it's not off the plate yet... he said he was going to try and get a job first, then if he couldn't find work he'd join... so if he gets there and still can't find work, i guess he will be joining....

oh another reason this worries me, is he's 17, we have absolutely no family in TN or near it, the closest is probably north carolina, and he doesn't even know them... all the family he knows, lives here, so it's not like he could turn to someone if he gets in trouble out there or something, once he gets there he's on his own....