Everybody thinks I'm gay

[thcbongman]

I had a strange realization last night. I was at a concert, and I overheard some chick that kept eyeing me saying "why isn't this guy hitting on me. Tall, handsome, he must be gay." I look around and realized I was the only tall dude around. At that moment, I recollected moments in the past when I was questioned about being gay.

Then I asked a couple of my female co-workers if I gave off a gay vibe. They said I sorta did, they labeled it "metrosexual." WTF? If I didn't have to dress-up at work, I'd be wearing t-shirt and jeans. One of them says how I carry myself hints of gayness.

That's when I realized, everyone but close family and friends thinks I'm gay. That's just messed up. I don't even do anything that resembles gayness in my opinion. So I maybe shy, and don't approach chicks very often, but that doesn't mean I'm gay! Man, I don't even know what to do!

thcbongman Reviewed by thcbongman on 06-15-2007. Everybody thinks I'm gay I had a strange realization last night. I was at a concert, and I overheard some chick that kept eyeing me saying "why isn't this guy hitting on me. Tall, handsome, he must be gay." I look around and realized I was the only tall dude around. At that moment, I recollected moments in the past when I was questioned about being gay. Then I asked a couple of my female co-workers if I gave off a gay vibe. They said I sorta did, they labeled it "metrosexual." WTF? If I didn't have to Rating: 5

[jdub61]

prove em wrong bucko, don't leave any doubt :rasta:

[Skink]

Teshirt and geans,,,how metro can you get???

[mikeo14]

your title cracks me up

[Delta9 UK]

So?

Sounds like you don't come across as a twat and try and shag everything with a pulse! If that's "Metrosexual" so be it.

pffft! labels!

[GraziLovesMary]

^^ haha you dont mind the label because youre gay! lol but I agree, labels are a joke. Especially ones with such a hazy definition such as "Metrosexual" Its all a joke to me. Sexuality is sexuality who the fuck cares who its geared towards?

THCBongman... I dont know you so I can only guess and generalize, so please tell me where my assumptions have strayed from accuracy.. bear with me:

I sense that you are confused about how they meant "how you carry yourself makes you seem gay" Well it sounds like body language has kicked you in the ass when you werent looking... men whose body language and poise have too many effeminite traits put off a... well... feminine vibe. It has lots to do with many little idiosyncracies about ourselves that we usually dont pay much attention to. Men and women for the most part have very separate and well-defined body language characteristics.

Everything, from how straight or slouched you hold your back, to how you move your ass and shoulders when you walk, to how you swing your arms and place your feet when you walk. Even just how you motion with your hands while talking can have a masculine or feminine cast to the motion, or even the way you tilt your head. All these tiny, sub-conscious movements and many many more (a whole spectrum of facial expressions can cast the light either way) are relatively inconsequential when viewed alone (except for maybe an extreme... like a severely limp wrist lol), but when they all go together to form the big picture, they do much more to cast aspersions on that person character.

I dont tell you this so you can try and "fix" the issue by changing yourself, only so you can understand why, and be satisfied with the answer. There are people who ask me if IM gay, and I am very heterosexual. Not even homophobic in the least... it doesnt even have anything to do with guys.. I just love women too much to ever NOT be attracted to them.

The point isnt whether youre gay or straight, or whether people think youre gay or straight... its that you know what YOU are. Fuck the people who doubt you, just always trust your gut instinct and you will always be happy.


EDIT: I felt it important to add that one of the things women find sexiest and most manly is confidence. People often mistake shyness for lack of interest and often jump conclusions. Work on becoming more outwardly confident if you want to disperse with the accusations.

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Host a giant lesbian gangbang at your house, that'll prove them wrong

[Reefer Rogue]

I don't think you're gay, if that helps lol.

[azure]

pics?

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

So?

Sounds like you don't come across as a twat and try and shag everything with a pulse! If that's "Metrosexual" so be it.

pffft! labels!

Well put! Wish I could hand out rep at this point, but.... well I'll have to give you a raincheck on that one:thumbsup: