my current situation

[napolitana869]

if the husband is still paying the rent my guess is that he's planning on coming back, even if she doesnt want him to. I hope you're ready for an angry and abusive husband to come and try to kill you. You're situation doesnt sound like theres a lot of hope right now, even if right now you feel like she's "the one". How long have the two of you been together?

[Breukelen advocaat]

if the husband is still paying the rent my guess is that he's planning on coming back, even if she doesnt want him to. I hope you're ready for an angry and abusive husband to come and try to kill you. You're situation doesnt sound like theres a lot of hope right now, even if right now you feel like she's "the one". How long have the two of you been together?

If the husband, or one of his friends, reads this board, he may be on his way there right now. There is certainly enough info here to remove any doubt as to his wife's identity, that she has a young lover, and what they've been up to - with his financial support. Who could blame him?

[dusto2k3]

I see it like Crack, yeah, it might be fun but its hella bad for you. And it will bring you down in the end.

Here's one thing that always stuck in my head. Your only 18 and now are making $12, maybe, if you are a hard worker (sounds like not, no job no school) then you can make 15 in that factory. You need to focus on yourself. You need to make your future brighter or at least hopeful before you should even try and do the irresponsible thing and bring that girl and kids down with you. With no foundation, how can you hope to support 3, maybe 4. Also, what kind of decisions is she making, harboring a 18 y/o with no job and lalala.

Sounds like there are some psych issues going on with her, and maybe you.

Is this your first taste of some pussy or what. Sounds like your pussy whipped?

[Storm Crow]

Ok, you are not in a good situation. The ex is using the rent money to keep his hold on her. You're 18, she's 25. First off that is close to the age difference between my husband and I (he's 65, I'm 59). Our culture expects that, in a marriage, the male should be older than the female- and you never see anyone gripe about that, do you! A man can be marrying a gal young enough to be his daughter (or granddaughter in some cases) as a "trophy wife" and all you get is "more power to him!". (Check your own bias in this matter- what is your reaction to, say, a woman in her 50s marrying a man in his 20s? I bet 9 out of 10 of you would go "What does he see in her?" or even "Eeewww, gross!" Reverse the genders and the reaction is usually quite different. Be honest!)

Age should not be such a factor when it comes to matters of the heart. You're 18 and a drop-out - that worries me more than the age thing. I'm glad you plan to get a GED. My son, who is 32 and a computer genius, has a GED and works for the county schools. (You can get a pretty fair job with just a GED, it's just harder.)

My basic advice is get a job- any job (they always need dishwashers and fast food servers), both of you move to a cheaper place (even if it is more crowded) and stop taking the A-hole's money. As long as she takes it, he has a hold on her and he may be in financial trouble (or he may be "playing games" to mess with her head), so he is no longer a reliable source of income. Life is not going to be easy, but love can smooth things a lot. If you are really committed to this woman, you can do it. Give the kids a hug from me and good luck!- Granny:hippy: