Quote Originally Posted by EE2000
Hi,

What do you do, when you know someone that you love and care about is dying? When you know that they are not going to get better, and all you can do is wait for the phone to ring and the person on the other end is telling you that the person died.


I am having a hard time dealing with the knowledge that my dad is dying and that there is nothing that I can do. I am hundreds of miles away and I can't miss any more work to be with him, I can miss work just cant afford it.

Just was wondering if anyone here has experienced anything like this, and what helped you?

Well first of all I'm very sorry to hear that.

One day when I was 11, my dad and I were driving around and he parked on the side of the road and gave me his phone and told me to call for help, and collapsed on the steering wheel. I was freaking out but I called 911 anyway. My dad was taken to the hospital and had a blood transfusion. That day we learned that he had some kind of uncurable Anemia..

Anyway, about a week later he died. And just like you, I was waiting for that phone call...


At the time, it was impossible for me to realize that he would not come back, I wouldn't believe it. I guess that's what we call Denial. Anyway, after hours and hours of crying after that phone call...I realized that there was nothing I could do about it. So I accepted it.
My dad always told me he'd be with me, physically or through energy after he'd pass away. I have always used his energy to help me overcoming certain situations...When I fear something or someone and can't get myself to do it, I think of my dad, and I ask him to help me. It gives me an unbelievable jolt of strength and courage everytime.

Always remember that even if he's gone, his love will always and forever be with you.


Much courage to you my friend! And if there's anything I learned in my lifetime too, it's that miracles DO happen! So stay strong!


On another note, one thing that helped me when he died was starting to smoke weed. heheh :thumbsup: