In the spirit of ballsy honesty...

[stinkyattic]

... after the Yeag went out on a limb yesterday and posted that thing in the general lounge, I was feeling all warm and fuzzy and like it was time to get a bunch of shit off my chest.

Let me start by saying, sweetie, you're an inspiration to me.

So last night I had dinner with my dad.
I ADORE my father. He's a great guy.

I posted a long time ago about how he stumbled across my ez cloner -FULL - last time he was in town visiting. And of course I laughed it off, shut the closet door, changed the subject, and suggested that we go have a look at some stupid problem with some shit in my basement, whatever, I forget.

Well, I've been really worried about breaking the good news about me and Yeag to my dad... I was dreading the conversation...
"so how did you guys meet?"
"ummmm ... on a gardening website.... yeeeeeah... that's it...."
But of course that's a bit fucked up; I mean, seriously, I already told my old boss about my grow ( http://boards.cannabis.com/grow-loun...l-dilemma.html ), I should DEFINITELY not be lying to my dad!!!

So I basically spent 2 hours filling him in on about 4 years' worth of news... starting with an abusive relationship I hid from my family... to the REAL reason I kicked Jeff out... to my growing.

I feel like a million bucks this morning.

We had the most intersting talk about cannabis- about the plant, the breeding, the history of indoor cultivation, my personal reasons for growing, the demise of my operation due to the big breakup, the current political mood in our state, efforts to legalize, the evil pharmaceuticals industry, his own fight with depression (which I had been unaware of), and both of our distaste for mainstream drug treatments for physiological and emotional illnesses.

As it turns out we connected on a level that I think has been missing for much of my life... my parents were divorced when I was very young and there has always been a distance between us. It just got a LOT smaller.

So I guess the moral of this story is that openness feels good- clean, really. (And now I won't have to be all weird when I ask him to help me install a solar array on my roof, lol! )

stinkyattic Reviewed by stinkyattic on 02-28-2007. In the spirit of ballsy honesty... ... after the Yeag went out on a limb yesterday and posted that thing in the general lounge, I was feeling all warm and fuzzy and like it was time to get a bunch of shit off my chest. Let me start by saying, sweetie, you're an inspiration to me. So last night I had dinner with my dad. I ADORE my father. He's a great guy. I posted a long time ago about how he stumbled across my ez cloner -FULL :eek:- last time he was in town visiting. And of course I laughed it off, shut the closet Rating: 5

[BobBong]

Awesome stuff stinky..

Life is like a box of chocolates.. not only do you not know what you're going to get.. but it can be pretty damn sweet at times.

Enjoy,
Bob.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

I myself always prefer the open honest route. I understand discretion, but there sometimes comes a point where more damage is done by trying to hide things.

[kdspecial]

Somone once told me A phrase after I told them I had been lying to a Gf for three years about not smoking Pot when I was regularly well daily.

You only hurt yourself by lying. because when its all said and done. Your the only one who gets hurt. The other person never finds out about it. But you have to live with the guilt.

Its pretty dang tru....

Glad as always to hear your doing well Stinky.

kd

[stinkyattic]

Thanks KD, as always, for your wisdom!

Yeah, this has been a time of MAJOR personal growth for me.

In the last year I have:
-Been arrested
-Had my house broken into 3 times
-Found my live-in BF in shall we say a comprimising position when I came home early from work
-Had said BF steal from me, trash my house, and run over my ankle with his Blazer
-Broken down my beloved grow room
-Confessed my big secret to my boss and father
-and met the man of my dreams...

Not the life I had expected; me, a mousy nerdy state worker with a mortgage, a college degree, and a station wagon in the driveway, but DAMN I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[TheGreenFog]

Damn, Stinky. That's some good shit. And I mean it. I'm glad you are feeling "spiritually cleansed" for lack of a better term. I won't hijack your thread by going on about my own issues with honesty, but I will agree with you and KD about the importance of it. It makes you feel so much better.

Unfortunately, I have had to hide things from people my whole life. Some of those secrets came out. Some did not. Skeletons suck.

I've recently tried to make a personal goal to be honest with as many people as I logically can without putting myself in danger of persecution. The most important person is my gf, though, and I've never felt the need to be THIS honest with anyone before.

It's good...goooooood. (Bruce Almighty)


I'm glad you're feelin' good today, Stinky. Hope your whole day goes just as good!


The Fog :rastasmoke:

[stinkyattic]

I've recently tried to make a personal goal to be honest with as many people as I logically can without putting myself in danger of persecution. :

Yeah, that's why I made this thread actually.

I feel very strongly that canncom needs the occasional breath of fresh air as it were; so many of us feel persecuted, feel the need to be secretive- and then there's all the kids talking about hiding shit from their parents- I just don't think it's healthy to have to sneak around, and that is why I resent the anti-cannabis laws so strongly, because they make even people who WANT to be honest and ethical and open turn into sort of hermits or outcasts because we fear the judgement of those around us, and of the law.

Most of my close friends knew of my grow actually, and they all asked, "Aren't you worried about being so open?"
But when it comes down to it, I knew I could trust them and count on them (as I found out when I bailed- they really came through), and they appreciate that trust as the gift it is, and wouldn't betray it.

[Bree1978]

Yeah, that's why I made this thread actually.

I feel very strongly that canncom needs the occasional breath of fresh air as it were; so many of us feel persecuted, feel the need to be secretive- Most of my close friends knew of my grow actually, and they all asked, "Aren't you worried about being so open?"
But when it comes down to it, I knew I could trust them and count on them (as I found out when I bailed- they really came through), and they appreciate that trust as the gift it is, and wouldn't betray it.

This thread is as exactly the way you stated it, "a breath of fresh air"....Thanks, from a pretty honest person.

Congrats (again) on meeting someone special and now for bridging the gap between you and your father. You must be on cloud 9!
Isn't life funny? You can infact walk through a pile of shit and somehow still come out smelling like roses. Enjoy it sweetie, you deserve it.

Bree

[TheGreenFog]

Since everyone is all happy and such...I think I should take this time to recommend searching for the "The Secret" thread by CanaDanks Inc and going to that link. There is a 90 minute movie (I know...sigh) that is about being positive and stuff. My gf watched it and she's also having a GREAT day today. I have not watched it yet, but will soon. Just thought I'd throw it out there. Good brings good...and visa versa.


The Fog :rastasmoke:

[freewheelinfrank]

Thanks KD, as always, for your wisdom!

Yeah, this has been a time of MAJOR personal growth for me.

In the last year I have:
-Been arrested
-Had my house broken into 3 times
-Found my live-in BF in shall we say a comprimising position when I came home early from work
-Had said BF steal from me, trash my house, and run over my ankle with his Blazer
-Broken down my beloved grow room
-Confessed my big secret to my boss and father
-and met the man of my dreams...

Not the life I had expected; me, a mousy nerdy state worker with a mortgage, a college degree, and a station wagon in the driveway, but DAMN I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Stinky, dear, - sounds like you need to consider a move to a nicer part of the country - check out the mountain air we have out here in northern La-La Land