Was an unhappy lesbian. She "experimented" with heterosexuality and became pregnant. She had a daughter. Eventually she decided she wanted a sex change- she wasn't a lesbian, she was a person trapped in the wrong gender body. He has now gone through his change and is now a successful speaker for the trans-gender community.

To put it mildly, his oh so Catholic mother was NOT happy with her child. (This woman has 3 foot high statues of Mary and Jesus in her living room- just to give you an idea!) Even after the operations, Mom called him by his former feminine name and introduced him as "my daughter". That was about 5 years ago. Mom has since relented and calls him by his masculine name and introduces him as "my child". She's still not very happy, but is now accepting her son. I kept telling her that it's what's in the package (spirit/soul) that is important, not whether it is wrapped in blue or pink paper (the body)!

Actually, my friend's child accepted it the best. She calls him "maddy" (Mom/daddy) and just refers to him as her parent. She is quite at ease with the whole situation.

Me, I filled in as the "other-mother"- I gave my friend the support he needed and listened a lot. I guess I did OK, since he is far happier now than he was as a lesbian. Parents may not be accepting at first, but eventually, they will come around. If you do come out, find a good, non-judgmental friend who listens. They can be a lifesaver! You may have to wait for years, enduring your parent's disapproval, but a parent's love is (or should be) unconditional. My kids are both straight-edgers, while I'm an old hippie, wiccan, pothead--but we love and accept each other anyway.- Granny:hippy: