I have to figure this out, I know there is stuff I need to do to fix it, a major one is I get so damn defensive all the time, I don't even realize it most of the time till its to late.

and when we fight we say horrible stuff to each other, I know that has to stop as well. I just want my wife to be happy. I love her so damn much...thanks for listening (reading). I want to fix this, I want my marriage to be better then what it has become. I just hope I don't loose her, cause if I can't make her happy...I want her to be happy atall cost, even if that means a seperation...I reallly really hope it doesn't come to that, I love my wife, and she loves me, and I hope we can work this out....