I have lost, I find I need to stay sober and clear the situation, such as if there was fowl play, I usualy do smoke with some family members but only to remember not forget. And only when everyone(who smokes) is ready usuly while we fill the hole or right after. In my family it is tradition to burry our own, the women usuly handle the makeup, food, hosting, and the men usulay handel the digging, Pallbering, masses, burryal, notifying. I usualy have an uneasy stomach, quick or short fuse and other weird symtoms for about a week or two after everything is done, sometimes smoking helps sometimes it makes it worse.imp: