Fiending friend

[NextLineIsMine]

I have no qualms with people toking everyday, I do for most of the year.

My friend has of recent gone overboard, hes come to believe he is some all knowing guru and tries to impart his non-sensical wisdom on me frequently now. ALL that he does on weekends is drive places, smoke at them, ramble, then find another place to repeat the process. A buddy and I tried to get him to at least do something other than smoke weed so we go rock climbing and he claims he has no cash then blows seventy dollars on edibles at the club the next day.

How do I talk to him about this without seeming like a hypocrite considering I toke daily?

[BakedDaily0420]

I would just let him toke all day everyday like me:thumbsup:

[ToDrunkToFish]

I had a couple friends like that. I dont talk to em much anymore. Either they realize its too much and calm down or they just wont change and think everyones out to get them and just get all pissy.

Tell him its not his fuckin life. You toke daily because you got the resources. And theres nothin wrong with that I do it too. He goes outa his way to get em it seems. Or just keep askin to hang out and shit and if he's always askin for weed, or to smoke talk about it then or somthin. Or keep doin shit that would cut-into his 'weed' time and if it becomes a problem be like Dude, cut this shit out and show him examples.

I kinda used to be like that when I dealt small. But after I got on probation and quit cold turkey. I realized weed will be there tommorow. The next day, and the day after that. So stfu and be sober and deal with it. If you cant then you got a problem.

[weedmaster]

i smoke 24/7 but don't think it's a good thing to just smoke and couch,i'm very active and cant just sit about, you should never let weed take over your life, it should be a nice enhancement not your whole life.

[BakedDaily0420]

Very true weedmaster!

[MinusRyan]

Smack him across the face while hes blazed. Then tell him your the gingerbread man and take a shit on his lap. then run out the door screaming "BLOODY FUCKING MURDER".

[LIP]

It sounds like the weed's controlling him - and that's not good.
The only time drugs become a problem is when they control you, not the other way round.

Talk to him as a mate and try and get him to cut down - maybe a joint with every meal -

[Nochowderforyou]

I'd just talk to him, but don't get mad or controlling. All you can do is suggest. You can't tell him what to do.

On a side note though, I too smoke weed, if no one knew, I know, big surprise, and I live a very active lifestyle.

[JOINTMASTER5]

those r the kids tha become geniouses, let him toke, and stop judging others

[Ganj]

i don't think you can become a genius. that capacity to learn is usually inherited. i find your concern isn't with your friends "problem," but rather his attitude as you complain that his self-importance is excessive. if his words really annoy you, then challenge him. when he attempts to instill his mighty commandments on you, simply express your distaste for his disparaging comments. tell him something directly, don't play games. a point should be at the end of the line, despite how cruelly and monotonously you disparage him. if you can help then you should do so sincerely, and not cripple him anymore than he's done to himself.

[Purple Banana]

Yeah, smoking every day is not a problem until it stops being a habit, and becomes a fixture on your daily life. If you confront him, odds are, he's going to get defensive and think you're accusing him of smoking too much, even if he thinks he can handle it... He's gonna have to wake up and realize he's wasting his life away if he keeps replacing healthy activity with smoking weed.

Good luck, though! :thumbsup:

[Uncle E]

Smack him across the face while hes blazed. Then tell him your the gingerbread man and take a shit on his lap. then run out the door screaming "BLOODY FUCKING MURDER".


I agree this should work...

[Reefer Rogue]

Don't expect an instant change, have patience. Personally, i don't see his behavior too bad...

I know you want to help him or whatever, but ultimately it's his life, let him live it his way if he doesn't want to change to suit your tastes.

[JOINTMASTER5]

hes a mothfuckin genious

[GHoSToKeR]

My advice is to quit trying to change your friends, just accept them for who they are. If you can't do that, find different friends. One thing that people don't often realise is that you'll rarely meet somebody that you like in absolutely way. Especially once you become close friends with someone, you'll notice their little idiocyncrasies alot more and they may even start to bug you. If you can't learn to live with the way your friends are, it's not their fault, unless they're just being a jerk.

[Its a Plant]

Haha is this the same fiend from THIS (http://boards.cannabis.com/cannabis-com-lounge/91898-my-fiendish-friend.html) thread?

This guy must get on your nerves..

Tell him what's on your mind...or don't and live your life. He needs to learn his own lessons anyways. ~

[slipknotpsycho]

honestly i don't think there is a way to get it through to him...

just tell him you don't just wanna smoke the days away and sit there, and that's what he wants to do, and if he ever decides to do something else to call you up, but otherwise, you have no desire to really be around him anymore.

[Ganj]

i believe that part of friendship is loyalty to their idiosyncrasies. after all, a friend is one, with whom you do not have to work to get what you want. you simply ask.

[orangeman]

Tell him to stop being so full of him self and take his ego down a few levels.

[Ganj]

Tell him to stop being so full of him self and take his ego down a few levels.

Are you saying you're humble?

[halo]

Smack him across the face while hes blazed. Then tell him your the gingerbread man and take a shit on his lap. then run out the door screaming "BLOODY FUCKING MURDER".

Dude that was the funniest thing ever ROFLMFAO!!!!

Good idea seriously.

[suhl]

dont hang out with him if you dont like it. it is his money if he wants to spend it all on weed thats his choice. he may be a piece of shit but its his life.

[NextLineIsMine]

after your advice I think ill just leave him be. Its not so much him always toking but the fact he used to be a popular guy and has become more and more reclusive.

[BakedDaily0420]

haha being popular is only important when ur in high school, who cares really. Being friends with everybody weather there popular or not is the goal.

[User Name Here]

He obviously knows what he's doing, He'll get depressed one day when hes high and will change.

[crystallinesheen]

God, those insane ramblers just aggravate me, especially those types that think that they are the next Socrates. I worked with a dude like that, what a jackass. He wound up getting fired because no one could stand him....plus he was, quite simply, a fucktard who would eat food off of customer's plates after they were done, would ring up someone and forget to serve them their purchased items, and would pathetically try to pick up underage girls that would come into our restaurant. (He was like 22 or something) Just slap the guy a good one.:rambohead:

[MinusRyan]

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[napolitana869]

maybe he's just going through a phase. Hopefully he'll come around soon

[bobbygreenbear]

you should never let weed take over your life, it should be a nice enhancement not your whole life.


i think this should be written in stone as cannabis-scripture

you're right on; there are worse things that could dominate your life, but if weed is your whole life, i think you'll be dissapointed

btw OP, rock climbing, good for you, i love climbing