If you've never tried a diaphragm, Monkey, you ought to at least keep that on your to-be-considered list. When I was dating my husband and even the first year we were married (when he was in residency) and we weren't together regularly enough to justify the expense of the Pill, it worked great. You don't have deal with the de-sensitivizing effect of condoms, if that's something that troubles you, and it's an effective barrier method. Besides, you're young and still have the energy to deal with the prep-insertion details. We're so old now that we just wanna roll over and jump each other without having to expend any extra energy. By this stage in life, we gotta strike when the mood is hot or else one of us'll fall asleep.