Quote Originally Posted by Weedhound
My first thought would be that if you had that 3-5 years to pretty do whatever you wanted that it would not be enough time to build what you want which is fatherhood and family.

You mentioned not having children the "old fashioned way." How important to you is having children....any way? I'm not trying to be snotty here, I'm just trying to get an idea of where your priorities are in the scheme of things. You have children normally and perhaps share a year or two of their lives or....?

Then there is the matter of making each day worth living....you have already said you will not do the sedentary life again. I understand what you mean by that....minutes become hours and days when all you can do is barely slog through and it you are not even sure if there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Have you spoken to people who have tried these choices and heard both sides of each option? No one really knows except those who have been there.

I wish you the best of luck.....and will be curious as to which option you choose. Take Care

PS I'm afraid I don't have an answer to your question.
Having children down the road is very important to me. I have a dynasty to continue as silly as it sounds. I'm number IV, it's something I have to continue. But I guess I can't do it either way, I can't be that selfish to die on them.

It's kinda like, you already been through hell once, you become helpless, you can't do things you enjoy. I'm past that, I can function the way I want to, I'm happy as I ever been, I love life. I don't want to change back to that period I want to forget. Chemotherapy was hell, I already lost 8 months of my life to this disease, just when you see the light, it's taken away again. Makes me want to cry, but I can't because I don't want to be weak.

The surgery is basically removing dead cancer tissue around my kidney. Very complex surgery that comes with a lot of risks, my urologist told me it's a necessity if I want to live in the long-run. I spoken to others, and read about what would happen if I didn't do surgery. Almost everyone in that situation got cancer again within 3-5 years.

And thank you for listening.