Told my mom i smoke!!

[bunnyc]

Ok so the other day we were going over to my grandfathers house to say goodbye to my uncle that came from america,I was extremly sad about saying goodbye because i reall like my uncle(crying...),I hadn't felt shittier for ages.

Before i continue you should all know that i have some family problems between my mother and brother...

So whe are on are way back,everybody's depressed,and my brother starts getting into a major argument with my mother and actually lightly hits her while she was driving!The argument continues for the 40 minute drive and was horrible.
So i was crying and angry because of my uncle leaving and the big argument so it was preety hard.
wE get back and i said to my mom that i was "going for walk"
so she said what "are you going to smoke"(she doesn't no i smoke so it was her being slightly ironic)
And i replied "yes"
she said"why"
I said"to be relaxed"
SHe then asked if i was smoking marijuana and i replied
"yes"
she then said that that was a weak way of dealing with the situation and i said that i didn't care.
So i went out and smoked my joint and came back to see that the argument had escalated.ANYWAY after everything calmed down i had a long chat with her about smoking and saying the benfits...
And she turned out to say that she was ok with me smoking as long as it wasn't to deal with situations and wasn't an everyday habit!

Isn't that cool!

I don't know if anything i wrote is comprehensible because i'm slightly blazed!

[Little Boy]

wow. I actually can relate to this right now a lot cuz my family is having problems with my sister...anyways, I am glad to hear that she is cool with it...just show her that u can keep ur part of the deal and not abuse your privelege for it is a very big one! best of luck with the fam issues, i hate those ! :thumbsup:

[Inferius]

And she's absolutely right.
Daily smokers don't realize that when something Does go wrong, and they still toke up, they're avoiding a part of the process of dealing with it emotionally.

Remember, your uncle will always be with you.

[bunnyc]

Thanks for the replys.
The cool thing is that I won't have to have to woory about her walking into my room and seeing me smoke.
But in respect to my mother i'd rather not smoke in front of her,i thuink i'd feel uncomfortable.
For those of you who have authoirization to smoke do you smoke in front of your parents?

[stoner spirit]

I wouldn't smoke in front of my mom anyways. She knows I smoke, hahaha. Besides... I'm the youngest, and the only blind person in my family. I haven't had any other members of my family ask weird questions about it yet, but I could only imagine.
"where do you get this stuff at?", "But you're blind! How do you know what you ar getting?", "What if they give you something else?" "Who do you get it from?"

[Warheart]

How do you read forums? :wtf:

[Storm Crow]

Warheart, there is a program called "Dragon" that reads the screen for you! We used it at my local community college for blind and severely dyslexic students. -Granny:hippy:

[bunnyc]

Stoner_spirit,id would like to ask you a couple of questions about being blind.
They aren't offending at all but i'm scared to offend you anyway,I've never met a blind persons :

What do blind people see? just darkness? i can't imagine what seeing "nothing" is like.

What do you imagine peole look like? and what do coulors represent to you?
If you haven't seen anything in your whole life how can things be described to you?

[Oneironaut]

How do you read forums? :wtf:
They have computers that read things out loud for the visually impaired.

[NextLineIsMine]

hey stoner spirit, not to pry. But when I get really baked I shut my eyes and see a bunch of colorful geometric patterns, do you see those?

[bunnyc]

Ok i'm soory to say that this story has taken a negative twist:

Since it was a no-school day me and one of my freinds decided to meet up and smoke a joint and then go into paris to buy some clothes.

So i do so,and come back home about 5 hours later(wasn't high at all)With one of my freinds who wasn't high either.This freind of mine doesn't smoke weed on a regular bassis but looks like he's high permanantly.

So he comes by for about 10 mins and then leaves,then my mom kindly asks me if i would like to go eat out and i say "yeah".

So we arrive at the restaurant and my mother says"ohh don't like this restaurant there are to many young people!
I then said quite clearly that that was an extremly stupid thing to say and that she needed to back her opinions up with reasoning.

She out of the blue acted like she was gonna hit me to scare me!
I then said that she had a problem and started raising my voice.

aNYWAY I THEN LET MY MOM AND BROTHER AND FUTURE-STEPFHER EAT BYTHEMSELVES WHILE I WAITED IN THE CAR.
I had then decided (while they had there 2 hour dinner)that i was not going to talk to my mother for a while to teach her to not treat me like she does.

sO WHEN SHE GOT BACK TO THE CAR MY BROTHER STARTED ANOTHER ARGUMENT ONCE AGAIN WHILE I stayed silent,then when there argument calmed down my mom said to me "one thing pot does is give people mood swings" my brother then said"i think you should stop him smoking if he were my son he wouldn't be smoking!" my mom then said"well i'm thinking of doing something about it"I just kept silent and didn't get sucked into the game.

