Having a hard time with my mom

[suhl]

i am not a wise old man but here is what i have learned. if someone who is significantly younger than me tries to find faults in me and tell me how to be a better person, they dont have a damn clue what they are talking about. and if they try to act all enlightened and wise about it, which your post gave me the impression you have done that, then it is just going to piss me off. and if you are insulting your mother it is you who be the terrible person show some fucking respect you little brat.

oh yeah, and try writing her a letter. you think that will fix things you are delusional. try acting like a better person. also if what she is so close minded about is your curfew time, your grades, you smoking or drinking or any shit like that, then you are just a whiny little pussy because that is how 95% of good parents are.

[MagicalHerb]

i am not a wise old man but here is what i have learned. if someone who is significantly younger than me tries to find faults in me and tell me how to be a better person, they dont have a damn clue what they are talking about. and if they try to act all enlightened and wise about it, which your post gave me the impression you have done that, then it is just going to piss me off. and if you are insulting your mother it is you who be the terrible person show some fucking respect you little brat.

oh yeah, and try writing her a letter. you think that will fix things you are delusional. try acting like a better person. also if what she is so close minded about is your curfew time, your grades, you smoking or drinking or any shit like that, then you are just a whiny little pussy because that is how 95% of good parents are.

alright man you are one cool guy :thumbsup: im glad you can think up such good things to say as a "whiney little pussy" thats helpful to EVERYONE! =D
dude, you are pathetic! like i said before if you dont like what i have to say then dont read or respond. im not even going to take what you said into consideration, because you wrote it like a total jackass and i dont trust jackasses with important decisions. if you want to get a point across to someone, you have to tell it to them in a way thats going to make them want to listen. even I know that. im also fairly sure you dont know what your talking about, and even if you think you do its total bs to me so i dont really care either way.
anyways i dont think you took the time to read the whole thread either. if you did youd realise im not one of those stupid kids who goes insane on his mom for taking his weed, or something like that.
is it possible for a mod to change the title to something less aggressive, so i dont get all these ritchous people in here flaming me?

MagicalHerb,
Try writing to her. If things tend to get heated and screaming matches tend to start when you discuss things--or attempt to--try putting your feelings down on paper or monitor instead. It's never ideal to try and discuss things when either party is hot and emotional because the issues really never get dealt with--only the emotion, which tends to escalate if it's already at high levels.

Anyone ever teach you or your mom about "I" language? It's a way of expressing your own feelings and thoughts that helps not put someone else on the defensive. "Mom, I feel angry when you . . ." . That gets you out of the "You are pissing me off, Mom" loop, believe it or not, and helps you take responsibility for the only part of the debate and the resulting responses you can control, which is your end of it. Here's a link. Arguing constructively is not easy to do, especially when you both need work on your communications skills, but it's worth practicing.
Using I Language - Marriage - Families.com

Good luck! If all else fails, take a break from her, come back later when you're both cooler, and, somewhere deep down, try to always remember that there's also good with the bad. StinkyAttic's exactly right that, even though y'all argue, it appears your mom has hung in there with you, which is more than a lot of kids can say. If y'all feel anything like my son and I do about one another, I suspect that deep down you love each other a great deal. The arguments wouldn't be so passionate if you didn't!

you really know what your talking about, thank you so much! its nice that some people take pleasure in helping others..

[birdgirl73]

is it possible for a mod to change the title to something less aggressive, so i dont get all these ritchous people in here flaming me?

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you really know what your talking about, thank you so much! its nice that some people take pleasure in helping others..

It's not only possible, it was a pleasure to do that--in respect for moms and kids everywhere.

You're quite welcome, by the way. That word, incidentally, is "righteous."

[Skink]

Yup your confused... Mom loves you and you love her,,,so leave it there for a while till something really important comes up ,,,like your first car...

[Reefer Rogue]

The answer is simple: Go on a talk show.

[dusto2k3]

Jerry Springer, or for thoes who remember, Richard Bay.

[Reefer Rogue]

I was thinking more of Montel, Ricky or Sally, those kinda cats.

[foxysox]

MEh, on talk shows, EVERYONE comes off looking like ignorant fuckups who can't handle their business.

[Nochowderforyou]

OMG I am so sick of seeing this kind of shit.
Boo hoo.... everyones' parents are sooooo terrible....

Guess what.
Moms don't like (or need) to take 'constructive criticism' from teenagers. Maybe when you get out of the house and she starts looking at you like an adult, you can change your relationship to include those sorts of discussions. But take it from someone twice your age, it's going to be YEARS before you get to that point... until then, enjoy the fact that she is there for you, because that's more than a lot of kids get.

Whoo-hoo! Nice. :thumbsup:

I'll just say at least you have a mother. Think about those who don't, and don't take it for granted. You only get one mother, and when she's gone, you'll be kicking yourself over trivial, small things like this.

[Skink]

Good point Chowder... I think the poster realizes how speacial Mom is,,, it's just he is at a stage where he can't get over and it's killing him...