What does being bi have to do with it? I'm also bi. I've had at least 3 serious relationships with women, and numerous casual and not so casual dating and sex experiences with women. But I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything by being faithful to my fiance. If I was in love with a woman, I wouldn't sleep with anyone but her either. My thing is, if I'm in love, I don't even want to sleep with someone else. Sure I see people that I think are attractive, but I never feel a twinge or a regret, like I'm missing out on something. I literally don't have the faintest desire to be with someone else. The very thought leaves me cold. I don't feel limited at all. If anything, I feel more free than I did before we met. We have such intimacy that I feel I can do, say, or be anything and any way around him.

And I never said you didn't love your wife. I said that when we (Papi and I) fell in love, the idea of swinging didn't hold any appeal for us.

And one question I keep asking, that other people I've asked haven't answered either is: What is it that makes the relationship between you and your wife special? Is there something that you guys have/do that you don't have/do with anyone else in the world that makes your relationship unique? If you two are sharing the most intimate bond with others, then what bonds you two together so closely that it merits taking marriage vows? (I think the concept behind this question is hard to express in text. I'll keep trying.) Like, what makes you, you?

I also think your mixing sex with love.
Well I certainly hope I am, since I am going to be taking vows to love this man the rest of my life. Our relationship is such that, even when he ties me up, pulls my hair, and calls me a dirty slut, it's still lovemaking.

If you asked your husband about it would he object? If he asked you about it would you object?
I stated in my previous post that when we were relatively early in our relationship (about 4 months into it), we discussed swinging. Then, as it became apparent we weren't going to actually do any swinging, we had a discussion about it. It turned out that neither one of us wanted to do it, but we were each afraid of disappointing the other one, so we didn't say anything about it to each other. It was at this point that we professed our love to one another, and became strictly monogamous. Hell, two weeks prior to that, one of his female friends went down on me following a night of partying. When we had the "i don't wanna try swinging" "neither do i" "i'm in love with you" "i'm in love with you too" discussion, he confessed that his feelings were really hurt when I let that girl eat me, but that he didn't want to hold me back if I really wanted to be with other people. So then, I confessed to him that I felt like I had betrayed my own heart and feelings for him by being with someone else.

So see, when I'm in love with someone, I don't want to be with anyone else, so I can't quite wrap my brain around why someone would want to.

Whew. That was like writing a book!