I don't think I can be objective with this question, THCBongman. I have a 20-year-old son, and if he were facing the same situation you are, I'd be on my knees, begging and pleading with him to have the surgery. I also think it's hard for a woman to be able to really address this area anyway, but as a mom, I see why your family wants you to have it. I know you've been through hell. There's no guarantee, of course, that you won't go through hell of some type whether you have it or not. I would just hope that you'd take every chance at living a longer life. I'm so sorry you're faced with this.