Yeah I agree with you birdgirl. All guys want to be pornstar sized but when that is the case it usually causes TONS of problems! Average is average because that's what's natural and what works! There is nothing wrong with being average. I am also built quite tightly, and while it's nice that when having sex it's not like throwing a hot dog down a hallway...if I havent' had sex in a few days it's kinda painful to begin with even when we use lube (which is 99.9% of the time). Also, it gets annoying when there are so many positions in magazines like Cosmo, telling people how to get the guy to thrust DEEPER! While this works for some people, my boyfriend is quite blessed, so whenever we try a position remotely deep...it always hurts me! I kinda yell at him (not in a mean way) "Are you trying to poke a hole right thru me?!" Lol it sounds funny, but it gets annoying... basically- size matters, but big size isn't all it's cracked up to be. Could you imagine your girlfriend breaking into tears whenever you have sex cause it hurts so bad?