if it grows like little white sticky hairs is fem and it grows little balls on inner stiem it is a male.and out side u really cant keep small in less u lst witch after 3 set of leave take a u shape piece oif like metal hanger and bend in a u and then very carfully bend plant down about 2inches from ground and place metal u ilast and seconde to last set of leaves then do that about evry 3 or 4 set of leaves then the bottom of the plant will start to grow better and up nthen u will have more cola's witch is top buds