turns out it is a girlie.
bad thing happened today, i had to rush to work this morning and a light must have been touching the girl all day, so its top got burned, i'm a lil bummed, 3 secondary branches were cut off (its on its stretching to node #10, but 8th node, and 9th node both had 3 spots were 2nd branching sprouted).

some tips of the top fan leaves were also the evermost slightly affected and i hope she recovers okay.