Demeter,
If you'd like to explore some video erotica with a less male oriented approach, I recommend looking into movies by Candida Royalle. An adult perfomer during the so called "Golden Age" of porn, Candida moved into writing, directing, and producing her own line of women and couple's oriented erotica, with more focus on plot, foreplay, and sensuality than your typical gynecological closeup and spurting fluids type porn that is aimed (oh that was a bad pun) at men. Click her name to go to her very tasteful website with the discreet splash page.