For 1:who is my mom to talk to me about moodswings?
and who's the one changing there minds all the time?
and why did i have to get an asshole big brother that loves arguing?

I'm so angry but i've kept calm the only solution i feel i have is to stop talking to ay of them for quite a while!
any suggestions?*

[Jimbob1310]

how old are you? these storys you tell make it seem like your 8 years old...

[robert42]

sorry bout ur uncle glad ur moms cool hope all is well

[Inferius]

No offense, but you have a lot of maturing to do, as we all do.

Not talking solves nothing, it just implicates that you aren't mature enough to calmy have a conversation and state your feelings and thoughts in a respectful manner. It's passive agressive bs.

Your parents CREATED YOU. Maybe it's time to think about things ya?

[thecreator]

Im gald you came clean to your Mum. I'm sorry about your uncle and what not but he gave you the ultimate parting gift..............A better more honest relationship with your Mum. Cheers Mate I'm truly happy for you.

[bunnyc]

No offense, but you have a lot of maturing to do, as we all do.

Not talking solves nothing, it just implicates that you aren't mature enough to cal my have a conversation and state your feelings and thoughts in a respectful manner. It's passive aggressive bs.

Your parents CREATED YOU. Maybe it's time to think about things ya?"





True,I have got some maturing to do.
But sometimes i do have a calm and respectful conversation with my mother except that she's gets irritated and angry quite quickly. i don't think most people have a mother that acts like she's going to hit you because you contradicted her opinion.Or am i wrong?
Mate,it's easy to reply in a negative manner when you don't really know what the situation is.

But when it comes to thanking my parents for putting me on earth i say no,because i never asked for them to put me on earth,and for now my life hasn't necessarily been heaven.
My mother and father neglected me when i was younger and the consequences are expected:an angry adolescent.

Not long after my last post my brother came in my room and started throwing fists at me.Is that normal? when i ask him why i get told because i deserved it!
So yes i think i have a general right to be angry with my parents and brother.
Peace and love

[ScarlettCrush]

try this...

next time you say something innocuous and she gets very angry with you, do not react to her anger, ask her WHY she is angry at YOU. She may not realize she is taking things out on you, and anyways it kind of sounds like brother and mother need to be on wellbutrin.

If you outed yourself as a smoker, you have to act twice as cool and grown up as you really are to get them to be ok with it and prove it's ok for you to do. Testify.

[Whos Carl]

They have computers that read things out loud for the visually impaired.

How the fuck does that work in public when reading a cannabis forum? I can just imagine the faces on library staff everywhere.

[stonedblue]

I told my mom a while ago. While I wasn't argueing. I just told her. And its cool with her. I suggest everyone does this. She said it was fine as long as i wasn't getting into drugs that actually hurt you or I become a complete idiot. Now, if i get caught smoking, it won't come as a surprise, and she won't care. I just told her the reasons I smoke and she said it was fine.

Yay!

[slipknotpsycho]

these are the reason i always tell everyoen to just come clean to their parents...

i mean your parents aren't idiots, THEY KNOW... if they don't, then you must've just started.... it's not hard to put two and two together...

more good generally stands from coming clean then bad...

sure they could flip out on you if you tell them, but parents are always flipping out on their kids even if they haven't admitted to it... if you tell 'em, you may just get lucky enough to get a parent like the above, so you don' thave to run around hiding it anymore...

[Storm Crow]

Carl, honey, many of us have home computers and don't have parents looking over our shoulders. We don't need the library's computers. Dragon is an expensive program and unless you really need it, you likely won't buy it. I imagine that Stoner_Spirit just uses his (her?) own computer at home with Dragon or some other similar program. And as far as I know, as long as it is not porn or terrorism, the library has little to say about what you are viewing. You could be doing research for a report in "Health" Class.

[RUTBpiping]

Shit happens be cool and mature and you will be fine.My mum knows that i smoke she isn't happy about it,she said so long as i don't smoke it in the house or bring it in the house she will be fine.


I think coming out on your own terms is more hassle than its worth.If they find out then deal with it.

You got to understand decades and decades of hysteria makes dealing with this in a rational way very hard and its going to be a long road till she trusts you again (somehow making a personal choice is seen as dishonest?!).