Children grow up to be adults, Breuk. That was my most basic point, and you let it whiz right by you.

I never said it was your family that caused you the abusive pain; you've said that was religiously connected, but that certainly still counts as pain. The out-of-balance was, as you've mentioned several times, in the way you were parented, especially the largely female influence. I'm not saying you've whined about this. You haven't. It's simply information you've volunteered, perhaps more than you realized. (Same reason I added celiac sprue there to the cures that the instant, never-children adults will cure.)