I'm definitely looking for the female perspective on this. I have always been shockingly nervous when it comes to sex, and it has always scared the shit out of the girls I'm trying to hook up with. They love the shit out of me during regualr daytime interaction and a lot think I'm fun and different from a lot of the other guys. But the pressure I put on myself to orgasm so they can feel like they got me off or a least weren't left feeling like they didn't get me off or the experence was lame is off the charts. I think I'm just going to try to have sex 4-5 times with out me orgasming and that might give me a new perspective, even though the reasons I've alway felt I needed to were ethical in that I wanted her to feel like she made me orgasm, but which in the end made the girls nervous as hell maybe not understanding me or the vibe that that pressure was giving them. I'm 99.99% sure I'm way older than you, I'm just looking for a new perspective maybe and sometime direct from the girls can give that.