Birdgirl - birth control option for me?

[birdgirl73]

If you've never tried a diaphragm, Monkey, you ought to at least keep that on your to-be-considered list. When I was dating my husband and even the first year we were married (when he was in residency) and we weren't together regularly enough to justify the expense of the Pill, it worked great. You don't have deal with the de-sensitivizing effect of condoms, if that's something that troubles you, and it's an effective barrier method. Besides, you're young and still have the energy to deal with the prep-insertion details. We're so old now that we just wanna roll over and jump each other without having to expend any extra energy. By this stage in life, we gotta strike when the mood is hot or else one of us'll fall asleep.

[Gatekeeper777]

yes i thought i would put a lil something in there to stir the pot (pardon the pun) If my suggestions or coment are not welcome here i will gladly stay out.
Just giving you other options as my wife and i have been there done that.

[slipknotpsycho]

lol you must have a hell of a man to offer to have a vesectamy...

my wife brought it up once, even said if i had it we could have unprotected sex (my only real quaral with the sex we have now.. condoms take away so much feeling.... bleh!) i still refused... shiiiiiiiiit..... a needle in the sack? NO THANKS!

oh cause i just now went over one of birdgirls responses (the post i'm referring to should be kinda obvious ) i'm just trying to let you know, you have one dedicated man... don't just let him walk out the door if it comes to that..


and bird c'mon... lol if a guy tried to pull away right as that first O was about to hit if he was downtown... YOU'D SNAP OUR NECK! (lol sorry i had to post it, it's actually from a stand up comedy..)

[birdgirl73]

yes i thought i would put a lil something in there to stir the pot (pardon the pun) If my suggestions or coment are not welcome here i will gladly stay out.
Just giving you other options as my wife and i have been there done that.

You're more than welcome here, Gatekeeper. I just hope since you're in a women's forum, you'll reply to us as women instead of as men. It reassures us when guys recognize that we don't have penises.

Slip, you almost lost me on that last one, but then I realized what you were referring to. (Have you by any chance had a nip or two of something containing ethanol this evening?) Because we wouldn't be likely to snap your neck if a guy pulled out as he was about to hit the top. But if it happened when we were, well, that'd be a different matter.

No neck-snapping, though, for me and my other half. If we ever got physical in the angry way, I'd be the loser. That's why we never do!

[slipknotpsycho]

no no no, that's not what i meant... i guess i have to go into detail...

when a guy's down there eating... and right when you were about to reach the big O we pulled away... you'd snap our necks..

but again, it was just something i saw in a stand up (martin lawrence - you so crazy) for some reason i found it fit to put it here? (i live to break seriousness with humor... helps keep from anyone getting to serious and generally in better moods o.0) but the rest of my post was serious.. she's got one serious man to volunteer for that lol....

and about the ethanol.... NO OF COURSE NOT!

[birdgirl73]

OK, now I see what you mean. Well, yeah, that could be a tense-making situation with the pull-away, but most of us are capable enough that if we were that close, we'd just finish ourselves off! (And not let you watch, either. That would serve you right for the early exit!)

You mean Smoking Monkey's got a serious man to volunteer for the vasectomy? I'd say she has a very giving one, but I think they're wise to wait until their childbearing years are closer to being over. Vasectomies really are not scary at all. Nearly every past-35 adult man I know who's had his kids has had one, including my dad, and Dave's going to make an appointment within the next month himself. We started talking about it after he read this thread late last night and he said he felt strongly about doing that. (He's more worried about an accidental surprise pregnancy than I realized.)

[napolitana869]

hey birdgirl I have a question about diaphragms. I love nuvaring but I had my well woman check up last month and the doctor told me that a medication that I take makes it less effective. Stopping this other medication isnt really an option right now, and my boyfriend and I dont like condoms. Do you think a diaphragm would be a good back up method? And is it hard to put in and take out?

[slipknotpsycho]

OK, now I see what you mean. Well, yeah, that could be a tense-making situation with the pull-away, but most of us are capable enough that if we were that close, we'd just finish ourselves off! (And not let you watch, either. That would serve you right for the early exit!)

You mean Smoking Monkey's got a serious man to volunteer for the vasectomy? I'd say she has a very giving one, but I think they're wise to wait until their childbearing years are closer to being over. Vasectomies really are not scary at all. Nearly every past-35 adult man I know who's had his kids has had one, including my dad, and Dave's going to make an appointment within the next month himself. We started talking about it after he read this thread late last night and he said he felt strongly about doing that. (He's more worried about an accidental surprise pregnancy than I realized.)

oh i'm not exactly scared of the thought of what they'll be doing...

it's the needle in the sack that scares the living hell outta me.. i hate needles (sincei was stitched up like a rag doll after i was attacked by a cat at 5) i've offically passed out 2x in the dentist chair now, and the last one i started having seisure type shaking... the dentist wasn't even gonna finish the job >.< i was like bullshit, that was the last needle you needed right? "yes" well then get to work!

lol a needle in the sack.. i just couldn' ttake that..

[birdgirl73]

hey birdgirl I have a question about diaphragms. I love nuvaring but I had my well woman check up last month and the doctor told me that a medication that I take makes it less effective. Stopping this other medication isnt really an option right now, and my boyfriend and I dont like condoms. Do you think a diaphragm would be a good back up method? And is it hard to put in and take out?

I found it to be a good method for me, and as an extra backup to the Nuvaring, I'll bet it'd be great. If you make an appointment to get fitted for a diaphragm, ask to see if your doctor/nurse practitioner agrees.

Putting it in takes a little practice at first, I found. It's a little rubbery disk with a strong ring around the edge. There's a picture on the link below, along with detailed instructions. You put spermicide cream or gel around the edge and then in the center of the diaphragm, which'll go up against your cervix. To put it in you fold it in half so it's narrow enough to insert into yourself, and you basically insert it so the top end is up as far as it can go toward the back of the vagina, and when you let go, it springs into place, held in place on the front edge by your pubic bone and on the back edge by your levator muscles. The trouble I mentioned above about it springing across the bathroom like a Frisbee happens occasionally when my hands are slippery from the gel and in the attempted folding-before-insertion process, it just goes SPROINGG!and gets away from me. No worries about internal Frisbee problems. Once it's in, it's in.
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The advantages as I see them are it's easy, safe, and relatively inexpensive. The disadvantages are that you have to use them if you want them to work and sometimes when I'm going with the mood and being spontaneous, I'm just too horny to stop the fun and go put it in. Also, you have to leave it in for at least six hours after sex, so you definitely have some "drip" afterwards from fluids, semen, and spermicide. And getting it out can be a challenge. You have to squat down and reach your finger (can't have long nails easily and use a diaphragm) up to the front edge of the ring, the one that's hooked behind your pubic bone, and sort of scrape it down and out.

At your clinic or doctor's office, they'll often have you practice putting in and taking it out the appropriately sized fitting ring while you're still there to make sure you can do it. Oh! There is one other advantage, and it's this. I use it for this purpose every month or two, actually. If you want to have sex during your period, you can put your diaphragm in and it'll keep period sex from being so messy because your mentrual flow will just collect in the little dome of the diaphragm. Helps protect your sheets and bedding a little more during that time of the month, assuming you feel like having sex when you're having your period.

Hope that helps. Good luck, Napolitana!

[birdgirl73]

Napolitana, don't let the name of that link above fool you. It should take you to the iVillage contraception information, but they have it coded so it shows up as a promo instead of a specific diaphragm link. (Those marketing rats!)