Having a hard time with my mom

[MagicalHerb]

shes an amazing mom because she is always there for me. but as a person she is shit. utter complete shit. she is absolutely closed off to any and all of my thoughts, im sure because she doesnt like what i have to say. what i have to say to her is constructive criticism, but she is to blinded by anger and delusions of respect and age to see that. she takes humongous offense to anything i have to say that is negative about her and she should try to change. she becomes shut off to me and her anger builds up and up and up until she explodes in a screaming rage (which doent take very long, a few minutes at the most)
i try to explain she has my unconditional respect as a mother, for always being there to care for me. and i tried to explain how she doesnt yet have my full, conditional respect until shes willing to make some changes. i even pointed out to her that if she was willing to make some changes for me, i could make some for her. she raged when she heard that and slammed doors in my face and stuff. of course i couldnt give up on her though, shes my mom! and i know she needs my help, i can see it as clear as day that she has alot of issues going on that she is in total denial of. i just want her to be happy and she wont let me!
like i said, all of my advice is just insults from me trying to bring her down. i tried so many ways, every way i could think of at the time to explain to her how i felt and how we would both be so much happier if she relieved herself of these constrictions of her mind and allowed herself to be open with me and me with her. of course, she just took offence..

i dont know what the point of this is except that i desperately need to vent
what the hell can i do??

by the way i just adore how my dad comes in and tells me "you should be absolutely ashamed of yourself, thats all i have to say"

i just cant see from her perspective, i understand it though and i see how she works clearly i think. but her view is totally alien to me, she believes in control..
what the fuck is up with them? all i can do is wrong, my mom even told me she hated me and that she doesnt deserve to have such a fuckup son.\
what the HELL can i do?

MagicalHerb Reviewed by MagicalHerb on 03-08-2007. Having a hard time with my mom shes an amazing mom because she is always there for me. but as a person she is shit. utter complete shit. she is absolutely closed off to any and all of my thoughts, im sure because she doesnt like what i have to say. what i have to say to her is constructive criticism, but she is to blinded by anger and delusions of respect and age to see that. she takes humongous offense to anything i have to say that is negative about her and she should try to change. she becomes shut off to me and her anger Rating: 5

[stinkyattic]

OMG I am so sick of seeing this kind of shit.
Boo hoo.... everyones' parents are sooooo terrible....

Guess what.
Moms don't like (or need) to take 'constructive criticism' from teenagers. Maybe when you get out of the house and she starts looking at you like an adult, you can change your relationship to include those sorts of discussions. But take it from someone twice your age, it's going to be YEARS before you get to that point... until then, enjoy the fact that she is there for you, because that's more than a lot of kids get.

[StrwbrryFldsFrvr]

GOOO STINKY

[stinkyattic]

GOOO STINKY

GOOO? Good, or BOOO!?
hahahaha

[dusto2k3]

Just wait until your are in a parenting role or are a parent yourself. Then maybe you can appreciate them for what they've done/are doing/will do for you.

[dusto2k3]

GOOO? Good,
hahahaha

i tend to see this one.

[MagicalHerb]

OMG I am so sick of seeing this kind of shit.
Boo hoo.... everyones' parents are sooooo terrible....

Guess what.
Moms don't like (or need) to take 'constructive criticism' from teenagers. Maybe when you get out of the house and she starts looking at you like an adult, you can change your relationship to include those sorts of discussions. But take it from someone twice your age, it's going to be YEARS before you get to that point... until then, enjoy the fact that she is there for you, because that's more than a lot of kids get.

if your so sick of it then dont read and respond. if you can honestly tell me im doing something "wrong" then you are a fool. fuck being an adult and fuck being a teenager because we are ALL people and we all have issues that somebody can help us with. all these dumb distinctions of age and race and religion are what is preventing us from the greater truth. did you even read the whole post? my mom isnt a terrible mom she is wonderful! but she has alot of issues, terrible ones.
anyways stop being a smartass sarcastic to me, your no better then me or anyone else.

Just wait until your are in a parenting role or are a parent yourself. Then maybe you can appreciate them for what they've done/are doing/will do for you.

dont you understand i do? my mom has sacraficed everything for me and it makes me sick that she does that and i a just trying to help her regain her old, happy life back. i tried every way i know how to do that and nothing worked. im sure someone has to be like me enough here to understand how absolutely frustrating this is!

[stinkyattic]

my mom isnt a terrible mom she is wonderful! but she has alot of issues, terrible ones.

? my mom has sacraficed everything for me

Well if she is such a great mom, maybe you should have headed your thread with, "I'm worried about my mom" or "My mom needs to start putting her own needs first" instead of having the good stuff buried in the body of the post (which yes, I DID read in its entirety) under the heading that basically says she's a shithead.

anyways stop being a smartass sarcastic to me, your no better then me or anyone else.

At least I have a little family loyalty not to go smearing my mom on the internet... we had our differences, just like everyone else....sheesh...

You look like a brat, posting this stuff.

[FreeVenice]

My mom can be a know it all at times, but other than that I think she's to good for me. . .She deserved to raise a kid with alot more motivation. . .

[MagicalHerb]

Well if she is such a great mom, maybe you should have headed your thread with, "I'm worried about my mom" or "My mom needs to start putting her own needs first" instead of having the good stuff buried in the body of the post (which yes, I DID read in its entirety) under the heading that basically says she's a shithead.

yeah i know your totally right i was just sort of mentally clouded with frustration when i wrote it and wasnt thinking when i wrote it. it does seem pretty assonine though now that i look it it again.

At least I have a little family loyalty not to go smearing my mom on the internet... we had our differences, just like everyone else....sheesh...

im not "smearing" my mom (if by smearing you mean ragging on, ive never heard it put that way before). i was looking to vent to other humans, and maybe get some friendly advice on what to do because its in our psychology to do so. im home sick and i couldnt talk to my friends or girlfriend, theyre in school, so i thought this was a safe place to do so.

You look like a brat, posting this stuff.

i dont think brat was the right word there. in fact that was just an unneccesary statement, straight up rude. i dont care about what you think of me anyways, there isnt much i can do aside from sucking up thats gonna change it. and i dont think id very much like to do that.

ok but no hard feelings though? im attempting to fit in and it usually doesnt work in the real world. i want a place where i can come to share information, learn and vent to people. now tell me if im wrong, but isnt this a good place for that?