If I was different, would you like me more?

[4252]

Pretty Girl,

No matter how good or worthy a person you are, you'll be able to find plenty of those who will want to tell you otherwise and make you feel less than acceptable. Remember that guy they nailed to a cross? You have but one obligation; to develop your potential. We're dealing with opinions here, and like assholes, everybody has one. If you have too low a self esteem, you're at the mercy of anyone who wants to hurt you with unkind words & deeds. If your self esteem is too high, then you'll probably come across as a boorish ass who nobody can stand to be around. The secret to life is balance.

I've got a hunch you've been told way too much that you're inadequate; too fat, too thin, too blonde, or whatever. Understand that the world is a hostile place, in reality, and that your best hope of a rewarding life is through strength, understanding, and self discipline. Do you know the principle behind martial arts such as judo? It's simple; your strength against your opponents weakness. Another guess is that you're leading with your face; stop it.

I'm new here, but I've already picked up that you're a creative person. Do you realize that in the entertainment business image and egocentricity are the main factors, with talent a distant 3rd place, in this society? A thick skin is an essential requirement.

Diatribe is almost over. I'm also advising that you actually listen. Amid all the insults there's often a clue to how you can improve yourself, even if it's only to shut someone up sometimes. Just don't take people too seriously, they're as insecure as you are, they just don't want to admit it.

Get out of the attic and experience life. I think you'll find that the more you accomplish and experience, the more confident you'll be.

Good luck.

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4252 Reviewed by 4252 on 12-09-2004. If I was different, would you like me more? Lmao, I feel annoying. Sorry everyone if you think I am -- can't help it...it dwells deep within my personality... Rating: 5

[Ammie]

take it from me caring what people think about u is just to much stress. I did it for to long, and it almost killed me. I dont want to see the same thing happen to u. U have a very wild and crazy life for sumone that is so young. U need to just slow down and start being ur age. Stop tryin to grow up so fast and start living life honestly without the stealing and all the craziness. U have a good heart i can see that in some of the post u write to people. U need to get away from that loser boyfriend also. He is no good for u and he is just goin to drag u down. So maybe its a good thing u might be moving away. U will have a freash start and u will be able to get on with ur life. Try not to make the same mistakes that ur tryin to get over now. I was almost exactly like u when was ur age and ur lifestyle scares me. It didnt turn out to well for me and i really dont want to see u go thru it. Just wake up babe get ur head on stright and be who u are. If u need anything u can look for me. Im always in chat and my email is [email protected] good luck sweety with whatever u decided and dont worry u fit here and we all love u !!





exspecially the boys

[GooseBear]

cheeched ammie nailed it on the head!!!! I think you maybe are lashing out (I know you had that post about fighting with your mom) Just remember you have whole life ahead of you (jeez I can't give to much advice I'm only 19 but I have alittle?) I mean just think where you music could go? You have college to go too. You can make a nice home for yourself in SD I mean everything will fall into place. Slow down crazy gurl!!! I know I haven't really introduced myself to you yet but HI I'm from Iowa but live in Minnesota!! MN people are special!! I got to college and am just realizing that I actually don't like fitting in with the mainstream. I have my friends and they know what is important and other people are just judgemental stupid lemon heads
I like what Zarathustra said!
oka I'm rambling

[4252]

Wow, I stepped away for a cup of tea and a quick think, and Ammie & the Goosebear beat me to the punch here.

I came back to clarify what I said about experiencing life; I didn't mean robbing banks or getting wild or anything like that. Sorry, I realized too late that if it was misunderstood it could do more harm than good.

Another point I wanted to make regarding losers, but again, Ammie got there ahead of me.

Best,
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[The C]

Hey your a hottie, you got that gogin for you, everything esle is a growing experience, don't be so hard on yourself, nobody's perfect. You don't have to own a lambourghi and own a big house to be the shit! It's all about whats going on in your head, all esle is a distraction. Somtimes a naggin painful one. But you gotta say hey, I'm gonna really experieince life and try to just be the best you can be, not perfect, but aim for the happiest to start off.
For whatever my tidbit is worth



Women Who Run with the Wolves' by Clarissa Pinkola Estes phd

If you try to mould your personality to suit and please all people you'll just end up being a declawed version of yourself, a Lady-woman, devoid of selfworth and too unsure of your own feelings to ever be truly at ease in your own skin.


Mabe i should buy this book... looks like i can learn form it.
Shit i have problems.........
So im not buying this book because i don't want to admit i have them.
Cause im just soooo coool!

... I want Claws.

[koshea]

to be honest and quite outspoken with no regards for you feelings (which is very unlike me)....i think you are annoying and i think you are an over-exaggerating liar. but this dosent mean i dont like you. you sometimes have very knowlageable posts and what not.

the end.

[The C]

What? Are you serious?
A liar?

Fine we'll i guess thats your porogative and i hope your wrong. But fuck that, i'm not going to feel bad over what somone over there, especailly if thier wrong.

What have a lied or exaggerated about?
To be fair it would be nice if i had a chance to defend myself.

[koshea]

not you c, i was referring to cheeched chick

[XTC]

Hey Cheech I do not want to stop on any toes, but I have read your past posts on this board, but I think you really need to take a look at yourself in the mirror and stop fucking up your life. Every other posts seems like your getting in deeper and deeper trouble. You seem like a nice girl, but you keep making dumb decisions. And you say this is a "growing" experience. Your growing experience might end you up in jail in some kind of harm eventually. Try to make new friends talk to someone your really trust, hell if you need to talk to a counseler if you really need to......

[koshea]

see xtc, honestly, i think she dosent get in as much trouble as she says. its like she names all of these insane situations and they all end up having absolutley no repurcussions. i believe she does hard drugs and gets in trouble, but not to the extent in which she wants us to believe