I'm so fucked up right now.....

[potsmokingnome]

My wife told me today that she is not happy with our marriage...it came as absoulute utter shock. yeah we fight but I didn't know she was this unhappy. We almost even took a break because of all of it..

I'm in such a fucked up space right now I don't know what to do. I love my wife with all my heart, and it hurts so much to know she's unhappy due to our marriage....she's at work now, and I'm sitting home all alone, and I can't stop crying. I have nobody to talk too...I'm such a mess. God damnit...I don't know what to do...

I love her so much, and she say she still loves me too, she just not happy...that hurt so much to hear her say that..I don't know....I want the fighting to stop, and for our marriage to be better, I just don't know what to do anymore.... I'm sorry for posting this I'm just in so much pain.....

potsmokingnome Reviewed by potsmokingnome on 01-31-2007. I'm so fucked up right now..... My wife told me today that she is not happy with our marriage...it came as absoulute utter shock. yeah we fight but I didn't know she was this unhappy. We almost even took a break because of all of it.. I'm in such a fucked up space right now I don't know what to do. I love my wife with all my heart, and it hurts so much to know she's unhappy due to our marriage....she's at work now, and I'm sitting home all alone, and I can't stop crying. I have nobody to talk too...I'm such a mess. God Rating: 5

[Nochowderforyou]

Why are you fighting? Answer that, solve why, and work on not falling into that situation again. Talk to her and ask why she is unhappy. Try to fix things with her and don't become another "50% of all marriages end in divorce" statistic.

Consider marriage consuling (sp?).

Talk to your wife, as none of us know what's really bothering her. Only she knows, so ask her and talk with her. If you love her, try and work it out.

Good luck.

[potsmokingnome]

yeah when she gets home we are going to have a long talk...I just don't wanna loose my wife, and I want her to be happy again.

and yeah we are considering counselling...just so broke, hope we can find some free counselling....

thanx chowder your allways helpful, and friendly.

[Nochowderforyou]

Yes, talking is good. Find what is bothering her and try and fix it, and maybe tell her if anything is bothering you, so she can work on that as well. Marriage has to come from both sides, not just the one.

I'm glad I could be of some help. I hope it works out the best for you.

[bong_man]

dude figure out what is upsetting her and try fix it and treat her the way someone you love deserves to be treated (not saying u dont just to high to attempt to find the delete key!)

[friendowl]

nothing last forever
if you are doing everything in your power
to make her happy and she still is not
then maybe its time to look at things with your head
instead of your heart.
when two peopl elike/love each other it is suppoes to be
a nice thing. if one of the two isnt happy then it aint going to work

it may work for a while longer but in the long run
things are just going to get worse.

there is no easy way thru this
just be real about the situation

[potsmokingnome]

I have to figure this out, I know there is stuff I need to do to fix it, a major one is I get so damn defensive all the time, I don't even realize it most of the time till its to late.

and when we fight we say horrible stuff to each other, I know that has to stop as well. I just want my wife to be happy. I love her so damn much...thanks for listening (reading). I want to fix this, I want my marriage to be better then what it has become. I just hope I don't loose her, cause if I can't make her happy...I want her to be happy atall cost, even if that means a seperation...I reallly really hope it doesn't come to that, I love my wife, and she loves me, and I hope we can work this out....

[Its a Plant]

Sometimes love isn't enough...

If you tell her what you're telling us, then all you can do is see what comes of it and pray that things all get worked out.

Good luck man. ~

[MaryjaneAndHashley]

yeah when she gets home we are going to have a long talk...I just don't wanna loose my wife, and I want her to be happy again.

and yeah we are considering counselling...just so broke, hope we can find some free counselling....

thanx chowder your allways helpful, and friendly.

Its true, talking can solve a lot. I somehow feel like if she read ur posts she would change her mind , u seem to love her soo much.

Anyways, I sincerely hope it goes well, good luck.

[potsmokingnome]

thanks for everyone's input...I've finally stopped crying, and my head hurts like a bitch...thinking about smoking a joint, but I dunno if that would be a good idea..