]

Well we all know its due to your shyness and lack of confidence, and not sexual preference. Take some martial arts! Gain some confidence! Dont you live near me?? Shit we can even go to a couple bars and shit.. youd be surprised how much confidence you can gain just by hanging out with somebody with unconditional confidence. I have faith in you man.

[thcbongman]

See, that's the thing. I'm confident in everything else in life. At work, at school, I already obsessively work-out, bike, play tennis, ball etc. It's just when it comes to girls and socializing in general, I'm a complete retard!

But you make a good point. I don't exactly hang out with people that are uber confident. Well, let's hit some bars!

[GraziLovesMary]

See, that's the thing. I'm confident in everything else in life. At work, at school, I already obsessively work-out, bike, play tennis, ball etc. It's just when it comes to girls and socializing in general, I'm a complete retard!

But you make a good point. I don't exactly hang out with people that are uber confident. Well, let's hit some bars!

Im down man, no bullshit. I dont know how to do Private Messages to give you my cell phone number, but you better hurry.. Ive just found out Im probably moving to Ohio in a couple weeks! Thats enough time to hit some bars and build up the rest of your confidence though!

[thcbongman]

Damn, I tried to rep you to give my number, but I must spread some around apparently!

[GraziLovesMary]

Lol did it say you had given me too much rep or something?? lol thats funny :p

[thcbongman]

lol!

It means I'm not givin' people enough rep love!

[GraziLovesMary]

hahahahahahah I just tried the same thing and it told me what it told you :p

[thcbongman]

Damn, were back to square one haha.

[GraziLovesMary]

lol I just signed onto AIMexpress and tried to send you an IM :p

[BUZz UK]

awww

[twoguysupnorth]

you dont have to prove anything, just dont let it bother you.

[GraziLovesMary]

awww

hahahahahahahahahahahahaha not like that, hahahahahahahahahahaha

[locomark]

You could have told her if you have to date a pig like her you might consider going gay. I hate it when every woman thinks you need to be in her face asking for a date so they can reject you then joke about it with friends. What do I know?

Loco

[Ganj]

See, that's the thing. I'm confident in everything else in life. At work, at school, I already obsessively work-out, bike, play tennis, ball etc. It's just when it comes to girls and socializing in general, I'm a complete retard!

But you make a good point. I don't exactly hang out with people that are uber confident. Well, let's hit some bars!

Perhaps it is your lack of indulgence to today's standards of dating that leaves you lonely at night? You have to take risks. It isn't so much how you esteem yourself but how you treat a woman you're interested in. Take a chance, bongman. Call up a female friend of yours, preferably one who has not seen THCBongman for the sexual-deviant he really is, and spend some time with her. Things don't necessarily have to go according to plan, and all probabilities considered, they probably wont. But it is when that time comes, when silence and insecurity plagues you that you will shine. Will he foil under the pressure, panic at having nothing to say? Or will he remain poised and assured of himself? I fucking hate that game. The best part about it though...you get the chance to build something beautiful, something like birdgirl has. And she would probably do it all over again if she could because she is in love.

[Anubis10012007]

I had a strange realization last night. I was at a concert, and I overheard some chick that kept eyeing me saying "why isn't this guy hitting on me. Tall, handsome, he must be gay." I look around and realized I was the only tall dude around. At that moment, I recollected moments in the past when I was questioned about being gay.Any girl that says that is probably a slut if they EXPECT you to hit on them. I have met some girls that think they are the shit..when in fact...they are shit. Don't let their infidelity get you down.

I am kind of in the same boat as you too. I come across as being gay at times. I have to dress up for work but I usually wear khakis and a metal t-shirt like a Metallica or Slayer one....so I cant really understand why they think I am gay. I agree I do have a feminine side, but that is required of my beliefs...to have the male/female energies in balance.

Sorry, but not every guy likes to service sluts. lol. If that makes them gay, than so be it. Sometimes women with all their bitchiness makes me want to be gay. lol.

[Ganj]

Any girl that says that is probably a slut if they EXPECT you to hit on them. I have met some girls that think they are the shit..when in fact...they are shit. Don't let their infidelity get you down.

I am kind of in the same boat as you too. I come across as being gay at times. I have to dress up for work but I usually wear khakis and a metal t-shirt like a Metallica or Slayer one....so I cant really understand why they think I am gay. I agree I do have a feminine side, but that is required of my beliefs...to have the male/female energies in balance.

Sorry, but not every guy likes to service sluts. lol. If that makes them gay, than so be it. Sometimes women with all their bitchiness makes me want to be gay. lol.

They think just because they're right most of the time it grants them the freedom to bitch all the time. Please!--Bitch all you want. That's not how you get something out of me.

And here's another image to go with those above me. But if I have failed to realize something, then I would hope you could explain to me in a calm, sensible manner why it is you feel I should realize whatever it is I have overlooked. You see, ladies. I'm tamed.

[5016169]

Who cares, honestly. I get that from the alpha male co-workers sometimes. Fuck 'em. Just have another toke and think about enjoyable stuff.

[twoguysupnorth]

now rubber cop dude IS hot. well maybe he isnt but where did you get that bag??

[JD1stTimer]

One thing about girls thinking your gay and a great friend and all that, when they find out you're not, they are not interested in romance (99% of the time that I have seen). Once they see that you can be a friend they come under the belief that you will always be there for them, and they will never have to put out for you. In other words, they find out you're not gay, and they think you are asexual.

[DebuteMachine23]

Dude! This chick was begging you to talk to her! Even though you heard her say it, and still didn't talk to her, you gave her the right to think that!

I'm not trying to diss you, but she surely was trying to get your opinion.

[green leaf]

I have to opposite problem, I get hit on all the time by chicks. I am gay however. I have no clue. However to comment on what GarziLovesMary said previously........."Gay men are the same as straight men in that respect, the only difference being, they actually have romantic feelings of love attached as well." That isn't always the case. Alot of my friends are guys, mostly straight. Just because you are gay doesn't mean that you have romantic feelings for all guys lol. As for hitting on guys that are not gay that is a matter of respect. I would never cross that line with anyone.

[Quantummist]

Toss that Chanel Number 5 and get some Old Spice...

[GraziLovesMary]

I have to opposite problem, I get hit on all the time by chicks. I am gay however. I have no clue. However to comment on what GarziLovesMary said previously........."Gay men are the same as straight men in that respect, the only difference being, they actually have romantic feelings of love attached as well." That isn't always the case. Alot of my friends are guys, mostly straight. Just because you are gay doesn't mean that you have romantic feelings for all guys lol. As for hitting on guys that are not gay that is a matter of respect. I would never cross that line with anyone.

Well, I wasnt trying to imply that gay men are romantically or sexually attracted to all other men, but that the nature of friendship is still the same.

[jdmarcus59]

just walk around and start punching people out lol, JUST KIDDING

[jdmarcus59]

sorry this does not relate, this is to Ganj " IF JIMMY CRACKED CORN AND NO ONE CARES,
THEN WHY IN THE HELL IS THERE A SONG ABOUT IT
I dont no why but I fell of my seat laughing, I love it!!!!!