need advice on a girl baddly!!!

[slipknotpsycho]

i sent a chick to a nut house before when i broke up with her... i felt like shit for years and years after that... just recently managed to make contact with her and 'make things right' although it didn't take away the pain she'd already dealt with... atleast she knew what happend really...

slipknotpsycho Reviewed by slipknotpsycho on 02-21-2007. need advice on a girl baddly!!! background i dated this girl for maybe 4-5 months, before we dated she pretty much used me for sex, seriously i didn't even want to she would put me in a position where i could not say no. shes kind of crazy like diagnosed with bipolar disorder but i still loved her and liked being with her, rather than just the sex, her not so much at the beginning that is. well she lied to me A LOT. cheated on me actually, she told me at the end of the relationship i tried getting over it but i couldn't Rating: 5

[ReUp]

Seems to me like she's a sure-fuck...call her when you're horny...







jk

[napolitana869]

You cant ruin your life because shes unstable. This is coming from someone who was on the other end of a similar situation at one point in time, so I have a pretty good idea of what I'm talking about. You cant change her, and if you care about her at all dont do anything that she could even slightly think is leading her on. Crazy girls arent something you should mess with.

[jessem98]

wtf... that girl has no logic, hmmm let me cheat on my partner, expect to get away with it, make jokes at your expense and shes in the hospital because you broke up with her? She did that shit to herself and she has to live with her mistakes now, and how shes coping with her emotions is just ridiculous. My sister had an obsessive friend, and she just got rid of her by losing contact. dude this shit just IS NOT your fault and you need to realize that, cause the sooner you do the sooner you can erase this mark upon your life for good.

[smoke it]

this girl = crazy bitch. stop taliking to her, looking at her, and thinking about her completley. even if she is mentally ill, just walk away and dont look back.

[mackSwell]

It is easy for a caring person like you to get caught up in a spiral with someone like this. It is good that you care about what happens to her, but folks here are right - You can not let her keep pulling you in to her unhealthy life.

It is NOT your fault that she is mentally ill, nor that she is in the hospital. Her telling you that is it is your fault is emotional abuse, as were here comments about your music, her intereference with your talking to other girls, her nonsense with hugs/phone calls/sex with other guys.

This girl's Bipolar Disorder is currently out of control. Until she is stabilized on medication and has had a decent amount of therapy, she will be unable to have a healthy relationship (friend or otherwise) with anyone, and it will do her more harm than good to try. She cannot handle it. It makes her be bad to you, and bad to herself.

If/when she calls you or approaches you in person, simply say something like:

"I care about what happens to you, but you and I cannot have a relationship like we used to have. You need to focus on getting yourself well. When you are in a better place, I can be a friend to you, but nothing more. Until then, we need to keep our distance."

She'll likely keep trying... Then just say:

"<insert name>, get yourself well."

...and hang up, walk away, ignore her, whatever. Say it every time, and say nothing else. If you respond to her tears, her anger, her pleading, etc. in any way, you are giving her attention which will just encourage her bad behavior.

If she gets herself stabilized, it will be very clear to you in her new approach to you, and she will probably tell you the status of her meds, therapy, etc. to let you know that she is working on herself. Then you can be supportive of her, and try building a friendship (ONLY) with her if you wish - but be prepared for setbacks, and revert to your one line response if she gets off the path to mental health.

Remember - Guilt is like a bag of bricks; all you have to do is put it down. None of this is your fault or responsibility. Don't let yourself buy into that.

If you're having trouble letting go, remind yourself that it will not be helpful to her for you to be around her while she's out of control. If you have to, put a rubber band around your wrist, and whenever you feel yourself caving in to her antics or feeling guilty, give it a good SNAP. Train your brain not to fall into that trap. Your emotional health is at stake!

Best wishes.

[Not Enough Herb]

dude, what im about to say to you isnt being mean, its one man to another.

first off, you sound like a really really nice guy. maybe a little too nice. you thought about her needs to much. a relationship is both people getting equal attention.

second off, go back to that crazy bitch, reach in her pockets and pull out your balls and shove them back in your sac. no one should ever be controlled in a relationship. the decsion making should always be equal, or there is obvously some problems.

stay away from crazy girls man, there bad news. this one is just a attention seeking whore, the worst kind. she doesnt give a fuck about you, and she never did. she used you like a dildo and tossed your ass. learn your lesson this time bro, dont let women use you. A man with no balls gets no respect where it counts (ex. bedroom)

sorry to be such a prick, but i was in a relationship like yours. i snapped out of it, and im so glad i did. i met someone new, and i already have a better feeling about her than the crazy bitch i dated for a year. the relationship i have now is equal on all levels, not one person trying to control the other.

sorry for the long ass post, goodluck, post back if anything new happens

happy tokings

[Alien Intel]

"Always said i sucked at music and mind that music is my main goal in life."

firs tof all, Nobody ever sucks at music, you try, and if you try you progress then your bomb diggs.

This girl seems whacko. nobody needs someone that keeps puting them down, expecially when someones deliberately trying to put them down...

[EbelEyes]

It seems like you were a punching bag...

its good that you left.

"Always said i sucked at music and mind that music is my main goal in life."

From one musician to another, I would love to hear your stuff...

Got anything out there?

[Genuine17]

a few days ago last bell of the day study hall which we use to have together before i switched she called her friend in front of me and was trying to find a bunch of people under 18 to kick my ass and "i want to be there when it happens so i can go up and kick him in the face while hes on the ground" word for word of what she said.
than she lied to me and said she wasnt talking about me... with an evil ass grin on her face....
she eventually came out with the truth and told me that the phone call was about me...

im so sick of her shit!!

fucking crazy ass, i now never leave my house with out my buck.