is it just me? mental problems that turn to physical problems with sex

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I thought he "bruised" me too, vileo...I didnt think it was possible tho.. Birdgirl, inform us!

[SwirlyMass]

I've found that if you (the girl) is really excited it doesn't hurt, well it does, but its a good hurt, like when you get your hair pulled or nails in your back.

[birdgirl73]

Sorry, y'all. I'm only just now circling back around to this thread, and I see you wrote your posts a few days back. My apologies.

Vileox, I don't really know what to tell you, and I'm not sure I fully understand how your pain works. You say it hurts more sometimes when you do it doggie style-rough, and that it sometimes also hurts afterwards? Or were you saying something else?

I figure everyone's constructed a little differently up in there as far as where nerves are and what's sensitive to pain. I know, for instance, that women who have tipped uteruses can experience sexual pain sometimes, but I think anyone can experience pain when your partner's very large or too rough or is thrusting too deeply and too hard. I think it's just a matter of finding the positions that work best for you and don't cause pain. And it might also be worth a trip to the ob-gyn to make sure you don't have something like an ovarian cyst that could be aggravating the problem. I think it is possible to get bruised internally. I know that happens a lot in cases of sexual assault, so it makes sense that it could happen after rough sex, too. This is why I don't like it rough. Dealing with size issues is rough enough!

[dutch.lover]

since we are talking about anatomy and stuff right now, i have a question for you BG. I have had a PAP smear done twice now, and both doctors mentioned that my cervix is off to the side, or "kind of around the corner" as they put it. it took a while for them to get the cervix swabbed because of this. Will this affect my fertility? i think they would have said something if it would... and also it's not like sperm can see anyways, so they won't get lost. lol.

[birdgirl73]

Hey, Dutch Lover. That's definitely be a question for the doctor, but my guess would be that it would likely not affect your fertility. My cervix is the same way because of a slightly tipped uterus, and I got pregnant six times. Was only able to carry one baby to full term, however, but not because of the tipped uterus, most likely, just bad luck and probably scarring from the first Cesarean.

My doctor, who back then was a male doctor who got very clinical and scientific when he was talking, said that if a woman has an "intact, unscarred (from disease or surgery) cervical os (mouth) and is having intercourse that includes ejaculation when your husband is at the full depth of intromission," the cervical os is going come in contact with enough semen that some of those sperm cells can make their way up there inside and fertilize an ovum. From what little I've read, that's apparently true--that the pathway through the cervix is what really matters, not the direction the cervix itself points in.

If for some reason they thought your curvature was such that it would impair fertility, that'd be an easy workaround with just a little tiny cervical catheter. They'd do it just like artificial insemination and BAM! you'd be pregnant as a goose. I'm already excited for you!

I changed from Dr. Formal Clinician to Dr. Casually Talkative Sweetheart about 12 years ago and have felt much less uptight when I'm in her presence than I always did in his. I respond much better to a good stirrup-side manner and they might as well be easy-going and down to earth when talking about such intimate matters.

[dutch.lover]

thanks for the reply, i had forgotten about asking about this, until now. The catheter thing is really interesting. Don't be excited for me yet tho! I'm not planning on having kids for about 7-8 years probably.

[socks]

Hello ladies!
Not been here for a while, back having a quick browse and came across this post.

I've had some discomfort with my boyfriend and often find it comes down to me not being fully relaxed or still being a little sore from a rough session. I've learnt now that I can ride through the discomfort, which positions are best and my boyfriend now knows when I'm ready to be take him harder and deeper. Communication is key.

It's great to read that others have similar "problems". I was a little worried about it a few weeks back and hearing what others say has defo put my mind at rest.
Thank you!

[TheSmokingMonkey]

birdgirl gave you good advice and I just want to second the idea of trying out different positions until you find one where you can control the depth (not him). it's normal to feel that type of pain (so don't worry that something is wrong with you) - just learn which things cause it so you can avoid them.