Sex is a part of a relationship. OK, I'm not the "usual" gal- I have a killer IQ and think a bit differently than most people. When I went looking for a husband, I looked for brains and a good personality! There were a lot of dudes who were a lot more handsome than my hubby (there was Jerry the barber- shallow but killer looks, as an example), but looks don't last, while character does. My hubby has an IQ about 10-20 points lower than mine (but since I'm in the top 2%, pickings are slim). Since he's now in his mid60s, sex is a minor part of our relationship. When you are young, it seems to be the "be all and end all", but as you get older, it's nice, but WHO YOU ARE is far more important. Treat your gal as an absolute queen- open doors, give her flowers, do a lot of foreplay, ask her opinion (on ANY subject) and respect it. Do all that romantic stuff...she will love it! Then one day, if you feel you still are not doing as good in bed with her as you think you can, both of you get really stoned and you ask her "What turns you on?" If she's stoned enough, she will tell you. - Granny:stoned: