Try and hold out a little longer, OK, Gabee? Or maybe engineer things so you don't get in the situation where you suddenly find yourself being convinced or persuaded to have sex before you're really ready to.

If you're having to be "convinced" and then looking back on the situation afterwards with regret and/or memories of physical pain, that can be a pretty good indication that weren't really quite ready to take that step with them. Let yourself get to know them better and longer and see whether they're really worth bestowing your intimacy upon.