Waiting for death.

[napolitana869]

as far as talking to someone goes maybe you should talk to other family members. They're going through the same thing you. There isnt really anything that anyone can say to make you feel better right now, but you talking to other people and getting your emotions out can help. This is not the time to bottle that stuff up. Good luck.

napolitana869 Reviewed by napolitana869 on 03-14-2007. Waiting for death. Hi, What do you do, when you know someone that you love and care about is dying? When you know that they are not going to get better, and all you can do is wait for the phone to ring and the person on the other end is telling you that the person died. I am having a hard time dealing with the knowledge that my dad is dying and that there is nothing that I can do. I am hundreds of miles away and I can't miss any more work to be with him, I can miss work just cant afford it. Just Rating: 5

[Demeter]

EE2000 this is a very hard thing you are going through, and many people who have gone through similar experiences have found writing helpful- you could write a letter to him, and either mail it or not. Make the most of the time you have left, whether in person, email, or letters, and understand that there is only so much that you can do. Take care-

[Coelho]

im very sorry to read this... my mom will have a surgery tomorrow, and im worried, cause i had some bad feelings towards it, so i think i know how you feel...
anyway, try to be with him as soon you can. even if you have to spend money. remember, no money in this world can bring him back if he dies, so, stay with him regardless money, and im sure later you will be glad for doing this.
my best wishes for you and him.

PS. Traveling by car is somewhat tiresome, but not impossible. My family used to come here where my grandparents (and now me too) live, and was 14-15 hours of drive. Hard, but definitively not impossible. Good luck! :thumbsup:

[EE2000]

im very sorry to read this... my mom will have a surgery tomorrow, and im worried, cause i had some bad feelings towards it, so i think i know how you feel...
anyway, try to be with him as soon you can. even if you have to spend money. remember, no money in this world can bring him back if he dies, so, stay with him regardless money, and im sure later you will be glad for doing this.
my best wishes for you and him.

PS. Traveling by car is somewhat tiresome, but not impossible. My family used to come here where my grandparents (and now me too) live, and was 14-15 hours of drive. Hard, but definitively not impossible. Good luck! :thumbsup:

I hope that your mom makes it through ok.

Yes traveling by car is tiresome, but I really would not like it if I had to drive there alone. My SO is already in GA ( same state my dad lives in ) because of his job but that is 5 hours away from my dad and its about 10 or so hours from me since im in Northern Virginia.

But as it is now, my dad seems to be a bit better last night, so hopefully they will be able to get him moving to help walk on his on again, but I don't know.

[CanaDanKs Inc.]

Hi,

What do you do, when you know someone that you love and care about is dying? When you know that they are not going to get better, and all you can do is wait for the phone to ring and the person on the other end is telling you that the person died.


I am having a hard time dealing with the knowledge that my dad is dying and that there is nothing that I can do. I am hundreds of miles away and I can't miss any more work to be with him, I can miss work just cant afford it.

Just was wondering if anyone here has experienced anything like this, and what helped you?

Well first of all I'm very sorry to hear that.

One day when I was 11, my dad and I were driving around and he parked on the side of the road and gave me his phone and told me to call for help, and collapsed on the steering wheel. I was freaking out but I called 911 anyway. My dad was taken to the hospital and had a blood transfusion. That day we learned that he had some kind of uncurable Anemia..

Anyway, about a week later he died. And just like you, I was waiting for that phone call...


At the time, it was impossible for me to realize that he would not come back, I wouldn't believe it. I guess that's what we call Denial. Anyway, after hours and hours of crying after that phone call...I realized that there was nothing I could do about it. So I accepted it.
My dad always told me he'd be with me, physically or through energy after he'd pass away. I have always used his energy to help me overcoming certain situations...When I fear something or someone and can't get myself to do it, I think of my dad, and I ask him to help me. It gives me an unbelievable jolt of strength and courage everytime.

Always remember that even if he's gone, his love will always and forever be with you.


Much courage to you my friend! And if there's anything I learned in my lifetime too, it's that miracles DO happen! So stay strong!


On another note, one thing that helped me when he died was starting to smoke weed. heheh :thumbsup:

[EE2000]

Well first of all I'm very sorry to hear that.

One day when I was 11, my dad and I were driving around and he parked on the side of the road and gave me his phone and told me to call for help, and collapsed on the steering wheel. I was freaking out but I called 911 anyway. My dad was taken to the hospital and had a blood transfusion. That day we learned that he had some kind of uncurable Anemia..

Anyway, about a week later he died. And just like you, I was waiting for that phone call...


At the time, it was impossible for me to realize that he would not come back, I wouldn't believe it. I guess that's what we call Denial. Anyway, after hours and hours of crying after that phone call...I realized that there was nothing I could do about it. So I accepted it.
My dad always told me he'd be with me, physically or through energy after he'd pass away. I have always used his energy to help me overcoming certain situations...When I fear something or someone and can't get myself to do it, I think of my dad, and I ask him to help me. It gives me an unbelievable jolt of strength and courage everytime.

Always remember that even if he's gone, his love will always and forever be with you.


Much courage to you my friend! And if there's anything I learned in my lifetime too, it's that miracles DO happen! So stay strong!


On another note, one thing that helped me when he died was starting to smoke weed. heheh :thumbsup:

That was very sweet, thankyou for sharing it with me. I am sorry that you lost your dad when you were younger, atleast you were comforted by his words.

Peace:rasta:

[PharmaCan]

If you want to feel better about this whole situation, try making your dad feel better during his last days of life. The knowledge that you brought joy to his final days will give you a snese of peace about his dying.

Call your dad, every day, tell him that you love him, tell him that he was the greatest dad in the world. Remind him of things the two of you did together when you were younger, the fishing trip, Disneyland, whatever. Recount your experiences step by step. But call him every day; it will mean a lot to him.

Look, life is a terminal condition. No one gets out alive. Your dad knows he is dying. The nicest thing you could do for him right now is to make him feel that he was a success at the most important job of his life - being a father.

By all means, visit him as soon you can. You'll be kicking yourself in the ass for a long time if you don't